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chef (John) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post That feeling you forgot something!
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Tekwriter commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post That feeling you forgot something!
"I love that. I had been wearing mine and his rings on a chain also. I hope you won't mind if I steal your idea."
Sep 13
bblue5 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post That feeling you forgot something!
"I love what you did with the rings! I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do with our rings and this gave me an idea. I have the same chain. "
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SweetMelissa2007 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post That feeling you forgot something!
"I use to forget all the time Bob-O was dead as well as thinking to myself "where is that man? What is keeping him?" I also kept forgetting I was still grieving as the many years of the natural grief process dragged on ... At 11 years out,…"
Sep 11
Miss Em (Emma) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post The Missing Look
"Yesterday I bought a roll of wire. Wire - if you could see the shed and all the stuff that my hubby had you would get my surprise and frustration. But no matter how hard I looked and rummaged I could not find his roll. So I bought my own. Only cheap…"
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Miss Em (Emma) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post That feeling you forgot something!
"I love what you did with the rings! "
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That feeling you forgot something!

I am sure we have all had that feeling, you gather your things to leave for the day and you get this feeling you forgot something.   Sometimes you get to your destination only to find you really did forget something.  You forgot you lunch at home, your cell phone on your couch, or ID on your night stand.  And sometimes you never figure out what it was you thought you forgot.  I got up this morning, got dressed and had breakfast.  I made lunch and packed it into my bag.  Threw on my shoes and…See More
Sep 11
MidnightBear (Tony) commented on Dianne in Nevada's blog post I fell for a scammer ....
"The only thing about this that makes me laugh is the fact that he picked the wrong fish to try to reel in.  You caught his scam ad stopped him before it went too far.  I have had people suggest I consider these sites and I said to them,…"
Sep 11
Athena53 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"I just got rid of another weird item. Ron liked a little gin at the end of the day, with an olive in it.  In his last few months, we skipped the olive (he wasn't eating much and olives didn't taste good to him) and I don't think…"
Sep 3
Lifeunknown17 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"Tony. i love it.  I'm only at about 3 months in. but right there with you. I've already went through her dresser, funny. I picked out two pairs of socks that have that something special attached to them. I made a small stack of items…"
Aug 25
vintage56(barb) commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"Athena, I know what you mean. Frank kept falling and scraping his knees, even falling on a carpet would result in a bloody mess. So I had a large ziploc bag with oversize bandages, tape, etc, that I couldn't get rid of for many many months. I…"
Aug 22
Athena53 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Phantom Things
"It does take some getting used to, Tony, and we're all different.  I removed mine on what would have been Ron's 79th birthday, 9 months after he died.  I just felt it was time and wanted to do it on a date I'd remember. I…"
Aug 21
NancyD commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"For me, it is just taking a long time to empty out everything.  I do one thing (bathroom drawers or desk) and then do nothing for a month!  I think that's all OK. I have asked my adult kids to come look through things, but they mostly…"
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Callie2 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"Tony, it’s hard to do this task, no matter when. However, if you’re finding it very hard or have uncertainty and a lot of emotion, could you give it more time? Even if you are able to box things up for a while for a later time. Or, put a…"
Aug 20
Athena53 commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"Eloquently-written, Tony. You're doing what's been recommended in a very good book on downsizing I once read:  save a few items out of a "collection" that are meaningful but toss or donate the rest.  I still have some…"
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That feeling you forgot something!

Posted on September 11, 2018 at 12:08pm 6 Comments

I am sure we have all had that feeling, you gather your things to leave for the day and you get this feeling you forgot something.   Sometimes you get to your destination only to find you really did forget something.  You forgot you lunch at home, your cell phone on your couch, or ID on your night stand.  And sometimes you never figure out what it was you thought you forgot.  I got up this morning, got dressed and had breakfast.  I made lunch and packed it into my bag.  Threw on my shoes and…

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Phantom Things

Posted on August 21, 2018 at 5:14am 1 Comment

Over the last several months I have had many moments of reaching for or dealing with the phantoms around me.  The phantom voice in the house, the reach across the bed for the movement that couldn't have happened.  These I suspect are all normal things and with time they will slowly disappear, perhaps to my chagrin.  I tried to cover the phantoms, keeping things piled up on her side of the couch so the emptiness wasn't there, putting teddy bears on her side of the bed.  I even started making…

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Socks! Really?

Posted on August 20, 2018 at 8:53am 5 Comments

So just about a week ago I decided it was time to empty one of my wife's dressers.  I figured, no one will ever wear the underwear or socks again so they were logical to get rid of.  I mean they are socks and underwear, they can't hold much in the way of memories.   Oh what fool I am.  Surprisingly the underwear went pretty easy, I saved out a few special pairs to keep in a drawer of her things, a pair of Pooh boxers which were so much her, but most of the real underwear went into a small…

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The Missing Look

Posted on August 6, 2018 at 5:39am 6 Comments

I don't know about all of you, but I should not shop alone.  My wife knew this, and would be sure to go with me if I went anywhere other than the grocery store, and even that could be dangerous.  I always got what was on the list, but there was always something else that ended up in the cart. When we were shopping together, all it took was that glance from her and the thing went back on the self and I went back to pushing the cart.  Now don't get me wrong and think I was the only one who…

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At 6:48am on February 4, 2018, Doug02122014 said…

Hi MidnightBear (Tony),

Thanks for the friend invite.  Feel free to message me anytime and I'll do my best to get back to you  

Take care. 

Doug 

At 3:09pm on January 19, 2018, ShirleyB said…

Happy Friday, Tony.  How are you doing this evening?

At 7:04pm on November 18, 2017, judy said…

Hi MidnightBear,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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