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NewNormal
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NewNormal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"My husband passed away December 14th 2015.  I cannot believe it's been a year already but on the other hand it feels like a lifetime.  I am overwhelmed by going into the stores and all the holiday decorations.  This time of year…"
Nov 17, 2016
NewNormal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Mary H - I feel completely the same way!!!  Looking at all those pictures, reading all those profiles and they just don't seem to fit what I want.  I too came to realize that what I want is gone and will be very hard to feel in that…"
Oct 11, 2016
NewNormal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Thank you all for your insights.  These are the types of things I cannot discuss with my family, they are just not ready to discuss this with me.  "
Oct 7, 2016
rich34 left a comment for NewNormal
"While I'm fairly new on this site your story of finding it difficult to relate is one that I've heard from several other widows I've talked to.  I don't think there really is such a thing as "normal" grieving from…"
Oct 7, 2016
NewNormal replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: MIDWEST - EAST: Illinois, Indiana, Michigan, Ohio, Wisconsin in the group Connect with others in your area
"I'm in Akron, Ohio"
Oct 7, 2016
NewNormal replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion OCTOBER Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"Our 28th wedding anniversary was on July 3rd, I spent the weekend with my entire family.  It was helpful however there were points in the day where I would just start crying which made it awkward for most of my family.  I say if…"
Oct 7, 2016
NewNormal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I could not agree with Mary H more.  When you have terrible loneliness you can end up getting attached to the wrong person, which is what I have done.  Now am I not only dealing with being lonely I'm dealing with someone who is…"
Oct 7, 2016
NewNormal replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you Camsmom - night time is the hardest for me, especially when it's time to go to bed.  You are in my thoughts...."
Oct 5, 2016
NewNormal replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hello, I am Victoria.  I lost my husband of 28 years on Dec 14, 2015 to a massive heart attack.  This has been the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with, I was with him in our home when he passed away.  Still have the sound of…"
Oct 5, 2016
NewNormal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Hello, I am new to this site and am so glad I've found it.  My husband of 28 years passed away from a massive heart attack on December 14, 2015.  I have my family as a support group however they cannot relate to loneliness or the…"
Oct 5, 2016
Joyce left a comment for NewNormal
"Welcome NewNormal: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and…"
Oct 4, 2016

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At 8:11am on October 7, 2016, rich34 said…

While I'm fairly new on this site your story of finding it difficult to relate is one that I've heard from several other widows I've talked to.  I don't think there really is such a thing as "normal" grieving from what I've seen in my own life and in those I've talked to.  However, I've found that the reality of the situation is pervasive and relentless.  I think I cope "better" than most if I can say such a thing.  Still, even months later the house feels too quiet at night.

After the initial shock I don't think I've sought comfort so much as just some level of interaction and understanding.  I've figured out that this is something that will probably take time to cope with, and that nobody can wave a wand and make it go away.  Spending time with others or in pursuit of hobbies can be good for me, but it isn't some kind of substitute for what was lost.  I try to find ways to keep moving forward, accepting the challenges and inconveniences, but in the hope that a new normal will eventually emerge.  

I certainly don't mind you (or anybody else) reaching out!  Talking about this is good for me, and I know it probably is for others as well.  We all go through it in our own ways, and often from different stages in life.  Each seems to have different challenges to deal with, but it is obvious to me that it is never easy.

At 5:17pm on October 4, 2016, Joyce said…

Welcome NewNormal: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

 
 
 

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