"I just signed up for Camp Widow in San Diego in July. It's stirring up a lot of feelings and I'm surprised by that. I think it's going to be good---but it's just given me another little reality flash about who I am…"
"This pretty much describes me, too. I am slowly getting rid of things that I will never want. And still there are MANY things of his all around me. I find I can clean out things of his like the bathroom drawers, the bedside table, every…"
"Thank you ShirleyB. My husband died six months ago and I can feel a shift towards the kind of thinking and feeling you describe so well. I too want to "maybe start doing 'things again' ". What might that look…"
"Callie2: When my best friend told me that my husband had visited her in a dream, I was honestly kind of mad. Why her and not me? But then when I thought about it some more I decided that it was a tribute to him that other people…"
"I wear my husband's wrist watch. Makes me very happy. (On the other hand I couldn't wait to get rid of his old leather chair---all I could picture was how very sick he looked sitting in it at the end. And after he passed,…"
"I think this is something where your gut (your heart?) tells you exactly what to do. And whatever it says is right for YOU. It has been six months since my husband died here at home in our bed. I immediately rounded up and threw…"
"My heart goes out to you, Gamblerhodesclark. The pain of early grief is so brutal. My husband died five months ago after a hard battle with stomach cancer. In the first couple of months I too relived all the days my husband was sick, I…"
"Snow, I am SO sorry for your loss. I echo many of the earlier replies here. Just go ahead and cry, cry, cry. There is not one "timetable" for all this grief.
My husband passed five months ago. I can tell you my…"
"Gunnerx2 andShirleyB--yes, we need to do whatever it is we need to do. And I'm noticing that as time passes what I need is changing little bit. For me, it is time to begin to clean up and rearrange the house a tiny bit to make it…"
"I love that metaphor, Lev: "I am struggling to get back on to the horse that I put into the stable so that I could be present for my husband 100%. I am not a robot so there are no on/off switches." That describes me and my…"
"Shirley and Rainy, I'm four months into this journey and for me it continues to be brutal, but there are tiny "points of light" for me now and I no longer cry all day, every day. So I hold onto those two little awareness…"
"adoption1964: I could have written your post myself, almost word by word. I live alone but my adult children and grandkids live nearby and watching them struggle with their grief is really tough. Our "Papa Bear" was so well…"
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