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After Losing A Spouse, Finding A Different Kind Of Happiness

Started this discussion. Last reply by allmyheart Mar 22. 2 Replies

I found this story on NPR.I just read the story, I haven’t listened to the recording yet.I thought others might find it helpful. …Continue

 

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Mike replied to Luv4Z's discussion 6weeks out and overwhelming sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"Luv4Z, six weeks is still very early. Everything you’re feeling is normal.  It’s very hard in the beginning.   If your in-laws are so concerned ask them to come over and help you.  It’s harder with four children plus…"
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MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on Mike's blog post Euphemisms for death
"Without in any way negating what you say, a sub group of us here are believers. SO "death" and "dying" men different things than to most. Death means an instant presence in the present or intermediary even wit Our Lord...and…"
Jul 10
riet commented on Mike's blog post Euphemisms for death
"Whatever word you use, he is still death. And that just means: "he" is gone, "we" don't longer exist, and "me".. who is "me" now ? This is the cruel reality.  Of course, in my mind I always think…"
Jul 10
Athena53 commented on Mike's blog post Euphemisms for death
"I'm also pretty plain-spoken- I just don't like the sound of "passed".  When working in an office I once got a call from a hospital; they elderly widow of a lawyer who'd worked there had just been admitted, and she must…"
Jul 9
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Euphemisms for death

I posted this elsewhere but thought I would post it here too.I have found in talking to others and also in this group that many people don’t like to use the word died or death or dying. They tend to use euphemisms like “passed”, “passed away” or “passed on”. I always say my wife died or she is dead. I found this article particularly interesting in discussing why people do this, especially the part about explaining death to children:…See More
Jul 9
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"This is a great group and has helped me a lot. For those of you on Facebook there is another group wihich I find helpful. It is Widows and Widowers, All Welcomed. I find this group helpful also. The link is below…"
Jun 27
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This is a great group and has helped me a lot. For those of you on Facebook there is another group wihich I find helpful. It is Widows and Widowers, All Welcomed. I find this group helpful also. The link is below…"
Jun 27
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"This is a great group and has helped me a lot. For those of you on Facebook there is another group wihich I find helpful. It is Widows and Widowers, All Welcomed. I find this group helpful also. The link is below…"
Jun 27
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I want everyone to understand that I am not trying to say that their loved ones have  come back.  I realize  I can’t prove a negative and that was not the intent of my post.  I am truly happy that people are finding signs…"
May 6
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It has been about four months for me now and I get no feelings or sensations or whatever that my wife is near or trying to soothe me or anything like that. I am happy for the people who do and realize the peace it must bring. As for me I live in the…"
May 3
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"Shoosie,There's nothing bad about taking time out to convalesce. It doesn't lead to life as a hermit or agoraphobia - its doing what is best for you. Forced socializing is like running w/a broken leg. If you notice the advice tips for…"
Apr 19
jcristedi replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am in the same position. Mel was my best friend. He died before tax season. I work for myself and live in a rural area. I work out of my home. I am involved in some churches and with a French school an hour away. Trying to get more involved with…"
Apr 19
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"SweetMelissa2007, I am still inclined to trust the therapist. If she feels Shelley is becoming obsessive maybe she knows better than we do. She is trying to help her work out her issues and I think it’s worth a try. It doesn’t sound like…"
Apr 17
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Shelley, On the front page of this website it says: ” Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what…"
Apr 17
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Shelley, Everyone here wants to help and there is some good advice. But your therapist probably knows you better than we do. At least give some consideration to what your therapist says.  Maybe he/she can offer you some ways to work through it.…"
Apr 17
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Shelley, I think you should listen you therapist. After a while it’s important to let these things go.  "
Apr 17

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Euphemisms for death

Posted on July 9, 2018 at 8:15am 3 Comments

I posted this elsewhere but thought I would post it here too.

I have found in talking to others and also in this group that many people don’t like to use the word died or death or dying. They tend to use euphemisms like “passed”, “passed away” or “passed on”. I always say my wife died or she is dead. I found this article particularly interesting in discussing why people do this, especially the part about explaining death to…

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Number of widows vs.. widowers.

Posted on February 28, 2018 at 12:55pm 3 Comments

I found this online.

I’m not sure of the accuracy but it was all I could find.

It indicates that the number of widows vs. widowers is almost 4 to 1. 

Just out of curiosity does anyone know if that is reflective of the this site’s membership?…

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At 6:41am on March 16, 2018, JonsQueen said…

Thanks for the ad Mike. I’m really not sure how to use this site..it will take me some time to figure it out I’m sure. I’m more used to Facebook. 

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Welcome to Widville, Mike. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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