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Miket
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  • Loveland, OH
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Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Ok, yours looks great. I will get some opinions first so I don’t run into this crazy stupid. Thx again."
Friday
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Also, Mike just make sure this is a jeweler you know or trust -- I went to this particular jeweler as a referral from a friend who had a lot dealing with this business. And I looked at their website and looked up reviews, before I took my rings in…"
Thursday
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hey Mike, I think "solder" means "weld", and I wasn't sure of the exact term but googled the terms, and basically both mean it's putting together metal. So I guess I will have to say, I love mine, no problem and nothing…"
Thursday
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi again Dee 1960. I spoke with the local jeweler and he said the can solder the rings together (not weld) for about $75. Has anyone else had this done? I am less concerned about the cost and most concerned with the rings not getting ruined, since…"
Thursday
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Mike, I never really thought of it that way "a bond that can't be broken".  Lovely way to put it.  Thank you, you brought tears to my eyes. But you are so right --- which is why doing that with our wedding bands -- welding…"
Monday
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"And you did a wonderful thing in honor of your husband as well. I never thought about joining the two rings together (like a weld of sorts) but it is an intriguing idea. I am going to look into this. Both rings side by side show togetherness and…"
Aug 18
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Mike, what a beautiful thing you did... I probably shouldn't even be in this group as my husband died in 2015 -- but can't help commenting when I saw the post about rings. Never heard of the "black ring" thing. Many of my widow…"
Aug 18
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Yes, I like the comfort that my wife’s wedding ring gives me on my finger sitting right next to my wedding ring.  I remember back to when we were just engaged and we went to see the priest about marriage classes. After the first meeting…"
Aug 18
Lablady replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, I've never heard of a black ring and I don't think I'd wear it. For me, it's been 2 years and 8 months as of today, the 14th, since my husband passed away. We were married for 29+ yrs and together for more than 30 years. A…"
Aug 14
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you all for your comments. For me, I think I took the best route, in that I had my wife’s wedding ring converted to a mans size and I wear it on my finger next to mine. I gave some thought to wearing it on a chain around my neck, but I…"
Aug 9
chef (John) replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I had to look up "black ring" on The Great Google--and got a lottta hits. (The ebony rings look interesting, but are not for me.) Then it hit me that I know a few younger guys at the gym who wear carbon/tungsten wedding rings, so maybe…"
Aug 7
Nance63 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, you bring up a good topic.  The answers will vary by each individual.  For myself, I actually was not even wearing my rings for years while my husband was living because I lost weight causing them to fall off in the dishpan or…"
Aug 7
Melissa replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"The black ring was worn in Victorian times when mourning jewelry was popular. I had a band that was black enamel with gold on either side that I'd bought years ago in Hawaii. It had nothing to do with mourning, but after Gilbert died I thought…"
Aug 6
Amethyst replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Miket, I have never heard of purchasing a black band to wear as a widower. That sounds a little old fashioned maybe? I don't think I would wear it either as it wouldn't really represent my connection to my husband. When my husband…"
Aug 6
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Rings

Hi All - So I have a question. Hoping you can share your thoughts? When my wife passed 2 1/2 years ago, I was not sure what to do about wedding rings. Some said take it off, others said continue to wear. Now I also heard that I should purchase and wear a black ring as a sign that I am now widowed. I bought one, but have not been able to wear it. I don’t know if any questions will be created, but after thinking about it, I really do not want to deal with people inquiring. Instead, I took my…See More
Aug 6
Miket replied to Karen9816's discussion Beyond Lonely in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Karen - I am so happy for you and how things worked out. I guess everyone’s situation is unique. I lost my wife 2 1/2 years ago and still long for her. She told me once before she passed that I should feel comfortable in finding someone…"
Jul 28

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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