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Miket
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  • Loveland, OH
  • United States
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ChaWi replied to Miket's discussion The Most Difficult Day of the Year is Upon Me Again in the group Widowed in 2016
"I understand. There is never a time where I don’t wish I had my husband back. It’s sometimes even harder when good things happen because he’s the one I shared them with. I keep trying to do things that bring me a bit of joy but…"
Saturday
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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The Most Difficult Day of the Year is Upon Me Again

Well, it is that time again. Next week will be three years missing my wife. Lately I have been so emotional that I find I am blocking all thoughts of her out of my mind to try to keep my feelings in check. Last week I went to our god-daughters wedding. Unknown to me, our god-daughter arranged to have the priest remember my wife during the ceremony. I was not prepared for this and broke out crying. It sucks that she is no longer with me - it sucks that it has been three years. All I want is to…See More
Friday
Miket replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"It just dawned on me after seeing this post for months ... if MY WIFE could choose one song to express how she feels, it would be Color My World by Chicago. She loved that song from ever since the day we met ..."
Sep 29
Miket replied to Miket's discussion A Dream Ruined My Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"John - I am truly sorry for your loss and amazed at your courage to tell your story. I respect this so much. I do have to say that my wife very rarely comes into my dreams. And she has never spoken to me the way your Judith spoke to you. On one…"
Sep 23
chef (John) replied to Miket's discussion A Dream Ruined My Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Dreams can be horrible things at times. I know that only too well. A few days after Judith died, I had a very long series of dreams-within-dreams. In all those dreams, Jude was dying. In the next-to-last one, I awoke (but was actually still…"
Sep 23
Miket replied to Miket's discussion A Dream Ruined My Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thanks for caring and sharing. The problem for me was the reality of the dream. I felt the same crushing sense of loss like I do every day. Anyway, I survived the day so to endure one more. Regards ..."
Sep 23
chef (John) replied to Miket's discussion A Dream Ruined My Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Bro hugs, Miket. It's too bad that we can't control dreams the way we'd like to do. FWIW, I still have dreams about my wife at significant dates too. I hope that you were able to keep your chin up for those few hours yesterday."
Sep 23
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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A Dream Ruined My Day

It is drawing close to the anniversary of my wife’s passing. Last night I dreamt about her. She was going away on a long trip and I might never see her again. I was so sad I woke up at 5am crying. I have been an emotional mess all morning now. I just want to stay inside with all of the doors locked. I want to be alone with my grief. But I promised the grandkids I would come and visit them today. Somehow I need to find the strength to keep my chin up for a few hours. Wish me luck. Thx.See More
Sep 22
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Awkward Situation?

Hi All - So I heard an interesting comment today and it got me to thinking. The comment (and I think I have heard it before) is that everybody has a twin somewhere in the world. So ok, but I wondered what I would do if I happened to come across a twin of my beautiful, departed wife? I haven’t given this much thought yet, but my initial reaction would be to turn and run away, because every second that I would be near this person would create huge, emotional distress. Hopefully (and probably)…See More
Sep 15
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Beautiful! And happy anniversary!"
Sep 13
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"So now the timing is perfect. October 1 will be our 45th wedding anniversary. I am so glad that I had the rings joined together. I also bought her a card, just like I have done the last two years. I told/wrote her again just how much I love…"
Sep 13
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"So I think going.on.slowly said it best. The pain is there no matter what or where. If I had stayed in Florida I would have been reminded of the places my wife and I used to go to. The move to Ohio was meant for me to be with family and help that…"
Sep 11
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"That is so perfect. Thanks for sharing."
Sep 9
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"So I think my situation is backwards. After I lost my wife I wanted to stay in my marital home, especially because my wife came back from hospice and then died in the home with familiar surroundings in Florida. I was advised by a grief counselor not…"
Sep 8
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Absolutely beautiful! Glad you did it! Love never dies. D."
Aug 28
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Ok, so I found a trustworthy jeweler and they were able to join the two rings together. The top ring is my wife’s ring - only that I have removed the diamonds and sapphires and then had them reset into a new ring that would fit my finger. The…"
Aug 28

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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