"I feel your pain. My wife is now gone nine months and everything of hers is still in place. I can't bear to touch a thing. In my heart I want to leave it there in case she returns. In my mind I know this is only a dream. And yes, the house is…"
"Hi,Susan. I thought I would investigate the British version and have been discouraged. The site I have found seems out of date. (Their gift shop is selling 2014 calendars!)and there are a lot of more recent articles from the UK Ministry of Defence,…"
I have found a new way of helping myself and someone else at the same time. I went to " Adopt A Soldier " program on line, and adopted a soldier. She is in Afghanistan. I thought maybe others may want to try it.…"
"Thank you all for sharing your thoughts. I am a prostate cancer survivor and today I had my six month checkup. You know, in a strange sort of way I hoped that my cancer would have recurred. The thought of being one step closer to my wife was…"
I just re-read your post.... It says you were advised to think about the good times. If I do that, I turn into a crying, moody mess. :-( August will make 9 months since he has passed, and that horrible alone…"
"I don't believe that blocking out thoughts of your wife will help, although everyone's journey is unique. After 2 1/2 years I still have bad days, but thankfully they are less frequent (full disclosure, I ended up losing sleep last…"
"Today's mailing from the Brave Girls Club (applies to men, too, of course)
"You have already done so much, dear friend, it’s okay to be weary. Sometimes it is just so hard to think that we still have to keep going even when…"
"Miket, it has been almost 9 months since my John passed. I have found taking one day at a time the only way I can cope. Just when I think I am doing good I hit a day when the tears just don't want to stop. Have decided to just…"
I had my own notion of grief.
I thought it was the sad time
that followed the death of
someone you love.
And you had to push through it
to get to the other side.
But I’m learning there is no other side.
There is no pushing…"
"I really hear your anguish-and I dare say I understand it. It was 8 months since I lost my wife (November 22nd). She was my second wife to die of cancer, there are days when the tears simply flow, for both spouses I have lost. Busy does help, but…"
"Yes, Miket, It doesn't really work. Nine months for me,too. I'm doing a lot of work with a therapist and I believe I'm making progress but it's not linear, there's no pattern to the waves of distress and anguish.
I am very sorry for your loss. I very suddenly and unexpectedly lost my sweet husband about 3 1/2 years ago now and, while it becomes easier to cope as time goes by, that void is always there and I still miss and love him every…"
"I totally get it. I have tried to block it too. It doesn't work. The only way to get through this is to feel the pain, and let the tears flow. There is much healing in doing so. I tried to bury myself in work, both at home and at the office. It…"
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