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Mrs.Linda
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Has your grief suddenly hit you when you least expected it?

Started this discussion. Last reply by only1sue Sep 2. 4 Replies

Dear widowed friends,You know, in the first weeks and months it did not take much to bring tears to my eyes when thinking about my husband.  Of course I think of him every single day and sometimes I…Continue

Some Days are Just Sad Days

Started this discussion. Last reply by Kris63 Aug 21. 28 Replies

Does this happen to you?  While it has been 8 months since my husband passed away of Multiple Myeloma and my crying is not lie it was in the first weeks, there are days that the sadness lays heavy on…Continue

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Mrs.Linda replied to JustLynn's discussion Do you think you’ll get married again?
"I can see that you miss this particular partner but you are not a widow in the defined sense.  You did not have a committed marriage nor were you like many here who with their spouse raised a family together. It is not the same at all."
Sep 12
Mrs.Linda replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"I like my home. It is paid off. But the large yard with mature landscape and many trees and an almost non-existent sprinkler system is something that I will one day not be able to keep up. And I really dislike yard work; my husband enjoyed it. …"
Sep 10
only1sue replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Has your grief suddenly hit you when you least expected it?
"Fathers Day, anniversaries, birthdays, I expect to feel the sadness, the other times when I hear a favourite song, see couples holding hands or hear someone say " what would you like to do?" those are the times that can make me tear up…"
Sep 2
Mrs.Linda replied to Melissa's discussion Loneliness
"Yes, I feel like this house is like a nice 'prison' of sorts.  A lot of yard upkeep. The watering will stop soon but the gazillion leaves will be coming down. I am looking a little bit at other houses. I do like my house; it is a…"
Aug 30
Mrs.Linda replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
" I rather suspect perhaps that the original shock of losing your spouse has not yet worn off. You are numb. And in a way that is a protecting thing. But the day may come when that changes for you. You have your son to think about so you're…"
Aug 26
Mrs.Linda replied to Melissa's discussion Loneliness
" Well, I just have to take it one day at a time. And somehow I get through the day. But it's like tomorrow I was to meet someone out of town and it fell through and I think what am I going to do for that whole day tomorrow. And the…"
Aug 26
Frank replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Has your grief suddenly hit you when you least expected it?
"Hi All... Yes, I believe we all have those times and occasions when something breaks loose and we feel our loss, sometimes with the impact as if it were brand new. I call my times, "Zingers."  It can be some scene on the TV, or, it…"
Aug 24
Rich replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Has your grief suddenly hit you when you least expected it?
"Everyday, everyday."
Aug 22
Timelord replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Has your grief suddenly hit you when you least expected it?
"Hi - well, perhaps ironically, I tend to have my moments in the car while driving to/from work or whatnot.  That's where I'm by myself...and I cannot stand being by myself, so to speak, so I've found the world of podcasts (mostly…"
Aug 22
Mrs.Linda posted a discussion

Has your grief suddenly hit you when you least expected it?

Dear widowed friends,You know, in the first weeks and months it did not take much to bring tears to my eyes when thinking about my husband.  Of course I think of him every single day and sometimes I can just be driving and I can tear up thinking about Dan...But today I lost it at the DMV!  It has been almost 10 months and this is the last thing (I hope) that I needed to do which is change the titles of the vehicles to my name only. And it hit me again and I started to cry right when I was…See More
Aug 22
Kris63 replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"Yes, Mrs. Linda, some days are just sad. Truthfully, most days are sad for me and I am 14 months since my husband died. I, too, don't cry like I did in the beginning but I still find myself having mini-breakdowns frequently. We met when I was…"
Aug 21
Melissa replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"I started to write "The worst days are the ones where I'm busy because I have so much that has to get done, but am so full of sadness..." but then I think that's not true. The worst days are probably the ones where I feel…"
Aug 13
Mrs.Linda replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"I could have been more loving. Being sensitive to touch, I was not much of a cuddle bug. Really the years of Dan's illness drew us ever closer.  I got to care for and love him all the more as the one fortunate to be the one to be with him…"
Aug 9
Mrs.Linda replied to frankenpickle's discussion Did your pets help you with your loss? Did THEY need YOUR help?
"Our Aussie came to us after her previous people had passed away.  She stayed very close to Dan during his illness and slept under his hospital bed after that awful day when it was set up in our living room and we knew what that meant. …"
Aug 9
Mrs.Linda replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"I love that you would have arrived early for that little more time!  My husband told me 2 weeks after our first date that he loved me. I said for him to tell me again in 6 months.  He said it again for the rest of his life...."
Aug 9
Mrs.Linda replied to Dee1960's discussion Phone Call from the Afterlife?
"How strange.  Have not had that but I have had (spam) emails from his email address and when his name comes up, it is startling. And one day when I was snoozing on the couch next to his easy chair I sensed Dan saying, "Caught you…"
Aug 9

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At 7:34am on April 18, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Mrs.Linda. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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