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Miket
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  • Loveland, OH
  • United States
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Miket commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Sorry ... I meant too young to be old! "
Jan 25
Miket commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Too old to be young ... thanks for sharing your thoughts. For me, I am starting to learn my vulnerable times. They are Christmas, June (my wife’s birthday) and October (both our wedding anniversary and also the anniversary of her passing). I…"
Jan 25
Miket commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Tess. Just for me it is the opposite. AM typically is not bad because I am usually chasing after the grandkids. For me, PM is difficult. I am not a tv watcher, and so after about 4pm everything gets quiet. Then my mind drifts back to my wife and…"
Jan 24
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"I hear you Miket, I hear the pain of others  who responded. Christmas sucked and I am glad it's over. But being a widow sucks. Every day starts out another day with him -- every road, every restaurant, every grocery store, gas station…"
Jan 10
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"One thought that I shared in an earlier post was that I wish I could have traded places with my wife. Now in a way I can see that might be selfish. When I say that being a widow is the worst thing I could wish on anybody, then shame on me for…"
Jan 10
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"Soulmate ... Your comments hit home. I can’t remember when last my kids said to me “How are you doing Dad”. I try to drop hints in conversations and in texts but they are never picked up. I realize they have their lives and their…"
Jan 7
soulmate replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"I hear your agony-I do. I was in San Diego visiting my daughter and her beautiful children for Christmas.  I won't go into detail here, but to make it short, she is making a mess of her marriage. I didn't want to spend Christmas…"
Jan 6
soulmate replied to Miket's discussion The Most Difficult Day of the Year is Upon Me Again in the group Widowed in 2016
"I hear you Miket-holidays are tough for me as well. It was three years on November 22nd that I lost my wife, and it still hurts every day. I can't put it any better-it sucks!"
Jan 6
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"Ok, so it is done for another year. I am so relieved. I spent the holidays inside with my puppy, by ourselves. Took a couple of calls for Christmas wishes. Knowing now how I feel I am glad I did not choose to go out of town. The loneliness was there…"
Jan 4
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"Me too, Miket, but back in time when my husband loved hanging christmas lights on the house, on the trees in yard, all over... miss it so much. This  year will be no lights, no tree -- just pizza and my dog and cat and me -- and maybe a…"
Dec 12, 2019
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"So, I want to go home for Christmas. Not to Mississippi or Michigan, but to a place, back in time some, but not too far back. I see my wife sitting in her chair in the family room. I am sitting in mine. Our puppy of 18 years is there with us. My…"
Dec 12, 2019
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"So, I want to go home for Christmas. Not to Mississippi or Michigan, but to a place, back in time some, but not too far back. I see my wife sitting in her chair in the family room. I am sitting in mine. Our puppy of 18 years is there with us. My…"
Dec 12, 2019
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"I have been reflecting on your comment ImTheMarigold. I too hate to “act fine” but I find myself doing this more and more. I feel like I am living a lie. I am not fine. I miss my sweetheart so much. There is nothing fine about it.…"
Nov 27, 2019
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thanks for the thoughts. Family thinks they are helping by inviting me. Somehow think that this helps to take my mind off of my loss. But the opposite really is what happens. They exchange hugs with each other. Small kisses. Gifts. It hurts so bad…"
Nov 21, 2019
ImTheMarigold replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"It has been 3 years for me and Christmas still hits me in the gut because it came so quickly after my love died. I agree with the stay home alone plan, that is what I want to do but I don't think my family will be on board. I don't usually…"
Nov 21, 2019
Tess replied to Miket's discussion Thoughts on Christmas ... in the group Widowed in 2016
"I wish I could say something that would make this go away Miket. You are right. Everything is a reminder of our sadness at this time of year. Profoundly, other people’s’ happiness. I didn’t realize before why it bothers me so much…"
Nov 21, 2019

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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