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Miket
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Awkward Situation?

Hi All - So I heard an interesting comment today and it got me to thinking. The comment (and I think I have heard it before) is that everybody has a twin somewhere in the world. So ok, but I wondered what I would do if I happened to come across a twin of my beautiful, departed wife? I haven’t given this much thought yet, but my initial reaction would be to turn and run away, because every second that I would be near this person would create huge, emotional distress. Hopefully (and probably)…See More
Sunday
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Beautiful! And happy anniversary!"
Sep 13
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"So now the timing is perfect. October 1 will be our 45th wedding anniversary. I am so glad that I had the rings joined together. I also bought her a card, just like I have done the last two years. I told/wrote her again just how much I love…"
Sep 13
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"So I think going.on.slowly said it best. The pain is there no matter what or where. If I had stayed in Florida I would have been reminded of the places my wife and I used to go to. The move to Ohio was meant for me to be with family and help that…"
Sep 11
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"That is so perfect. Thanks for sharing."
Sep 9
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"So I think my situation is backwards. After I lost my wife I wanted to stay in my marital home, especially because my wife came back from hospice and then died in the home with familiar surroundings in Florida. I was advised by a grief counselor not…"
Sep 8
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Absolutely beautiful! Glad you did it! Love never dies. D."
Aug 28
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Ok, so I found a trustworthy jeweler and they were able to join the two rings together. The top ring is my wife’s ring - only that I have removed the diamonds and sapphires and then had them reset into a new ring that would fit my finger. The…"
Aug 28
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Ok, yours looks great. I will get some opinions first so I don’t run into this crazy stupid. Thx again."
Aug 22
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Also, Mike just make sure this is a jeweler you know or trust -- I went to this particular jeweler as a referral from a friend who had a lot dealing with this business. And I looked at their website and looked up reviews, before I took my rings in…"
Aug 22
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hey Mike, I think "solder" means "weld", and I wasn't sure of the exact term but googled the terms, and basically both mean it's putting together metal. So I guess I will have to say, I love mine, no problem and nothing…"
Aug 22
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi again Dee 1960. I spoke with the local jeweler and he said the can solder the rings together (not weld) for about $75. Has anyone else had this done? I am less concerned about the cost and most concerned with the rings not getting ruined, since…"
Aug 22
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Mike, I never really thought of it that way "a bond that can't be broken".  Lovely way to put it.  Thank you, you brought tears to my eyes. But you are so right --- which is why doing that with our wedding bands -- welding…"
Aug 18
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"And you did a wonderful thing in honor of your husband as well. I never thought about joining the two rings together (like a weld of sorts) but it is an intriguing idea. I am going to look into this. Both rings side by side show togetherness and…"
Aug 18
Dee1960 replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Mike, what a beautiful thing you did... I probably shouldn't even be in this group as my husband died in 2015 -- but can't help commenting when I saw the post about rings. Never heard of the "black ring" thing. Many of my widow…"
Aug 18
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"Yes, I like the comfort that my wife’s wedding ring gives me on my finger sitting right next to my wedding ring.  I remember back to when we were just engaged and we went to see the priest about marriage classes. After the first meeting…"
Aug 18

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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