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NancyD
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NancyD commented on MomOfBoys (Tammi)'s blog post Sundays
"This is a very thought-provoking post.  Thanks for writing your feelings so honestly.  Much what you say here is not how I feel (I do not hate the word widow and I do not feel guilty when happy) but I am encouraged that we have all found…"
Sep 13
NancyD replied to Angeldawg's discussion What are you doing to keep busy during the day? in the group Born in the 50s
"Hmmm...this has made me stop to think.  What DO I do to keep busy during the day?  Every day I read the paper, do the crossword and drink coffee, do a little housework, get online to check out a few favorite sites.  I have a couple…"
Sep 13
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I retired three years ago from a career as teacher and school administrator.  I had happy plans of all sorts of things I would be doing.  Turns out Fate had a different plan for me:  Out of the blue I developed severe back pain…"
Sep 12
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Nataliepin.  Wish I could give you a hug! I understand completely your comment "We discussed his passing at length but somehow it still seems so unexpected, like it shouldn't have happened yet even though we knew it was…"
Sep 4
NancyD commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post The right time for everything
"Yes, EarthSpirit, it's lots of ups and downs for me, too.  Peace is the best thing to wish for, isn't it? Shoosie 2. you are the first person I've read here to mention the pain of the doing the taxes.  I get it.  I too…"
Aug 31
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I talk to my husband a little bit, too.  Sometimes I'm very aware of his "presence"  and I do feel like he sometimes communicates with me.  Mostly he "tells" me that he is OK, that I needn't worry so…"
Aug 29
NancyD commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post The right time for everything
"I think it takes a long time and a lot of starts-and-stops to figure out what to do with all the "stuff".  I cut myself a lot of slack on this, having read on these boards that it is different for everyone:  how to process the…"
Aug 29
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
" I just want to reach out to everyone posting about guilt and give you each a hug.  And hug myself too!!! I know we all did the best we could do at the end of our beloved's life.  The "woulda shoulda coulda" thinking…"
Aug 23
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My husband passed peacefully in the early morning here at home.  I held him for a little while, then called our kids who live nearby, and then his brother.  They all came over.  Bittersweet memories of those few hours before I said,…"
Aug 22
NancyD commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Socks! Really?
"For me, it is just taking a long time to empty out everything.  I do one thing (bathroom drawers or desk) and then do nothing for a month!  I think that's all OK. I have asked my adult kids to come look through things, but they mostly…"
Aug 21
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you SweetMelissa for your post yesterday about your need to understand your husband's death, exactly how it happened, what it was like, etc.  I appreciate that honesty.  It's something I can't really share with my…"
Aug 8
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I feel like Riet said:   "But... here is my but: I do want to live: to honor him, to see him in our children and grandchildren...He, himself wanted to live a full life till his last day. I have to follow his example." My husband lived…"
Aug 6
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, this is the right place to"say the unsayable".  Everyone here understands the grief is a brutal thing and that it is both unique (based on who I am, who my spouse was, etc.) and universal (every grieving widow is in pain,…"
Aug 5
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"The clothes are a challenge.  Ten months later I am just finishing up giving them away.  It's been a start-and-stop process for me.  He had some beautiful things and I was happy to give his leather jacket, sweaters, even his tux…"
Aug 4
NancyD replied to kenslove 's discussion No music for us
"Oh, kat.  Sorry for your loss.  Don't stop posting!  You are very welcome here.  Tone is hard to read in an email or text or post and implying and inferring can make us feel crazier than we already are in our grief!…"
Jul 19
NancyD replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"I don't think that's weird at all.  I sometimes lie down on the grave when I visit---kind of the same thing.  Very comforting to lie near "him", even knowing, as you say, it's not him. I don't think anyone who…"
Jun 6

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At 12:33am on October 13, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, NancyD. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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