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Miket
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  • Loveland, OH
  • United States
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Miket replied to Miket's discussion Grandparents Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thanks Tess. I know exactly what you mean by seeing other couples in our age range or older. I could see and hear how the grandmas interacted with their grandkids. If I closed my eyes, I could even imagine my wife and how she would act and what she…"
Apr 5
Tess replied to Miket's discussion Grandparents Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, that is so difficult. I am sorry that your pain surfaced again after that experience. I know your grandson appreciated his grandpop being there to share his special day. I think, at least for me, it is the experience of seeing couples in my…"
Apr 5
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Grandparents Day

Yesterday I went to grandparents day at my grandsons school. He is five years old and wanted this to be a special day. Initially I did not give this much thought, other than wanting my grandson to have a wonderful time. But as I saw all the grandfathers and grandmothers who also attended, I felt the pain and sorrow return in a big way. Where was his grandmother? Why could she not be there? They all looked so happy - grandpas and grandmas. Where was my wife? Look what she was missing. I…See More
Apr 5
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"I lost my wife 2 1/2 years ago. Lived in Florida. Did not want to leave, but kids and grandkids moved to Ohio. Snow and cold. Yuk. But I guess family is most important so I left for Ohio. Got a smaller house and tried to organize it similar to the…"
Apr 1
Miket replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Sunshine on my Shoulder by John Denver "
Apr 1
Miket replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Dreams
"I know the feeling. It has been 2 1/2 years since I lost my wife. I have had a couple of situations like yours, where I would swear my wife was hugging me tightly. Then reality hits and I realize she is not there. I sit in her rocking chair and talk…"
Apr 1
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Adds to the Confusion

I have been aware of Colton Burpo and Eben Alexander as two people who died, went to heaven, and then returned to tell about it. But recently I also found myself reading about Dr. Mary Neal. She also had an amazing story. Then I think to my wife, and did she experience the same things these people did as she entered heaven? I don’t know, but deep down it helps me a bit to want to believe she is in a much better place right now. I feel guilty that I could not do more to help her rid the cancer…See More
Mar 16
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Validation in the group Widowed in 2016
"So, no validation yet - but not expected either. I have been dreading today for a few weeks now. On Fridays in Lent my wife and I would attend Stations of the Cross together. Truth be told, Jesus and God were secondary for me during this service.…"
Mar 8
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Validation

One of the things I am struggling with ... is how is my wife right now? Is she ok? Is she lonely? I hope she is not suffering anymore?  Does she know how much I love her and miss her? Does she know it has been two years now?I wish that I could get some validation, knowing she is doing well and is happy. She does not visit me very often, and I want so much to hear from her again.I never expected our lives to turn out the way they did. And I struggle every day, just wanting to be with her. I…See More
Mar 5
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Biggest Regret and Non Regret

i keep thinking about the wonderful, special 43 years I had with my wife. I will never regret telling her I love her. I made sure I told her several times each and every day. Sometimes I would even say “Did I ever tell you that I loved you?” And she would playfully say “No, you better tell me again.” This was always followed with a huge hug. I miss her so much. My biggest regret? That I wish I could have spent more days alone with her - but I worked and she was busy raising our son. All those…See More
Mar 1
Miket replied to Riley's discussion Tired of grief in the group Widowed in 2016
"So I have never told anyone this before - not even my kids know. Before I met my wife I was on a quiet vacation. In the summer. On a lake. In a boat. Peaceful. Alone.  And I prayed to my grandfather who had passed away a few years earlier to…"
Feb 23
Miket replied to Riley's discussion Tired of grief in the group Widowed in 2016
"Riley - You are right. I feel safe and understood on this website. Like you, I can’t really talk to my kids and friends anymore about my wife. They have moved on and don’t understand why my grief persists after two years. I still give my…"
Feb 23
Miket replied to Riley's discussion Tired of grief in the group Widowed in 2016
"Sometimes I close my eyes and try to imagine what it will be like for me when my time comes. I hope and pray that my wife will be the first one to greet me. I keep telling her that I have a huge hug saved up just for her. When she was alive it was…"
Feb 22
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you Austin for sharing your thoughts. I think that it comes in waves is a good description. But am I wrong to not want to move on? I have no desire. Like you, I miss my wife’s laughter and companionship. And I am deathly afraid that if I…"
Feb 15
Austin replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket Thanks for posting about your bouts of grief.  I have been melancholy lately missing my husband and it is now 2 1/2 years since he died.  I guess I am not so strange having these grief episodes, sometimes I miss our life together so…"
Feb 15
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thanks for the great advice ..."
Feb 12

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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