"Here's my wish for a calm and peaceful 2013 for all of us who lost someone in the past 3 years. This holiday season, the 3rd without Ray, has been more difficult than any of the previous. There are many reasons, and I'm thinking that…"
"It's really interesting to see how differently everyone is about moving or staying in the same house. Everything in this house reminds me of my husband in a good way, and I don't want to move out of the house. Except...it's way to big…"
"Feeling Lonely - I had a husband like yours. He took complete care of the house. He even did the cooking, (much better than I) and a lot of the cleaning. I did all the bookkeeping and paperwork, laundry and shopping, and we shared a lot of the…"
"Thanks for sharing this Cristina, it's a beautiful story. It's a very special thing, with such meaning for you! I'm happy that you've found a sign like this. I haven't spread Ray's ashes yet - waiting for my son to come…"
"Cristina, thanks for sharing this video and the music. It's wonderful that you were able to continue to share your music, even after he lost his voice. The last 12 months my husband also couldn't speak. We managed to communicate very well,…"
"I have been reading the many posts on this group the past week or so. Sometimes I want to reply, but then can't get myself started typing. It's reassuring - weird - to hear that everyone else is going through similar things. It's…"
"Wow, so many comments that made me want to post something! It's been over 2 years since my husband died of throat cancer. I still have to resist the fear that I have cancer every time I develop any kind of symptom. It's better now, but…"
"Cristina - my husband had throat cancer. Diagnosed originally as Stage 1 in one vocal cord. He had radiation - 2 years later cancer returned and he had laser surgery to avoid having vocal cords removed. 1 year later it returned again and he had a…"
"It does take time, and even the comments from those of us who are going through it too may sound like they don't help. But from one day to the next it can improve. Maybe we think it sounds like "whining" or "feeling sorry for…"
"Joy - That's something that I realize that I've been missing too. It's almost 27 months. Things in general are improving. But Joy is something I have identified quite a while ago that seems to be out of reach. I have moments of…"
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Welcome Navillus: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
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