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NancyD
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NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I love that metaphor, Lev: "I am struggling to get back on to the horse that I put into the stable so that I could be present for my husband 100%.  I am not a robot so there are no on/off switches."  That describes me and my…"
Jan 11
NancyD commented on ShirleyB's blog post I feel like this is getting harder
"Shirley and Rainy, I'm four months into this journey and for me it continues  to be brutal, but there are tiny "points of light" for me now and I no longer cry all day, every day.  So I hold onto those two little awareness…"
Jan 9
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"adoption1964: I could have written your post myself, almost word by word.  I live alone but my adult children and grandkids live nearby and watching them struggle with their grief is really tough.  Our "Papa Bear" was so well…"
Jan 2
NancyD replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Let's Get Acquainted
"A diamond and pearl necklace.  Jewelry was never important to either of us, but our two daughters have married guys who like giving their wives jewelry for special occasions, and Frank said it was a special occasion.  He joked that he was…"
Jan 1
NancyD replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Let's Get Acquainted
"This was New years Eve 2016.  Frank was recovering from the surgery 3 weeks before---the surgery for his stomach cancer that had to be aborted and gave us the news that it was terminal.  He lived for 10 more months, passing peacefully at…"
Dec 31
NancyD commented on adoption1964's blog post Good Days and Bad Days
"Adoption1964: I think it's perfectly normal in our grief to have regrets about medical treatment.  I do.  My husband's stomach surgery had to be aborted when they realized the extent of the cancer (did not show up on the scan…"
Dec 29, 2017
NancyD commented on Peach's blog post Dealing with emptiness and idle time and low energy
"Peach:  I too have the "zapped" low energy times.  I can barely function when they hit.  I am sure they are caused by the grief, so I haven't freaked out about them, but wow!  It's all I can do some days to…"
Dec 29, 2017
NancyD replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"Carmen13: I think you are so right when you said " I am changed forever and its a long slow process finding out who I am again".  I feel very confused about who I am in the world.  I certainly never wanted to be without my…"
Dec 27, 2017
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Inside Love:  You are so right about knowing intuitively that the loss of a beloved spouse is not something to "get through".  Where does that idea come from?  I know intuitively too that it is just crazy to think I could…"
Nov 8, 2017
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"ShirleyB, you are right.  I'm not judging anybody's sh*t here but the saga continued today and I still don't have my money.  The bank guy just called me to tell me I should come in again tomorrow to finalize the process of…"
Oct 31, 2017
NancyD commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"45 days.  I am still mostly just SO SAD.  But this afternoon I also felt just plain overwhelmed. Very defeated.  I have been working with Wells Fargo bank to accomplish three things:  close a checking account that was in my…"
Oct 30, 2017
NancyD replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am so sorry for your loss and sorry that you get to be part of this group.  My husband has been gone for 6 weeks now and I feel all of those feelings you so well describe here.  Coming to accept the reality is just a long painful…"
Oct 27, 2017
NancyD commented on Anna's blog post These days I'm anxious.
"I can understand what you say about compartmentalizing.  I went into a "just do it" mode once my husband began to get really sick at the end of his cancer battle.  I was efficient and took good care of him, managing his meds, his…"
Oct 16, 2017
NancyD replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"Yes, ShirleyB, it feels surreal to me too.  I cry a lot.  I'm kind of amazed how much I can cry!  I do think that this great grief is the price I am having to pay for the great love I had.  And while I would never in a…"
Oct 15, 2017
NancyD replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"I, too, knew my husband was not going to survive, and yet the end took me by surprise.  I find myself obsessively reliving the last day (that I didn't know was going to be his last) over and over in my mind:  Would I have done…"
Oct 15, 2017
NancyD replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am so sorry for your loss.  My husband Frank died a month ago after a 14 month battle with stomach cancer.  For me too the sadness is overwhelming.  I told a friend yesterday that "each day I wake up to a big bowl of sad…"
Oct 15, 2017

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At 12:33am on October 13, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, NancyD. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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