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Missing D&Z (Heather)
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  • Flagstaff, AZ
  • United States
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Nightmares

Started this discussion. Last reply by Missing D&Z (Heather) Jul 6, 2015. 2 Replies

Anyone else having reoccurring nightmares? My husband passed away from a battle with colon cancer, but lately I am having these horrible nightmares. I get all anxious and can't fall asleep or it…Continue

 

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Missing D&Z (Heather) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - MOUNTAIN in the group Connect with others in your area
"Sure, sounds good. I don't get done with everything until 515 or so. I could join you guys around 5:45 or 6 Heather"
Oct 4, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - MOUNTAIN in the group Connect with others in your area
"I'm in Flagstaff, Arizona"
Oct 4, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"It's almost the 3rd anniversary for me (it will be at the end of January). I have my up and down days but I do know that I am trying. My hardest thing is trying to get out and be social again...I moved away from where Derek and I lived. I fall…"
Sep 2, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Terry, I think I got used to being able to go and see Derek in the hospital or hospice. When I couldn't go see him or care for him anymore it was a huge part of me gone. I would just wander around not knowing what to do. Around the time that I…"
Aug 1, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"I completely agree with all of you. I work full time and come home to dogs, but I agree with you, widow85, it's hard to come home. I find I am more stressed and tense when I am home and I have moved since Derek has passed. It's so hard to…"
Jul 30, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"I don't like widow either. It's a constant reminder that my husband is gone. And I know it brings up intense emotions within me. Why can't that just be taken off forms?? Heather"
Jul 23, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Lonely...exactly how I feel. So many people around, I can work to be a member in the crowd most of the time but when I am uncomfortable I go into a shell. I spend more time with the people that I consider "safe"...really good friends and…"
Jul 13, 2015
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Jul 7, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"Hi. I am new to this group. I lost my husband of almost 7 years to colon cancer. He fought for 5.5 years of that. It's so difficult being in our position. All my friends are having children...a dream taken away. They get to come home to their…"
Jul 7, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Hi everyone. I lost my husband to a 5.5 year fight with colon cancer. Right now, I am fighting PTSD. I have been having these dreams/nightmares that are spawning from fear (at least that's what you psychologist thinks). It has been very…"
Jul 7, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) replied to ricepop's discussion others have a family and husband to go home to, wheras i have none....
"I am right there tonight. I miss my husband. The TV is on, but it's in the background. I wish I could cry to get these. Emotions out but I can't right now....this sucks. All I truly want is to hug him, smell him and have him kiss…"
Jul 6, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) replied to Missing D&Z (Heather)'s discussion Nightmares
"I'm honestly not sure. I have them, then I don't. I know I get over worked about things....my brain just amplifies them for some reason. One of them might be that someone took my fish tank and did something to it...or the roof leaked..or…"
Jul 6, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Have you found art/creative outlets to help you heal?
"I used to bake and decorate cakes. I was pretty good. When Derek got sick, it all stopped for the most part. Now that he is gone I have no desire to do it. It pains me that I don't have my "taste tester" around. Hopefully I can break…"
Jul 6, 2015
Callie2 replied to Missing D&Z (Heather)'s discussion Nightmares
"Are you certain it is not from your meds? Some do have that side effect. My husband had PTSD for as long as I knew him. He would have nightmares and wake up with the bed soaking wet. You have my empathy. I was on a med years back for my FMS and had…"
Jul 4, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Sad One's blog post The awkwardness of past tense
"I most of the time speak of my husband in the present tense except if someone gets confused. Then I change it. But you are right, it feels so weird saying it. It's like I have "given up hope" or something...in some weird way, if I…"
Jul 2, 2015
Missing D&Z (Heather) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Yeah, I have heard that too. I am seeing a therapist and counselor and I am on anti-anxiety and anti-depressants as well. I just don't understand why they are of me driving off a mountain road. It makes me shutter. I literally claw in my bed…"
Jul 2, 2015

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At 6:37pm on August 18, 2013, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village, Missing D&Z. I am so sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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