"Oh, kat. Sorry for your loss. Don't stop posting! You are very welcome here. Tone is hard to read in an email or text or post and implying and inferring can make us feel crazier than we already are in our grief!…"
"I don't think that's weird at all. I sometimes lie down on the grave when I visit---kind of the same thing. Very comforting to lie near "him", even knowing, as you say, it's not him.
I don't think anyone who…"
"Athena53 and riet, Yes, I think it's common to relive the last parts and wish we had done something different. Frank went into home hospice care on a Thursday morning. I remember the nurse telling me that she thought that he…"
"Just wanted to share this: It's our first wedding anniversary since my husband died 8 months ago. I was dreading it. But this morning I was surprised by waking up with a sense of being "held in love". I…"
"I visit Frank's grave every week or so, not on any schedule. The cemetery is nearby so I can go spur of the moment. I first stop and buy flowers at a big grocery store nearby. I find the visit very comforting. I talk to…"
"Hi Laurel, I too am sorry for your loss. It is very difficult to navigate fresh grief, for sure. You've come to the right place. You are not alone.
Melissa, it has been 7 months for me and I also feel a tiny bit better…"
"I just signed up for Camp Widow in San Diego in July. It's stirring up a lot of feelings and I'm surprised by that. I think it's going to be good---but it's just given me another little reality flash about who I am…"
"This pretty much describes me, too. I am slowly getting rid of things that I will never want. And still there are MANY things of his all around me. I find I can clean out things of his like the bathroom drawers, the bedside table, every…"
"Thank you ShirleyB. My husband died six months ago and I can feel a shift towards the kind of thinking and feeling you describe so well. I too want to "maybe start doing 'things again' ". What might that look…"
"Callie2: When my best friend told me that my husband had visited her in a dream, I was honestly kind of mad. Why her and not me? But then when I thought about it some more I decided that it was a tribute to him that other people…"
"I wear my husband's wrist watch. Makes me very happy. (On the other hand I couldn't wait to get rid of his old leather chair---all I could picture was how very sick he looked sitting in it at the end. And after he passed,…"
"I think this is something where your gut (your heart?) tells you exactly what to do. And whatever it says is right for YOU. It has been six months since my husband died here at home in our bed. I immediately rounded up and threw…"
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