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Mo
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  • INVERMAY, saskatchewan, canada
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Mo commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Hello jpurpleshoes, im a single father of twelve. When I lost my wife four years ago my youngest was only one. But I had older children who have helped out in a huge way.  We each deal with the grief so differently so take everyone’s…"
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Just some thoughts

Posted on December 20, 2014 at 4:42am 1 Comment

I felt I should write this morning. I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but feel free to read. I hope it provokes some positive thoughts for everyone.



A garden in the wilderness



The wilderness has its own life and culture. I guess if we want to be scientific we would call it an ecosystem. With its own members and characters to carry out its chores. It very systematic and is able to keep itself well sustained.



But we as people don't do well… Continue

Pictures. I love them, I hate them!

Posted on November 9, 2014 at 6:33am 3 Comments

When I first lost my wife I collected all the pictures I could find of her and put them on my iPhone so that I would have her close to me in case I needed to be with her. Then I went to the picture store and made copies and blew them up with frames so that I could hang them on the walls in my room. I just wanted to be surrounded by her. Many times I would go through my collection of her pictures one by one. After some time I started to build a resentment to these pictures. I started to hate… Continue

Up all night

Posted on November 8, 2014 at 2:53am 1 Comment

I've been up since 1:30, and lying here till 5:30. It just occurred to me that I haven't really thought about my wife or the fact that I'm the only one in this bed throughout this whole time. This must be a good sign. I'm actually feeling quite normal. So often these times would be seen as lonely times for me. I don't know if I'm just getting used to being alone or what. I'm feeling like I can think about my wife and not get depressed about it.



I've tried to make thoughts of my wife… Continue

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At 9:38am on March 3, 2015, Elsol23 said…

Hi,Mo,I have been offline for a while,am going up to my public library now,more often to use the internet,I hope you are doing well!

At 11:15am on December 15, 2014, Callie2 said…
Hi Mo,
Just wanted to thank-you for the friend request! Callie
At 8:29am on December 14, 2014, Elsol23 said…

Mo.thanks so much for the friend request,I am new here,and today feeling a little isolated.I sure hope I can be of help and company here also.I work in a bookstore,my partner always came in my store,and I would buy him those big coffetable books about all the music and bands he loved.We both loved our music,I work in kid's,which is very helpful and fun,but it seems surreal,all our memories in my store.I have a huge Day of the Dead altar up,with posters,pictures of him,momentos of good times,and I talk to him every day.I don't plan on being with another partner,buit I sure am missing friends right nowI had so many great friends back home who liked to do things I liked,I have to be very grateful that my David always encouraged me to be myself,or I'd be so completely lost right now.The first thing I think of when I wake up is him.I am so glad to have found this site,and I am looking into a support group here in Tucson.Thanks so much for the friendship . 

At 3:15pm on December 13, 2014, Dogwood said…
I suppose with school, activities, and their immediate lives, they might get back into the swing of things sooner. I can see that. I think it's somewhat easier for my guys, because they're so wrapped up in their budding I dependent lives. With 10 children, and the bustle of activity, there must be a lot of positive energy to keep you afloat. Have you thought of any special way to honor her this Christmas, I mean, as a family? I know that's personal, so you don't have to answer.
At 11:30am on December 13, 2014, Dogwood said…
Oh, now I see the last part of your message. It seems like you're starting to get into a way of dealing with this that is starting to work for you. But, just give yourself permission to cry if it happens, in front of the kids or anywhere, of it doesn't happen to work from time to time. As I and others were saying, we can be in the grocery store and the waterworks just start. I decided just to go in with my business. If someone asks, I just say, oh, I'll be OK, just crying...and then when I can get it to pass, it passes. I don't know if that relates to what you're saying...
At 11:23am on December 13, 2014, Dogwood said…
Hi Mo, thanks for the friend request. I understand completely about the pictures. I'll bet that when you looked at them one day, it reminded you of the earliest time of grieving, when you out those photos up. Like last night, I just went downstairs to a separate suite where I took care of B. It was easier for him to stay there, than to keep walking stairs. I hadn't been in there for a long time. When I went in, I felt the cold (where the pipes burst last year) and it suddenly FELT like I was back at that terrible time. I'm going to go down and change things around to make new life there. Same with your pics. Give them a new purpose with a new arrangement.

You say you have 10 children at home still? I don't want to pry, but that sounds like a lot to manage, dealing with life going on, and with your children's grief, as well. It's good that you have this site just for yourself. Has the loss of your wife brought you al closer together?
At 4:13am on October 26, 2014, judy said…

Hi Mo,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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