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NancyD
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NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hi Laurel,  I too am sorry for your loss.  It is very difficult to navigate fresh grief, for sure.  You've come to the right place.  You are not alone. Melissa, it has been 7 months for me and I also feel a tiny bit better…"
13 hours ago
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I just signed up for Camp Widow in San Diego in July.  It's stirring up a lot of feelings and I'm surprised by that.  I think it's going to be good---but it's just given me another little reality flash about who I am…"
Apr 15
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"This pretty much describes me, too.  I am slowly getting rid of things that I will never want.  And still there are MANY things of his all around me. I find I can clean out things of his like the bathroom drawers, the bedside table, every…"
Mar 20
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Thank you ShirleyB.  My husband died six months ago and I can feel a shift towards the kind of thinking and feeling you describe so well.  I too want to "maybe start doing 'things again' ".  What might that look…"
Mar 17
NancyD commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post What's with her?
"Maybe Megan Divine's article about how to help a grieving friend would suggest a few things to share with "non grievers" in that talk?  http://http://www.refugeingrief.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/grieving-friend-essay-PDF.pdf"
Mar 13
NancyD replied to kenslove 's discussion No music for us
"Callie2:  When my best friend told me that my husband had visited her in a dream, I was honestly kind of mad.  Why her and not me?  But then when I thought about it some more I decided that it was a tribute to him that other people…"
Mar 13
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"That made me smile, shelley!  Sounds lovely and not weird at all."
Mar 11
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"I wear my husband's wrist watch.  Makes me very  happy.  (On the other hand I couldn't wait to get rid of his old leather chair---all I could picture was how very sick he looked sitting in it at the end. And after he passed,…"
Mar 11
NancyD replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"I think this is something where your gut (your heart?) tells you exactly what to do.  And whatever it says is right for YOU.  It has been six months since my husband died here at home in our bed.   I immediately rounded up and threw…"
Mar 10
NancyD replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Fromage, my husband also died after  14 months of stomach cancer. Would you be willing to connect with me to "chat" via message?  I sent you a friend request.  Thanks."
Feb 25
NancyD replied to Tess's discussion Moving forward and making decisions in the group Born in the 50s
"I just want to add my voice to those encouraging you to go back to school to finish the graduate degree.  It's something you "would love to do", so I'd take that as a clear sign!  :)  "
Feb 22
NancyD replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"My heart goes out to you, Gamblerhodesclark. The pain of early grief is so brutal.  My husband died five months ago after a hard battle with stomach cancer.  In the first couple of months I too relived all the days my husband was sick, I…"
Feb 5
NancyD replied to Snow's discussion Can't Stop Crying in the group Widowed in 2017
"Snow, I am SO sorry for your loss.  I echo many of the earlier replies here.  Just go ahead and cry, cry, cry.  There is not one "timetable" for all this grief. My husband passed five months ago.  I can tell you my…"
Feb 5
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Gunnerx2 andShirleyB--yes, we need to do whatever it is we need to do.  And I'm noticing that as time passes what I need is changing little bit.  For me, it is time to begin to clean up and rearrange the house a tiny bit to make it…"
Jan 24
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I love that metaphor, Lev: "I am struggling to get back on to the horse that I put into the stable so that I could be present for my husband 100%.  I am not a robot so there are no on/off switches."  That describes me and my…"
Jan 11
NancyD commented on ShirleyB's blog post I feel like this is getting harder
"Shirley and Rainy, I'm four months into this journey and for me it continues  to be brutal, but there are tiny "points of light" for me now and I no longer cry all day, every day.  So I hold onto those two little awareness…"
Jan 9

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At 12:33am on October 13, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, NancyD. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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