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Some Days are Just Sad Days

Started this discussion. Last reply by Melissa on Tuesday. 27 Replies

Does this happen to you?  While it has been 8 months since my husband passed away of Multiple Myeloma and my crying is not lie it was in the first weeks, there are days that the sadness lays heavy on…Continue

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Melissa replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"I started to write "The worst days are the ones where I'm busy because I have so much that has to get done, but am so full of sadness..." but then I think that's not true. The worst days are probably the ones where I feel…"
Tuesday
Mrs.Linda replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"I could have been more loving. Being sensitive to touch, I was not much of a cuddle bug. Really the years of Dan's illness drew us ever closer.  I got to care for and love him all the more as the one fortunate to be the one to be with him…"
Aug 9
Mrs.Linda replied to frankenpickle's discussion Did your pets help you with your loss? Did THEY need YOUR help?
"Our Aussie came to us after her previous people had passed away.  She stayed very close to Dan during his illness and slept under his hospital bed after that awful day when it was set up in our living room and we knew what that meant. …"
Aug 9
Mrs.Linda replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"I love that you would have arrived early for that little more time!  My husband told me 2 weeks after our first date that he loved me. I said for him to tell me again in 6 months.  He said it again for the rest of his life...."
Aug 9
Mrs.Linda replied to Dee1960's discussion Phone Call from the Afterlife?
"How strange.  Have not had that but I have had (spam) emails from his email address and when his name comes up, it is startling. And one day when I was snoozing on the couch next to his easy chair I sensed Dan saying, "Caught you…"
Aug 9
Mrs.Linda replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"I am totally with you on all this. I am not constant crying and sad as I do my best to keep busy. But the quiet times--yeah.  The other night I dreamed that my husband was alive and in a hospital in Salt Lake City (!) and I had not been to see…"
Aug 9
Lisa_says replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"It will be 8 months for me on july 6th.  I think the "numbness" is wearing off and I am having a really hard time.  Constant crying and sadness.  I miss my husband so very much. I do believe grief takes a long while to…"
Jul 31
Mrs.Linda replied to JustLynn's discussion Do you think you’ll get married again?
"I visit a senior home and almost every widow wears her wedding rings. My widowed Aunts wear theirs.  I was wearing both mine and Dan's but now I am just wearing a small silver band. I married once and it was for life---even after his is…"
Jul 26
Daisyluv replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"It has been 19 months for me since I lost my husband. I felt the same way. I met my husband when I was 15 and married him when I was 17 so I went from my parents house to living with my husband. I was with him for 36 years and I felt so lost when he…"
Jul 26
Mrs.Linda replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"Yes, we are in the same place. Had the sprinkler guy out again today and I think, hope, for the last time. I even gave him the boxes of sprinkler repair items that my husband had collected and he took off part of my bill. Yesterday I attended an…"
Jul 23
sis replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"Yes, I battle with the same things and it is 17 months since I lost my husband. I feel it is actually getting worse, but I am handling it better. I have a couple of acres that he always took care of. I don't even know how to turn on the riding…"
Jul 17
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"From the practical side, in general, men keep an eye on the house & vehicle(s). It's like everything magically runs smoothly when its actually the many reason(s) they are busy in the garage, out in the yard or running to a home improvement…"
Jul 15
Mrs.Linda replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"I was at the church on Friday and a wedding was going on. And just for a moment I was back to the place of my own wedding. Its like I was there again!  I have not ever had that happen before."
Jul 15
Mrs.Linda replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"Yes, why is it that so many things seem to break? Right now my AC/Furnace is out.  has been for a week.  Hard to get someone to the house.  It has been hot.  I hope that gets fixed tomorrow. The sprinkler system is mostly…"
Jul 15
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"Yes, as a psychologist you then understand Kubler-Ross' findings are also used as a model for survivors experiencing the first few years of grief when it is raw & overwhelming. Those stages are common & will end to become all about you;…"
Jul 14
goingon (Cynthia) replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"That's true.  When we least expect, something happens that throws us for a loop."
Jul 14

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At 7:34am on April 18, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Mrs.Linda. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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