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Miket
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  • Loveland, OH
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Miket replied to Miket's discussion Alone or Lonely in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you both for your thoughts. I see others that are happy, but I tend to shy away from social events because they would even make me think about my wife some more. We were together over 40 years - now it seems like time has stopped. All I want…"
Jun 10
Annie replied to Miket's discussion Alone or Lonely in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you Miket for posting how you feel cause I have been feeling the same way.l am alone it is like our relationship was never there.Our children never talk about their father so it makes griefing very hard.they don't understand. I should be…"
Jun 10
Doug02122014 replied to Miket's discussion Is This Normal in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, Yeah this is normal.   My journey was different, but I know another guy in a different support group that this took a little over 3-years to to go away.   Take care. Doug"
Jun 10
Annie25 replied to Miket's discussion Is This Normal in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hello Miket I am also 2 1/2 years out from my husbands death most days I still cry and miss him terribly. It has gotten better but there are still so many reminders and emotions that I experience on a daily basis. I do not have the answer of when it…"
Jun 9
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Is This Normal

So,  it has been 2 1/2 years since my dear wife passed. I talk to her everyday - and I cry every day. I have seen grief grief counselors and all they tell me is that it should pass.i am taking antidepressants and it seems to stem the emotional tide only somewhat.But  I can’t shake it. Is it normal to be grieving and crying every day still? Thx.for your thoughts.See More
Jun 7
KayeL replied to Miket's discussion Alone or Lonely in the group Widowed in 2016
"As a 39yo widow, I feel both alone and lonely. People I know, around my age, are busy with their young families or working hard to build their careers. No one has time for me. That part, I am lonely. When my husband died, I lost literally the only…"
Apr 23
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Alone or Lonely

Hi All - I just came back from visiting my family and my wife’s family for Easter. While it was nice to see everyone, other than me, no one talked about my wife. Yet when she was alive she was always the central player in all of their lives. So I got to thinking - do I feel alone on this earth or do I feel lonely? The answer was clear to me - I feel alone without my wife. If I were lonely then seeing the family would have cheered me up. But even in the midst of all of these people, I felt…See More
Apr 23
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Grandparents Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thanks Tess. I know exactly what you mean by seeing other couples in our age range or older. I could see and hear how the grandmas interacted with their grandkids. If I closed my eyes, I could even imagine my wife and how she would act and what she…"
Apr 5
Tess replied to Miket's discussion Grandparents Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, that is so difficult. I am sorry that your pain surfaced again after that experience. I know your grandson appreciated his grandpop being there to share his special day. I think, at least for me, it is the experience of seeing couples in my…"
Apr 5
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Grandparents Day

Yesterday I went to grandparents day at my grandsons school. He is five years old and wanted this to be a special day. Initially I did not give this much thought, other than wanting my grandson to have a wonderful time. But as I saw all the grandfathers and grandmothers who also attended, I felt the pain and sorrow return in a big way. Where was his grandmother? Why could she not be there? They all looked so happy - grandpas and grandmas. Where was my wife? Look what she was missing. I…See More
Apr 5
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"I lost my wife 2 1/2 years ago. Lived in Florida. Did not want to leave, but kids and grandkids moved to Ohio. Snow and cold. Yuk. But I guess family is most important so I left for Ohio. Got a smaller house and tried to organize it similar to the…"
Apr 1
Miket replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Sunshine on my Shoulder by John Denver "
Apr 1
Miket replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Dreams
"I know the feeling. It has been 2 1/2 years since I lost my wife. I have had a couple of situations like yours, where I would swear my wife was hugging me tightly. Then reality hits and I realize she is not there. I sit in her rocking chair and talk…"
Apr 1
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Adds to the Confusion

I have been aware of Colton Burpo and Eben Alexander as two people who died, went to heaven, and then returned to tell about it. But recently I also found myself reading about Dr. Mary Neal. She also had an amazing story. Then I think to my wife, and did she experience the same things these people did as she entered heaven? I don’t know, but deep down it helps me a bit to want to believe she is in a much better place right now. I feel guilty that I could not do more to help her rid the cancer…See More
Mar 16
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Validation in the group Widowed in 2016
"So, no validation yet - but not expected either. I have been dreading today for a few weeks now. On Fridays in Lent my wife and I would attend Stations of the Cross together. Truth be told, Jesus and God were secondary for me during this service.…"
Mar 8
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Validation

One of the things I am struggling with ... is how is my wife right now? Is she ok? Is she lonely? I hope she is not suffering anymore?  Does she know how much I love her and miss her? Does she know it has been two years now?I wish that I could get some validation, knowing she is doing well and is happy. She does not visit me very often, and I want so much to hear from her again.I never expected our lives to turn out the way they did. And I struggle every day, just wanting to be with her. I…See More
Mar 5

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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