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Miket
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  • Jacksonville, FL
  • United States
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LostandSad replied to Miket's discussion Another Trigger in the group Widowed in 2016
"How amazing of you that you volunteer to help others. That's so wonderful! Your wife is so proud of you, I'm sure.  I have heard of sarcoma before but I don't know much about it I actually never knew anything at all about cancer…"
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Miket replied to Miket's discussion Another Trigger in the group Widowed in 2016
"I lost my wife to cancer as well. She had surgery about six years ago to remove fibroid tumors and I think they left some remains in her. The cancer recurred in 2016 but by the time it was caught it was stage four. Rare cancer - sarcoma. There is…"
Saturday
LostandSad replied to Miket's discussion Another Trigger in the group Widowed in 2016
"The next event for me will be the 4th of July.  He loved it...(i don't really) ...he just loved the fireworks...the kind you buy. He would get together with another guy in our neighborhood and they would buy the big ones and let them off.…"
Saturday
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Another Trigger in the group Widowed in 2016
"I hear you. I wish it were past Monday as well. The next “event” that I need to deal with is the second anniversary of her death. But that is not until October. But I have learned by now that there will be other mini triggers between now…"
Saturday
LostandSad replied to Miket's discussion Another Trigger in the group Widowed in 2016
"Your wife sounds like a wonderful person, always thinking of others and that's how my husband was. My mom and step dad who are a little elderly live in a one bedroom apartment. He always told me to give them a call and invite them over and…"
Saturday
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Another Trigger in the group Widowed in 2016
"Yes, my wife’s birthday is also Monday, June 18. And I feel your hurt. I too am sad beyond compare. My wife was always there for her father if Fathers Day fell on her birthday or not. It was always special to her. I want so much to be with her…"
Saturday
LostandSad replied to Miket's discussion Another Trigger in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hello Miket,  My husband would be having his birthday this Monday, June 18th so I know exactly how you feel. His birthday always falls on Father's Day or the day or two around it. We'd have a big celebration and he would always get…"
Saturday
Rainy (Misty) left a comment for Miket
"Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with…"
Saturday
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Another Trigger

I had to write - my wife’s birthday is in a few days and the thought of her not being here rips at my heart. I constantly revisit in my mind her last weeks and days. I have regrets that I could have done more. I think about the pain she went through in chemo and in hospice and I tried so much to help her - in retrospect I put too much faith in the oncologist. What I know now about options I wish I had known back then. I can’t say the outcome would be different, but other avenues might have…See More
Saturday
Miket replied to Riley's discussion How are you doing? in the group Widowed in 2016
"So I feel your hurt and your confusion. On the one hand, you are very empathetic to your friends predicament and don’t want to hurt her feelings, thus you are doing things for her even though your mind says otherwise. On the other hand, by…"
May 4
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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So Special

You know, my wife was so very special. When I hurt physically, she had a way to make me feel better. And when I hurt emotionally, she was always there with the right words and prayers to help me through those times. I miss her so much - her words, her touch, her hugs ...How can you ever replace those things that you took for granted that you now realize we’re so precious?How can each day go by and not receive the warmth and love of her hugs?How can you tell her you love her so much and not hear…See More
May 1
Miket replied to Riley's discussion How are you doing? in the group Widowed in 2016
"I do agree wil you all that life is so different without my spouse. All of those plans for when we retired are now gone. I have the same issue that no one wants to talk about my wife anymore - even her bothers and sisters. How sad. i do have to…"
Apr 23
Miket replied to Riley's discussion How are you doing? in the group Widowed in 2016
"It is harder for a guy to wear his wife’s wedding ring on a chain and my finger is too big anyway. So I had the diamonds and sapphires removed from her ring and mounted onto a guys ring and now I wear both her and my wedding ring on the same…"
Apr 15
Miket replied to Tess's discussion Confusion, Grief and Sadness in the group Widowed in 2016
"Tess ... I think you are right - the new life is overwhelming. Too overwhelming. I don’t like it one bit. I probably will choose to continue my life as it is now. At least I am comforted in knowing my wife is always on my mind. I told her…"
Apr 15
Miket replied to Miket's discussion As I Sit in Heaven in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you all for your warm responses. I guess there can be good cries among all of those painful ones. Thanks so much."
Apr 14
Miket replied to Riley's discussion How are you doing? in the group Widowed in 2016
"I just want to say that I still say “our”, “us”, “we” and so on. I find when I talk about my wife in the past tense I sort of feel like I am betraying the two of us. It just feels so right to talk about us still…"
Apr 14

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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