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Miket
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  • Loveland, OH
  • United States
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BlankMind replied to Miket's discussion Distractions in the group Widowed in 2016
"Am I wrong to not fill the time? It's all I can do most days just to work and take care of my dogs.I got them after he died. My children won't listen if I talk about him, he was their step father, and he was my world. "
1 hour ago
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Distractions in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi again Melissa - I have had a few weeks to think about what you said, and you are right - just trying to keep busy and fill the hours - because we lost our joy - our person. That’s exactly what I have been doing for 2 1/2 years - putzing…"
Friday
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Distractions in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you Melissa - It is distraction vs. devotion. I still think about those words ... to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or worse, for rich or for poor, in sickness and in health, until death do us part —- and even then…"
Jun 28
Melissa replied to Miket's discussion Distractions in the group Widowed in 2016
"I'm so sorry, Miket.  I think, from the conversations I've had here, that that's pretty much what we all do, or how we feel, anyway. No matter what we do, it feels as if we're just keeping busy. Trying to fill the hours.…"
Jun 27
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Distractions

It has been 2 1/2 years now since I lost my best friend, my wife. Every day still hurts. I only seem to keep going by using distractions. I take care of the grandkids a few hours every day, act as handyman at my son and daughter in laws house, or just putz around on my car or my house. Whenever my mind wanders to my beautiful wife, it’s like everything stops and I get lost in my grief and sorrow. I am expecting this is how the rest of my time will be - find more distractions or risk falling…See More
Jun 27
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Alone or Lonely in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you both for your thoughts. I see others that are happy, but I tend to shy away from social events because they would even make me think about my wife some more. We were together over 40 years - now it seems like time has stopped. All I want…"
Jun 10
Annie replied to Miket's discussion Alone or Lonely in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you Miket for posting how you feel cause I have been feeling the same way.l am alone it is like our relationship was never there.Our children never talk about their father so it makes griefing very hard.they don't understand. I should be…"
Jun 10
Doug02122014 replied to Miket's discussion Is This Normal in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, Yeah this is normal.   My journey was different, but I know another guy in a different support group that this took a little over 3-years to to go away.   Take care. Doug"
Jun 10
Annie25 replied to Miket's discussion Is This Normal in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hello Miket I am also 2 1/2 years out from my husbands death most days I still cry and miss him terribly. It has gotten better but there are still so many reminders and emotions that I experience on a daily basis. I do not have the answer of when it…"
Jun 9
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Is This Normal

So,  it has been 2 1/2 years since my dear wife passed. I talk to her everyday - and I cry every day. I have seen grief grief counselors and all they tell me is that it should pass.i am taking antidepressants and it seems to stem the emotional tide only somewhat.But  I can’t shake it. Is it normal to be grieving and crying every day still? Thx.for your thoughts.See More
Jun 7
KayeL replied to Miket's discussion Alone or Lonely in the group Widowed in 2016
"As a 39yo widow, I feel both alone and lonely. People I know, around my age, are busy with their young families or working hard to build their careers. No one has time for me. That part, I am lonely. When my husband died, I lost literally the only…"
Apr 23
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Alone or Lonely

Hi All - I just came back from visiting my family and my wife’s family for Easter. While it was nice to see everyone, other than me, no one talked about my wife. Yet when she was alive she was always the central player in all of their lives. So I got to thinking - do I feel alone on this earth or do I feel lonely? The answer was clear to me - I feel alone without my wife. If I were lonely then seeing the family would have cheered me up. But even in the midst of all of these people, I felt…See More
Apr 23
Miket replied to Miket's discussion Grandparents Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thanks Tess. I know exactly what you mean by seeing other couples in our age range or older. I could see and hear how the grandmas interacted with their grandkids. If I closed my eyes, I could even imagine my wife and how she would act and what she…"
Apr 5
Tess replied to Miket's discussion Grandparents Day in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket, that is so difficult. I am sorry that your pain surfaced again after that experience. I know your grandson appreciated his grandpop being there to share his special day. I think, at least for me, it is the experience of seeing couples in my…"
Apr 5
Miket added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Grandparents Day

Yesterday I went to grandparents day at my grandsons school. He is five years old and wanted this to be a special day. Initially I did not give this much thought, other than wanting my grandson to have a wonderful time. But as I saw all the grandfathers and grandmothers who also attended, I felt the pain and sorrow return in a big way. Where was his grandmother? Why could she not be there? They all looked so happy - grandpas and grandmas. Where was my wife? Look what she was missing. I…See More
Apr 5
Miket replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"I lost my wife 2 1/2 years ago. Lived in Florida. Did not want to leave, but kids and grandkids moved to Ohio. Snow and cold. Yuk. But I guess family is most important so I left for Ohio. Got a smaller house and tried to organize it similar to the…"
Apr 1

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At 8:55am on June 16, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi, I can't reply to your post because I was not widowed in 2016.

I revisit the last weeks, and months. I also wish I'd have done/seen things differently.  However, I'm sure you did the same as I.  THE BEST YOU COULD with what you knew AT THE TIME.  I have to repeatedly remind myself of that sometimes several times an hour!  Death is out of our hands.  It just is. I hate when I'm told that after questions etc. but it's a simple truth.  

I truly hope through the tears of missing your wife on her birthday, that you can also find cause to smile because she was born.  On that ONE day many years before you met her, YOUR life course was changed.  

Wishing you peace and contentment, Misty 

At 7:48am on June 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Mike,
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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