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Having to say the "W" word

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs Bear 11 hours ago. 9 Replies

Boy, that was hard. I went to see a specialist and he asked my marital status.  For 14 years married I was always happy to say married.  It was so hard to breathe at that moment, let alone to say the…Continue

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Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Thanks for sharing Frank. Losing Bill suddenly and unexpectedly made me get my affairs in order quicker than I wanted.   They will never be a erased from our memories."
11 hours ago
Frank replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Hi All, It is hard to check that box Widower.  Susan and I were married for 35 years.  Her medical problems were many and varied.  We used the same hospital for the last 20 years, and it came to the point where even the "Gurney…"
11 hours ago
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Danceinthekitchen....I an so sorry for your loss.  I think for the first 60 days I was just numb."
Saturday
Bonaroo replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Same thing happened to me - had to go back to the same hospital where he died for a test. They always ask about your contact information. Fortunately they had a box of Kleenex close by and no one was in the waiting room.  "
Saturday
Luv4Z replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"I do not want to answer that question. I was also married 14 years. Its only been 2 weeks so I might be too early to be thinking about that. I have found comfort knowing there are others having the same issues and seeing what they do to help. "
Saturday
Mrs Bear commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"Thanks Shoosie. That is what Bill and I use to say, that and we fought over the "I love you more".  I am a fan of the ink.  I have one and getting ready for a tribute one for my love."
Friday
Shoosie2 commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"Thank you, Mrs Bear!  I have been have a rough few days with my grief- I'm 6 months out. I am printing this off and taping it to my kitchen cupboard so I'll remind myself how good I had it for 18 years. Your title is what caught my…"
Thursday
Mrs Bear posted a blog post

Mending Broken

I cry at the laughterI laugh through the tearsI dance with the sobsCounting minutes,  missing yearsI whisper at the noiseHeart left in shredsShouting at the silenceFor words we never saidI reach through the darknessFor love that isn't thereI'll find it in the light againOnce I bear my widow's tearsSee More
Jun 14
Mrs Bear replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"How you speak of Marcus tells me you loved him dearly and I know he probably loved you just as much or more.  He would know that you would grieve for him but I am sure he wouldn't want you to suffer or e hirt.  I always say to myself…"
Jun 14
Mrs Bear replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"I have keep his eyeglasses where he left them last.  His clothes are still hanging there but I did remove some of his things from the shower.  They made me cry every time I showered.  It's been 2 months and 5 days.  As I…"
Jun 14
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"I know.  I want to answer married but he is just not on this earth.  They need a category for that because I feel I will always be married to my Bill."
Jun 13
Mrs Bear commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"Aww Diva70.  I am glad the words brought you comfort. So sorry for your loss.  That is beautiful that he is leaving such a mark on the world and that his legacy will live on.   Those "first since" moment are totally…"
Jun 13
DIVA70 commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"This is beautiful! On April 29 I lost my soulmate, my knight in shining armor, my prince charming. We had 50 wonderful years together. We endured the good, the bad and the ugly together. We experienced miscarriages, job losses, and physical…"
Jun 13
Callie2 replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Mrs Bear, Just recently had to fill out a doctor’s questionnaire and a question was marital status— MARRIED, SINGLE, DIVORCED, OR “OTHER”.  Thought that strange so I didn’t answer it. You know, there are different…"
Jun 13
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Thanks Rainy.  Hugs back. Yes, little by little we will pick ourselves up. "
Jun 13
Rainy (Misty) replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Mrs. Bear, I think there is a discussion around here about that.  I'm so sorry (HUGS) we have all been through that somber moment.  Yes, it's an eye-opener and a tear jerker.  I'm six months out and was in the…"
Jun 13

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Mending Broken

Posted on June 14, 2018 at 12:33am 0 Comments

I cry at the laughter

I laugh through the tears

I dance with the sobs

Counting minutes,  missing years…



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Infinity and beyond

Posted on June 12, 2018 at 8:54pm 4 Comments

I love you through my pain

I love you through my loss

I love you through the tears

I'll love you still, through our lost years

You loved me when I couldn't

You loved me when I wouldn't…

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At 10:27am on June 9, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, Mrs Bear. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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