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NancyD
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NancyD replied to kenslove 's discussion No music for us
"Oh, kat.  Sorry for your loss.  Don't stop posting!  You are very welcome here.  Tone is hard to read in an email or text or post and implying and inferring can make us feel crazier than we already are in our grief!…"
Thursday
NancyD replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"I don't think that's weird at all.  I sometimes lie down on the grave when I visit---kind of the same thing.  Very comforting to lie near "him", even knowing, as you say, it's not him. I don't think anyone who…"
Jun 6
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Athena53 and riet,  Yes, I think it's common to relive the last parts and wish we had done something different.  Frank went into home hospice care on a Thursday morning.  I remember the nurse telling me that she thought that he…"
May 29
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Just wanted to share this:  It's our first wedding anniversary since my husband died 8 months ago.  I was dreading it.  But this morning I was surprised by waking up with a sense of being "held in love".  I…"
May 24
NancyD replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion How often do you visit the gravesite?
"I visit Frank's grave every week or so, not on any schedule.  The cemetery is nearby so I can go spur of the moment.  I first stop and buy flowers at a big grocery store nearby.  I find the visit very comforting.  I talk to…"
Apr 29
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hi Laurel,  I too am sorry for your loss.  It is very difficult to navigate fresh grief, for sure.  You've come to the right place.  You are not alone. Melissa, it has been 7 months for me and I also feel a tiny bit better…"
Apr 26
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I just signed up for Camp Widow in San Diego in July.  It's stirring up a lot of feelings and I'm surprised by that.  I think it's going to be good---but it's just given me another little reality flash about who I am…"
Apr 15
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"This pretty much describes me, too.  I am slowly getting rid of things that I will never want.  And still there are MANY things of his all around me. I find I can clean out things of his like the bathroom drawers, the bedside table, every…"
Mar 20
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Thank you ShirleyB.  My husband died six months ago and I can feel a shift towards the kind of thinking and feeling you describe so well.  I too want to "maybe start doing 'things again' ".  What might that look…"
Mar 17
NancyD commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post What's with her?
"Maybe Megan Divine's article about how to help a grieving friend would suggest a few things to share with "non grievers" in that talk?  http://http://www.refugeingrief.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/grieving-friend-essay-PDF.pdf"
Mar 13
NancyD replied to kenslove 's discussion No music for us
"Callie2:  When my best friend told me that my husband had visited her in a dream, I was honestly kind of mad.  Why her and not me?  But then when I thought about it some more I decided that it was a tribute to him that other people…"
Mar 13
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"That made me smile, shelley!  Sounds lovely and not weird at all."
Mar 11
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"I wear my husband's wrist watch.  Makes me very  happy.  (On the other hand I couldn't wait to get rid of his old leather chair---all I could picture was how very sick he looked sitting in it at the end. And after he passed,…"
Mar 11
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"I think this is something where your gut (your heart?) tells you exactly what to do.  And whatever it says is right for YOU.  It has been six months since my husband died here at home in our bed.   I immediately rounded up and threw…"
Mar 10
NancyD replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Fromage, my husband also died after  14 months of stomach cancer. Would you be willing to connect with me to "chat" via message?  I sent you a friend request.  Thanks."
Feb 25
NancyD replied to Tess's discussion Moving forward and making decisions in the group Born in the 50s
"I just want to add my voice to those encouraging you to go back to school to finish the graduate degree.  It's something you "would love to do", so I'd take that as a clear sign!  :)  "
Feb 22

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At 12:33am on October 13, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, NancyD. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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