"Don, The Suicide Hotline has become my best friend. I have called them four times since my husband died. What's so wonderful about them is that they understand the pain, and talk to you as long as you need to talk. They aren't trying to…"
"Don, I don't know how I lived through the first three months. I can't even remember specifics, just unbearable pain. I have a friend who lost her husband ten years ago, and she kind of talked me through it. She still does. Talk to somebody…"
"Don, I'm so sorry. I know how hard it is to do anything. Mike is right. You don't have to do anything big, your grief is so fresh. Try to eat every day, even just Ensure if you have no appetite. Try to talk to someone every day, just to…"
"Thank you so much, ShirleyB. You give me hope. It's been four months for me, and until I read your post I haven't seen much hope. Now I think there might be something to look forward to. I'm so grateful to you."
"I tried to take my wedding ring off, but I needed it. When I put it back on, I felt so much better. Like Gilbert was a little bit closer. I wear his wedding ring on my middle finger. It's very heavy, so it's a constant presence. I think…"
"Thank you for this Shelley. I do the three things to be grateful for every night, and tonight was the first night in a very long while that I just couldn't do it. I couldn't think of even one thing. Your reminding me to be grateful for the…"
"LadyAva, I think you're right. My husband was my protector. He always knew the right thing to do. He worked in County Government for years, heading a program called Welfare to Work. He learned everything about who to call for help, no matter…"
"I'm just so tired of being afraid all the time. I don't even really know what I'm afraid of. I'm afraid to go to sleep, I'm afraid when I wake up.
Maybe it's because our spouses passed so quickly. If it happened to him,…"
"Shelley, Mike is right.
This happens to me all the time. Today started out really badly, now tonight I'm more optimistic. Sometimes it seems to be hour to hour.
"Ambush" is the perfect word for it. The other day I was having a pretty…"
"Hi Melissa. I don't know if I can do this. In many ways I felt like I was doing better the first year but I think I was in shock. I put on my "mask" for the people around me. I had a life and a future to look forward…"
"going.on.slowly, I got your comment. I still haven't quite figured out the website myself.
One of my sons (I have twins in their 20's) has told me he's too busy to call very often, and I need to "get over it and get a life".…"
"Thank you so much. It's only been four months today since Gilbert died, and I feel so lost and incompetent. So many decisions had to be made so quickly, and now those death-related things have been taken care of for the most part. Now I have to…"
Hi Melissa. I don't know if I can do this. In many ways I felt like I was doing better the first year but I think I was in shock. I put on my "mask" for the people around me. I had a life and a future to look forward to. I have friends who care about me but I feel numb and flat. I want to feel grateful and appreciate the world around me but I really am just faking it. I can hardly stay awake and i force myself to stay in the moment. It's hard to understand the purpose of anything. I know there are people out there who have nothing and I should feel grateful for what I do have but I can't shake this fog I'm in.
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