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NancyD replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"A few months after my husband died, I ran into an acquaintance who said, "I'm so sorry to hear that Frank passed."  I smiled and said thank you. (Lots of practice in gritting my teeth and saying thank you.) Then she smiled and…"
Jan 19
NancyD replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Christmas
"This is my second one.  Frank died on September 15, 2017.  Last year Christmas was hard, but it seems like everyone in the family was trying very hard to just make it through and be kind and supportive of each other.  I followed all…"
Dec 21, 2018
NancyD replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Winter time BLUES complicating grief.
"Hi Misty,  I agree with Frank below that part of the issue is Nature.  The shorter days affect some of us more than others, separate from the grief.  For several years now I have used a lightbox designed for treating Seasonal…"
Nov 13, 2018
NancyD replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"Interesting thread here!  The main physical symptom of my grief continues to be fatigue.  It's almost constant and even though I am sleeping better a year later, I am still very, very  tired. Also, I have been battling sciatica…"
Oct 29, 2018
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Susan, Melissa, and riet:  Yes to all those feelings for me, too!  It's been a year since my husband died and it feels like I've had to make SO many decisions, all without the one person whom I relied on to help me reason things…"
Oct 3, 2018
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riet, I am so sorry for your loss.  And I understand how hard it is to make decisions when you've lost the one you could always reason things out with and decide together.  I am overwhelmed by this.  It has been a year since my…"
Oct 3, 2018
NancyD commented on MomOfBoys (Tammi)'s blog post Sundays
"This is a very thought-provoking post.  Thanks for writing your feelings so honestly.  Much what you say here is not how I feel (I do not hate the word widow and I do not feel guilty when happy) but I am encouraged that we have all found…"
Sep 13, 2018
NancyD replied to Angeldawg's discussion What are you doing to keep busy during the day? in the group Born in the 50s
"Hmmm...this has made me stop to think.  What DO I do to keep busy during the day?  Every day I read the paper, do the crossword and drink coffee, do a little housework, get online to check out a few favorite sites.  I have a couple…"
Sep 13, 2018
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I retired three years ago from a career as teacher and school administrator.  I had happy plans of all sorts of things I would be doing.  Turns out Fate had a different plan for me:  Out of the blue I developed severe back pain…"
Sep 12, 2018
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Nataliepin.  Wish I could give you a hug! I understand completely your comment "We discussed his passing at length but somehow it still seems so unexpected, like it shouldn't have happened yet even though we knew it was…"
Sep 4, 2018
NancyD commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post The right time for everything
"Yes, EarthSpirit, it's lots of ups and downs for me, too.  Peace is the best thing to wish for, isn't it? Shoosie 2. you are the first person I've read here to mention the pain of the doing the taxes.  I get it.  I too…"
Aug 31, 2018
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I talk to my husband a little bit, too.  Sometimes I'm very aware of his "presence"  and I do feel like he sometimes communicates with me.  Mostly he "tells" me that he is OK, that I needn't worry so…"
Aug 29, 2018
NancyD commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post The right time for everything
"I think it takes a long time and a lot of starts-and-stops to figure out what to do with all the "stuff".  I cut myself a lot of slack on this, having read on these boards that it is different for everyone:  how to process the…"
Aug 29, 2018
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
" I just want to reach out to everyone posting about guilt and give you each a hug.  And hug myself too!!! I know we all did the best we could do at the end of our beloved's life.  The "woulda shoulda coulda" thinking…"
Aug 23, 2018
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My husband passed peacefully in the early morning here at home.  I held him for a little while, then called our kids who live nearby, and then his brother.  They all came over.  Bittersweet memories of those few hours before I said,…"
Aug 22, 2018
NancyD commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"For me, it is just taking a long time to empty out everything.  I do one thing (bathroom drawers or desk) and then do nothing for a month!  I think that's all OK. I have asked my adult kids to come look through things, but they mostly…"
Aug 21, 2018

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At 12:33am on October 13, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, NancyD. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.


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