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Mike
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  • Clinton, NY
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Mike replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"I never really wore my wedding ring so I am not wearing it now. I am trying to find a way to wear my wife’s engagement ring and wedding ring on a chain around my neck. I have two concerns: The chain breaking and losing the rings.  The…"
Monday
Mike commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post Staying positive amid despair
"Hi Callie, You say: “t does help to keep in mind that one day, the horrible pain will ease and you will learn to be happy again. Grief stays with us until the day that peace finds us.” I have heard it before and hope it is true. I am…"
Sunday
Mike commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post Staying positive amid despair
"I have been journaling and the end of each entry I try to list the things for which I am thankful. Perhaps it’s because it’s just under two months for me, but right now the entire list is completely out weighed by the fact that my wife…"
Sunday
MidnightBear (Tony) replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"Not sure it is ever easy to expand your personal network after a major change.  I only have 3 months experience and I am not doing well yet.  I would definitely consider the suggestion others have shared of looking at adult education…"
Feb 15
Sosammy replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"Is there a gym or YMCA in the area? The closest to me is 20 miles away, but I go a few times a week. It keeps me from an empty house and around people.  After a few weeks you get to know the regulars."
Feb 15
InsideLove replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"I remember quickly searching online for "grief support" in my community. Is there a hospice house near you? My husband wasn't in hospice; he died suddenly in the hospital. But what I found in calling them to see if they would like me…"
Feb 15
Mike replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am glad your son is home. My in-laws are around but it’s not the same. Classes sound like another good idea. I may look into that. "
Feb 15
Mike replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"There is no local gathering place that I’m aware of. I was also hoping to get out more than once a month. Maybe that’s too ambitious but being alone every night ishard. I will keep it in mind though. Maybe I could try posting something…"
Feb 15
My New Life replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"I'm in the same boat Mark was my best friend, I'm in a rural area, and I have no family but my son.  I can't even find a widow/widower support group in my area.  I'm too young to retire but too old to start over. I…"
Feb 15
Dianne in Nevada replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"Is there a local gathering place in your area?  A coffee shop or restaurant or even the grocery store where you could put up a flyer suggesting a monthly meet someplace? Just pick a date, time and place and be there. Just give it an hour. Take…"
Feb 15
Mike added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2017
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Making new friends

I read a lot about people who have a great support group of family and friends. But my wife was my best friend and my family is far away. So my support group is digital, either online or on the phone. My job is very quiet. I don’t see many people there and I go home to an empty house. I also live in a very rural area without many places to go. Does anyone have any suggestions about ways to meet people. I really would like some human interaction (not dating) but at my age I don’t know how to go…See More
Feb 15
Clare replied to Mike's discussion Why did this happen? in the group Widowed in 2017
"Sorry for your loss, Mike. At five months here and I'm doing the same thing. I have no idea when it stops. Maybe never. I have stopped the internet searches though. My mum is a nurse and her best advice was to stay clear of Google."
Feb 15
EarthSpirit (Carol) replied to Mike's discussion Why did this happen? in the group Widowed in 2017
"Denise, it’s been a few days over 4 months for me since my husband passed.  And your comments “I’m not the same person I was, I go through the motions every day, but I feel lost and empty” struck such a chord!…"
Feb 13
DeniseL replied to Mike's discussion Why did this happen? in the group Widowed in 2017
"Mike, I totally relate to your feelings.  It's been almost 5 months since I lost my husband to a rare cancer (bile duct). He was StageIV, inoperable at diagnosis.  He endured chemo and fought a battle he knew he couldn't win for…"
Feb 13
Carmen513 replied to Mike's discussion Dating Again? in the group Widowed in 2017
"I enjoyed the article Mike. And who doesn't love a good love story. My opinion is that if we remove our cultural upbringing and influences, dating,indeed marrying again might not be such a big deal. Thank fully Western Culture also accepts…"
Feb 13
silver55 replied to Mike's discussion Dating Again? in the group Widowed in 2017
"What a lovely story!  I do believe that finding another that has gone through a similar experience and loss would be important for me.  Or at least someone that has a very big heart and can understand that you WILL always love and want to…"
Feb 13

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At 10:15am on January 14, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Mike. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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