" I too am in that situation. Too young to go into a retirement community ,too old to hop bars. I live far away from any major city in a small conservative city full of married couples with children. My only daughter left for college in…"
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After Losing A Spouse, Finding A Different Kind Of Happiness
Started this discussion. Last reply by allmyheart Mar 22, 2018. 2 Replies 0 Likes
I found this story on NPR.I just read the story, I haven’t listened to the recording yet.I thought others might find it helpful. …Continue
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Kaydee replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"I used Our Time, Match, E Harmony, Plenty of Fish. Met 3 guys on Our Time. Talked to a few guys on Match. One wanted me to get a motel room first date!
I said no and that was it. Plus many scammers on Match. Watch that site.
E Harmony too many…"
Athena53 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"An update on my experiences with Match.com: Guy #1 lost interest after 2 meetings. Not the end of the world. I was pretty much myself when we met so if he didn't like what he saw, not much I could have done differently. …"
Isaiah4031 replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"Mike -
meeting with others in grief can help, but it sounds like Besides that you are looking for ways to meet new people in general.
I think someone mentioned church, so that's worth checking into, every small town has a…"
jcristedi replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am a 58 year old recently widowed accountant with a 19 year old son. The lady who just posted has some good ideas. It is very tough out there. We have little family, are quiet people and I work out of my home. For me, I am fortunate enough to have…"
CaliforniaGrieving replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"Isn't a quiet house the worst?? I'm one year widowed and certainly commiserate. Just starting to come out of my cocoon and venture toward human interaction. My best advice is--find something you really love to do, or even LIKE to do or…"
Mike commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My wife died in December and I am in the same house we lived in for 29 years. For some reason I am very comfortable here. I don’t feel the need to move. There are memories here but they don’t weigh me down. I think I would be as…"
Athena53 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Well, the second meeting went well and, again, no word from him. I gave it almost a week, suggested a couple of days to meet again and.... nothing. Very weird. It's certainly his prerogative to decide he's not interested…"
Barzan replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Athena, I had DeSotos in my life. Wonder what match I'd get. LOL (Husband had a collection of 3)
Good luck and let us know how #2 went. Happy for you."
Athena53 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Woo-hoo! I got a second date! I sent him a friendly note saying I hadn't heard form him in awhile and was he interested in meeting for coffee again Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday of next week. I even offered him an easy…"
LostandSad replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Athena,
I'm glad your coffee meeting went relatively well. That's so awesome..... now we'll see if it's meant to be....."
Mike replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"I am glad you had a good experience. It gives me some hope. Whatever happens there are nice people out there and you learned it’s something you can do. Next time will be easier. "
Barzan replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Good for you Athena. Dating again is like riding a bike - but with the training wheels on. It does feel awkward. I have to remind myself not to make comparisons because there was no one like my husband. Hope he contacts…"
Athena53 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"A hopeful update- yesterday I had coffee with a guy I met on Match.com. He looked like his pictures. We had a great discussion. I don't' think he was an axe-murderer. I think he was interested enough in me to get…"
LostandSad replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"I'm so sorry for all of us too. It's a way of life I never imagined. Ever. I thought we'd grow old together. Miss so many things, coffee in the morning, just something as simple as watching a movie together. My family is…"
Mike replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"LostansSad, I’m not sure I’m ready to do any of this yet and I would also be a nervous wreck. I have not dated for over thirty years. I’m not going to let that stop me if I ever am ever ready to date again. I have had to do so…"
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Euphemisms for death
Posted on July 9, 2018 at 8:15am 5 Comments 1 Like
I posted this elsewhere but thought I would post it here too.
I have found in talking to others and also in this group that many people don’t like to use the word died or death or dying. They tend to use euphemisms like “passed”, “passed away” or “passed on”. I always say my wife died or she is dead. I found this article particularly interesting in discussing why people do this, especially the part about explaining death to…
Continue Number of widows vs.. widowers.
Posted on February 28, 2018 at 12:55pm 3 Comments 0 Likes
I found this online.
I’m not sure of the accuracy but it was all I could find.
It indicates that the number of widows vs. widowers is almost 4 to 1.
Just out of curiosity does anyone know if that is reflective of the this site’s membership?…
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- At 10:15am on January 14, 2018,
Dianne in Nevada said… Welcome to Widville, Mike. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.
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