"Sandi, thank you so much for your contribution. I have been wrestling with how I should manage with Helens ashes. I did'nt know if I should just spread them in one spot, the one place she did talk about many years ago, or if I should…"
"Thank you for your story. I am happy to hear the tree is thriving. Yes, my wife was cremated. I should think about doing more with her ashes. Breathe. Good, simple advice. I will be thinking that next week. Warm regards ..."
"Dear Miket, It has been 16 months since my husband of 43 years passed. I know just how you feel. For me I went at the 1 year anniversary head on. One of the hardest things I've had to do ( although everything is difficult..even the…"
"Mikel, tomorrow will be 52 weeks that my husband has been gone. October 14th will be his one year Angelversary. The morning of October 14, 2016 I went for what I call my Soul Stroll and when I came home I pulled out my paints and a canvas and I…"
"Yes, trust your heart. It might be that driving back and forth makes for a long day. Then again, you hit both goals ... you attend and you still sleep in your own bed. Sounds like a good compromise - if you are up to it. Scared or nervous? I still…"
"Hi there. I know it must be a tough decision. Many days I have the same reservations. While he stressed going to get out and seek change, let me pass along advice that many on this web site have offered (maybe even you)? You will know when the time…"
"I feel your pain. My wife is now gone nine months and everything of hers is still in place. I can't bear to touch a thing. In my heart I want to leave it there in case she returns. In my mind I know this is only a dream. And yes, the house is…"
"Hi,Susan. I thought I would investigate the British version and have been discouraged. The site I have found seems out of date. (Their gift shop is selling 2014 calendars!)and there are a lot of more recent articles from the UK Ministry of Defence,…"
I have found a new way of helping myself and someone else at the same time. I went to " Adopt A Soldier " program on line, and adopted a soldier. She is in Afghanistan. I thought maybe others may want to try it.…"
"Thank you all for sharing your thoughts. I am a prostate cancer survivor and today I had my six month checkup. You know, in a strange sort of way I hoped that my cancer would have recurred. The thought of being one step closer to my wife was…"
I just re-read your post.... It says you were advised to think about the good times. If I do that, I turn into a crying, moody mess. :-( August will make 9 months since he has passed, and that horrible alone…"
"I don't believe that blocking out thoughts of your wife will help, although everyone's journey is unique. After 2 1/2 years I still have bad days, but thankfully they are less frequent (full disclosure, I ended up losing sleep last…"
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