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MidnightBear (Tony)
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TFH2015 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post The Missing Look
"I don't know, it may just be me but after coming through what we have, a healthy little dose of 'I'm getting it because I want it' is in order.  My wife was the practical one of the two of us but she usually told me to go…"
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BabushkaD (Debbie) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post The Missing Look
"Tony, I can understand this. I have always been a "good shopper", great at finding bargains, but also have a hard time passing up good deals and things I want, even if I don't really need them. This impulse is increasingly strong,…"
Aug 10
vintage56(barb) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"Tony, if she was hand quilting the Snoopy quilt, I would be happy to finish it for you, no charge."
Aug 10
vintage56(barb) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post The Missing Look
"my story is a little different, we were both very frugal. After he passed, it took me some time to get used to spending money on things we wouldn't have bought before. But it seems whenever I did, Frank would signal his approval by dropping me…"
Aug 10
SweetMelissa2007 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"I found a new wedding ring in his armoire for our upcoming wedding anniversary on the 4th of July. It was exactly what I had wanted for many years - a 3 one carat diamond ring - one for each kid to use for their wedding or whatever. How he knew this…"
Aug 9
SweetMelissa2007 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post The Missing Look
"That's called Retail Therapy ... I got to the point of dragging sacks out stores for the extra people I put on my shopping list. I rationalized they needed stuff ... I also bought clothes & shoes I was never going to wear. For some reason,…"
Aug 7
DIVA70 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post The Missing Look
"Thank you for posting....it bought back memories of me and my beloved Tony. I can hear him asking as we pulled into the store parking lot, "If I promise to behave can I come in with you?" Usually we had a list for the grocery store or we…"
Aug 7
MidnightBear (Tony) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"beautifulbreeze - I can definitely recognize your pain in losing someone so close.  My wife and I had just 2 months before she passed been talking with our financial planner about retirement.  We were planning to retire in 10 years while…"
Aug 6
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The Missing Look

I don't know about all of you, but I should not shop alone.  My wife knew this, and would be sure to go with me if I went anywhere other than the grocery store, and even that could be dangerous.  I always got what was on the list, but there was always something else that ended up in the cart. When we were shopping together, all it took was that glance from her and the thing went back on the self and I went back to pushing the cart.  Now don't get me wrong and think I was the only one who needed…See More
Aug 6
LadyG commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"Just checking in with you to say Hi Tony.  How are thing today ?"
Aug 5
Callie2 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"Athena, that is incredible. You were meant to find that ring, I believe. "
Aug 3
Athena53 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"I've told it before but worth retelling- Ron's wedding band disappeared when we stayed briefly in a hotel between the date we sold our last house and moved into the new one.  He'd started taking it off because he was losing…"
Aug 3
LadyG commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"Hi Tony, I sympathize wholeheartedly. Mine is on a different level but I feel your pain. We lived in the Northwest in a small rented house, and talk about projects!  We were working on one GIANT one that was our retirement dream. We had…"
Aug 2
MidnightBear (Tony) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"Thanks Dianne and Callie2 -  I have to say this just because it is amusing, we had a lot of computers and printers and network attached thigns in our house.  We both worked in the IT industry and it was part of our learning process to sort…"
Jul 31
Callie2 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"Tony, our anniversary was a couple weeks after he died. I went down in the basement one day and found the anniversary card in his box of batteries, a place he would be in and out of and I would never look. Yes, I read it and cried. I forgot our…"
Jul 30
Dianne in Nevada commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Finding Random Treasure
"I love your comment:  "a habit of collecting things beyond our house's ability to accommodate."  I'm there, too, and I think I'm going to use that explanation, Tony. It sounds much better than "pack rat"…"
Jul 30

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The Missing Look

Posted on August 6, 2018 at 5:39am 5 Comments

I don't know about all of you, but I should not shop alone.  My wife knew this, and would be sure to go with me if I went anywhere other than the grocery store, and even that could be dangerous.  I always got what was on the list, but there was always something else that ended up in the cart. When we were shopping together, all it took was that glance from her and the thing went back on the self and I went back to pushing the cart.  Now don't get me wrong and think I was the only one who…

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Finding Random Treasure

Posted on July 30, 2018 at 7:30am 9 Comments

My wife and I were not pack rats so much as we just had a habit of collecting things beyond our house's ability to accommodate :D.  We had hobbies that were varied and sometimes difficult to support in a small city house of 1200 sqft (and 1200 poorly laid out sqft at that).  So we had boxes in the attic and in our dens that were full of various projects we were working on.  Over the last 8 months I have wondered into my wife's den about 5 times, maybe a couple more than that when searching…

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In Search of a Pronoun

Posted on July 11, 2018 at 12:51pm 5 Comments

So I have been off for a while, very busy at work and taking a much needed vacation during the week of the fourth where I kept myself mostly away from electronics except for a few times where I acted as the group accountant :D.  It dawned on me while I was away how many times I was hunting for a pronoun.  People are probably saying what do you mean, hunting for a pronoun.  Well for 23 years, really 27, things weren't mine or hers, they were ours.  It wasn't me, it was us, there was no I it…

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Contradictions

Posted on April 17, 2018 at 9:42am 5 Comments

It is funny the contradiction I have become.  I complain about routines being messed up or being painful, and wanting to change things up.  But then I want the routine to be there when I am ready for it.  Yesterday I found out that a restaurant my wife and I went to frequently was filing Chapter 11.  This place is one of the oldest memories I have of taking my wife to dinner.  Yes they are a chain but I was a student and could only afford so much.  I freaked out a little bit about this…

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At 6:48am on February 4, 2018, Doug02122014 said…

Hi MidnightBear (Tony),

Thanks for the friend invite.  Feel free to message me anytime and I'll do my best to get back to you  

Take care. 

Doug 

At 3:09pm on January 19, 2018, ShirleyB said…

Happy Friday, Tony.  How are you doing this evening?

At 7:04pm on November 18, 2017, judy said…

Hi MidnightBear,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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