"ceilya, My husband and I moved to Myrtle Beach, SC for retirement. After we moved here my cousin who I loved like a sister built a house and moved here, too. With no explanation whatsoever she quit having anything to do with me. I…"
"Drummer Groupie My heart goes out to you. Looking at their "things" always brings back the pain of what we had, and then I look at my life today and say, why am I here????? My purpose died when my husband died. …"
"It's amazing to me how things that used to matter to me and bother me, just don't matter anymore! Flat out----I JUST DON'T CARE!!!!!!! I could get run over by a bus, and I wouldn't care! I'd probably be…"
"Texas, My husband and I both wanted to be cremated. So I have his remains in a Memory Box that contains special items that meant a lot to both of us. I live in Myrtle Beach. My husband and I loved Huntington State Park and…"
"They kept me away from my husband, too. When I look back, I get so mad at myself for me allowing them to tell me to stay away. They kept me in a room, too. I knew my husband was gone when I saw him, but I kept hope going that…"
"Crying, I'm so angry that Mike was taken from my life. He was the one and ONLY person in my life that I belive truly loved me. How can God be a loving God and take away the only love I've known in my life. How is that a…"
"Ivanna, I too have flashbacks. My husband died at the computer, and literally in a heartbeat, my life went from pure happiness to hell. I don't know any other way to decribe the life I'm living now. I feel unneeded and…"
"Know what word I hate more than SURVIVOR--WIDOW!!!!! I'll never forget the first time I had to check that box. Being a widow at 60, never entered my mind! Mike and I had too many plans for our retirement. Sadly he…"
"Don't ever appologize to yourself or anyone for the lump in your throat. We're not pitying ourselves (as my family has said). We are experiencing what is truly in our hearts! You can't deny what's in your…"
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The advice I would share that has helped me the most is acceptance. I've accepted that I won't have the life I expected to have at this stage of my life, but I am working towards finding out what good things I can expect to experience. I will always miss my husband. That's a given. But to honor the 41 years we had together, I feel I need to figure this out. Who am I? What do I want to do? What do I enjoy?
So I went to Brave Girl Camp in Idaho this week. I real step outside my comfort zone. Rooming with someone I didn't know; spending 4 days with women I didn't know; working through tough life questions; learning arts/crafts and expressing myself. For me, this was absolutely a life-changing thing. Find what works for you. Moving forward with your life does not mean you are forgetting Mike and the life you had together. You're honoring it.
We'll be back in Myrtle Beach in April for Camp Widow. I attended last year and it was fabulous. Perhaps that would be a good thing for you to do, too (I'm going again!).
Welcome misshimalot: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Misshimalot, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info
Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.