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Miket
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  • Loveland, OH
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Miket replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you Austin for sharing your thoughts. I think that it comes in waves is a good description. But am I wrong to not want to move on? I have no desire. Like you, I miss my wife’s laughter and companionship. And I am deathly afraid that if I…"
Feb 15
Austin replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket Thanks for posting about your bouts of grief.  I have been melancholy lately missing my husband and it is now 2 1/2 years since he died.  I guess I am not so strange having these grief episodes, sometimes I miss our life together so…"
Feb 15
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thanks for the great advice ..."
Feb 12
Melissa replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Miket. It's good that you know these intense periods of grief are finite. That's a type of control over them. I get migraines, and they almost always last three days. The pain is easier to bear when I know that I feel awful now, but I…"
Feb 12
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"So today finally feeling more normal. No crying or times of extreme sadness. It has happened a number of times now since my wife passed. Sometimes I know the trigger and other times I do not. But it seems to last on average about five days. Since it…"
Feb 12
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"So, how do you keep your mind from wandering and then remembering? It just gets more intense for me - I have vivid recollections of the good times, her smiles and her laughter, her sweetness and her beauty. And I get so emotional. And when I think…"
Feb 10
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Melissa - Thanks for the suggestion. My wife really has not come to me in my dreams. I so much wish she would. I was wondering with Valentines Day around the corner if this might be a trigger. Except we were not big on valentine parties. Yes, we…"
Feb 9
Melissa replied to Miket's discussion Hit a Bump Today in the group Widowed in 2016
"Usually, when this happens to me, it's because of a dream I had. I may not remember details, but I know when I wake up either very anxious for no reason or crying for no reason (except that I'm a widow, of course), something went on in my…"
Feb 9
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Hit a Bump Today

I’m not sure what happened? Woke up this morning and immediately started to cry for my wife. Sadness all day long. Heart felt like the wound that got re-opened. Grief counselor advised that some days there will be triggers. But can’t figure out what set me off today. Usually when this happens there is an event, or even a sudden incident that will set me off. Hoping that when I wake up tomorrow my mood will be a bit better. This grief thing has lasted over two years now and does not want to go…See More
Feb 8
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Falling in Love Again

I am falling in love with my wife again every day. You know, she and I never dated others all that much. When we met, we knew. And yes, the day to day of raising a family and working and all that other stuff was a distraction. But after we became empty nesters, we were able to spend time again with each other. I so looked forward to coming home from work just to see her again and hear her voice. I realized that I was falling in love with her again each and every time we came back together. What…See More
Feb 5
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Jan 27
Miket replied to Miket's discussion I Can’t in the group Widowed in 2016
"So today was a very tough day for me - but I was very proud of my wife. She excelled at craft projects and would donate her time and talent to the local senior center. After 18 months (last summer) I got up the courage to donate all of her craft…"
Jan 27
Miket replied to Miket's discussion I Can’t in the group Widowed in 2016
"Not sure if you have ever watched the YouTube video “There’s No Such Thing As Moving On” by Kelley Lynn. Whenever I need a reminder, I watch it. So much truth in this video. If you have not seen it, give it a try - 15 minutes that…"
Jan 25
Miket replied to Miket's discussion I Can’t in the group Widowed in 2016
"Tess - Yes, thank you for the thoughts. I actually have been considering another pet. But I need to make sure that I am not replacing the old puppy - she is simply not replaceable. I need to find a new companion that I can develop a new relationship…"
Jan 24
Tess replied to Miket's discussion I Can’t in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, I am so sorry for your added loss. It can certainly be overwhelming to lose a furry family member of so many years. It does open the previous wound profoundly. Not a year after my husband passed, I had to put down my kitty of nearly 17 years.…"
Jan 23
Miket replied to Miket's discussion I Can’t in the group Widowed in 2016
"So now I have to say that our precious dog of 18 years, whom both my wife and I adored, passed away a few weeks ago. She was my wife’s companion when I went to work, and after my wife passed, she was my companion for two additional years. When…"
Jan 23

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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