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gcortez55 liked Mel5BradyO's blog post Backswing? Standstill?
Mar 25, 2015
only1sue commented on Mel5BradyO's blog post Backswing? Standstill?
"Mel, you do need Spring, you need to be able to walk outside and do all the spring things, sort the wardrobe, buy something new, have coffee in the sun, you know all the things that lift your spirits. Six months is hard, the whole first year is…"
Mar 7, 2015
Callie2 commented on Mel5BradyO's blog post Backswing? Standstill?
"I am sorry for your loss. Grief can be a roller coaster of many emotions and can take a long time. Until we deal with all these feelings, we can't heal the way we need to. Everyone is different as far as how long it takes. I am glad you are…"
Mar 6, 2015
Mel5BradyO commented on RGL Events's blog post My Own Two Feet by Michele Neff Hernandez
"Your words are very helpful to me today. It covers all the things I am going through and explains my muddled thinking. I was doing so well building my house of cards back up and I don't know what happened but they toppled again. Thank you for…"
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Mel5BradyO commented on only1sue's blog post learning to think differently
"I like your blog. I've been going through changes as well and I realized it there for a bit and was very positive, but I had a grief moment and now am at that point where I just want to deal. Your blog was helpful and helped me realize that…"
Feb 26, 2015
Mel5BradyO replied to Hayley_A's discussion Where is everyone from?
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Feb 26, 2015
Mel5BradyO replied to audreypellicano's discussion Healthy Living After Loss
"I fall into the can't sleep category. I can sleep away from home, just not at home unless I take something to help. Plus, I have to have noise, though I have got better about this and do not leave the t.v. on all night long. I also fit into the…"
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Mel5BradyO commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly widowed
"It has been a crazy week. So crazy that I did not realized that the 6 month anniversary of my husband passing was this week. I felt so guilty. How could I forget something like that? Yes, I've been getting out and about and doing things and…"
Feb 26, 2015
gennaswife commented on Mel5BradyO's blog post My New Normal
"I feel the same way- read all the grief blogs, the books - I'm ready to take the test. Lol. But he's still not here and it's hitting me that things will never be the same- 2, 3 years not to be happy feels overwhelming. Can we really…"
Dec 5, 2014
Mel5BradyO commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"joe'swife: I love that saying:  "I promised to spend the rest of my life with you. Then I realized you spent the rest of your life with me.""
Nov 20, 2014
Mel5BradyO commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"I'm almost 3 months into this as well, MickeysLove.  I went back to work maybe two weeks after he passed.  My job was real good about it and they have been wonderful during my crying spells.  They all keep telling me how strong I…"
Nov 20, 2014
Ellery commented on Mel5BradyO's blog post My New Normal
"I felt just as you did. I was impatient and wanted to know the grief counselor to provide me with a grief end date.  I thought that after a specific period of time, there would magically be an off switch. At two years and 10 months out, I see…"
Nov 18, 2014
only1sue commented on Mel5BradyO's blog post My New Normal
"If you do skip through to the end without going through the grief process someone tells you their pet goldfish has died and you end up in a pile of mush, grief has to come out somewhere.  I guess a lot of people are telling you early days yet…"
Nov 17, 2014
Mel5BradyO replied to amatxlatina's discussion Upcoming Holiday Season
"I'm more nervous about how it will be spending my first holiday season without him.  His family wants me to attend their Thanksgiving and Christmas gatherings. I don't know what to do. We use to volunteer at Thanksgiving to deliver…"
Nov 17, 2014

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Backswing? Standstill?

Posted on March 5, 2015 at 7:42am 2 Comments

I know it is normal to go backward in my grief -- that's what I've been told in my Grief Share class and on the widow websites. It has been 6 months since my husband died. During that time, I've celebrated four of the biggest holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's and Valentine's Day) and what would have been my 7th wedding anniversary. I've made it through it all with few down times, but otherwise I've been okay. The week of Thanksgiving was horrendous as that's when I happened to…


My New Normal

Posted on November 17, 2014 at 6:29am 3 Comments

So, here I am, back single again.  My husband passed away on August 24th.  This is my new normal: Living my life without the love of my life.  Truthfully, I've done fairly well.  I haven't totally lost it and curled up in a ball and not left my bed for days, though I would like to.  Some part of me will not allow it.  I don't know if I'm headed in that direction or what.  When I think about it, I wonder to myself why I don't just let go.  Why am I not wallowing in self pity, laying in my…


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At 1:51pm on November 14, 2014, LifesAJourney said…

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