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How I Survive Each Month's Anniversary Date

Posted on July 15, 2013 at 1:00pm 4 Comments

Hi Everyone,

I hope your day is going well and that you don't struggle each month on the day that you lost your loved one!  As I think you all know, but just in case you don't, my wife of nearly 52 beautiful years passed away on 6 August 2012. The one year Anniversary is coming up in less than a month and I've passed each month's Anniversary day along the way.  Many widows and widowers seem to have a very hard time when the monthly Anniversary day or the yearly Anniversary day of the…


Why Won't Anyone LIsten to Me?

Posted on July 12, 2013 at 7:00am 2 Comments

Good morning everyone on WV,

I know that many, if not most, of us always stop crying long enough to say, "why me and how come no one will listen to me!  It's like they don't want to hear about it!  It's like they don't even care!  First of all, it depends on the perspective of who's doing the asking and who's supposed to be doing the listening.  As the asker, I can assure you that they are listening, but like you say, they don't want to hear what you have to say.  It's not that they…


When You Can't Go On

Posted on July 9, 2013 at 9:00am 6 Comments

After you lose your loved one and feel that your life has ended, there can still be hope for a new life and a new you!  When you look at all you had and start to think that you lost everything and that you cannot possibly continue without the one you lost, then it's time to sit down and re-evaluate what you had, what you lost, and where you are now.

Where you are now is today and today can be the start of a new you and a new life.  At this very moment in time, you may feel hopelessly…


The Day My World Started Moving Again

Posted on July 8, 2013 at 7:22am 8 Comments

My wife passed away on 6 August 2012 and on that day not only did she pass away, but for me my world stopped moving! I stopped living and I might as well have passed away with her! For the first few months, I felt very sad and lost. We’d done everything together for nearly 52 years and suddenly I was all by myself. There I was in an empty house with only my son who had been living with us and helping me take care of my wife. He was still there, but for me, I was all alone. My son might have…


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At 11:10am on July 4, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
But Stan "how would you recognize me?jpswife on my forehead ?? :)LOL
At 6:28pm on July 3, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

oh PS  congrats on your promotion at Walmart!  and I wasn't being biased /prejudice when I stated all 'Christian friends"  I love your Stanism"s  and hope you will have someone new to share life with!!   cathy

At 1:44pm on July 3, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

  Hi Stan:)

   Thankyou for your thoughts! I too felt liked I had died when John did but only 3 months before you did--April 25,2012!! But I was faced with a choice--I have my daughter--22--living with me---but how could I remain sad & depressed for her with another 30-40 years left or until Jesus returns?!!

  So, I decided life goes on....&..find all the good & happiness you can!!

Sure I'd like to have someone to share this life with so I'm trying to trust it is in God's hands if there will be another!!

Thanks again for your inspiration!!  Looking forward to Heaven ---where I'll meet ALL the Christian friends I've found on WV!!      Cathy

At 8:46pm on June 28, 2013, Linda Shrauger said…

People think I should move on.But i miss my Gary so much.He was my bestfreind we did everything together.I still love my Gary so much.It will be 5 yrs in aug.Linda

At 3:54am on March 26, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
Hi Stan!
Enjoy your first day, adventure,of your new job while seeing what GOD has in store for you'. Thankyou for your comments---they were an encouragement to me!! I" m so thankful that we'll both see our spouses again! (((((HUGS)))(((. Cathy
At 9:17pm on March 25, 2013, onmyown said…

Congratulations!! Enjoy your day!!



At 7:08am on February 20, 2013, Maggie said…

Hi Stan.  I am so glad you had a good birthday.  It helps if you have company.  Mine was in January and I was visiting my youngest daughter.  Well, we were actually moving her into her new home before she started her first teaching post.  She absolutely spoiled me on my birthday (in between unpacking and hanging curtains) since it was also my first birthday since Johan passed on.  Hope you have a wonderful day and hugs from South Africa.

At 5:36pm on February 18, 2013, Barbiwarbi said…

Stan, I just want to tell you that you are a very amazing man.  You have so much insight and have helped me more than you will ever know.   Just needed to share that thought.  It is difficult for me to depend on others and almost impossible to ask for help from anyone.  I have always been the giver and rescuer.   Again many thanks to you for your kindness and thoughtfulness.

At 2:06pm on February 18, 2013, Barbiwarbi said…

Stan, thanks for your note and encouragement.  I believe I am still stunned and in shock.  It is now 5 weeks and 2 says.  Seems to get harder and more painful each day but I try and stay busy.  I actually went and had to have vehicle titles transferred to my name on Friday, of course my 23 year old (most wonderful) grandson went with me.  Today I took my car and got it inspected.  First time I have had to do that in many years.   My sister, bless her heart, was off today, so she went with me but I feel kind of good that I did it.  I wish people lived closer together because it could be so nice to sit and have coffee with everyone.  I hope your weekend went well.  Mine seemed kind of long and then I had off today.   Kept busy but sadness and fighting tears is really tiring.  Hope to talk to you soon.  I have tried to go into main chat room because I don't know how else to talk with other groups like those born in 40's or who lost someone in 2012 0r 2013.  Guess I need guidance to find my way.   Take care for now

At 11:47am on February 12, 2013, Maggie said…

I hope you have a wonderful day too, Stan.  God bless.


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