"My husband of 27 years died on 5/6/12. On 9/30', I adopted Beasley, a litle poodle mix, I cannot imagine what my life would be without his company. My daughter got me a car magnet shaped like a paw print tat says "who rescued…"
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NC Coco commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"Cee - I found your post to be interesting because I am just the opposite. I do have places where I could go or certainly should go, but I seem to be happiest and most secure at home. I live in an isolated area and the idea of driving…"
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"Hi Coco. Thank you for friending me. I am so grateful to the outreach of this community. It is isolating living as widow in our everyday life. Here I feel safe to say what is really on my mind. Thank you. I see you lost…"
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"Thank you, Joselyn - I am not a huge lover of poetry, but the one you posted is beautiful. Do you know who wrote it and what the name of it is?"
NC Coco replied to Mac's discussion Cooking For One - Please Add Your Easy Healthy Recipes/Suggestions
"Mac - Since I have been cooking for one, I think my best help is the Freman grill. I know I am not giving you a particular recipe, but this appliance certainly makes anythink you might want to bake or broil taste better. I have also found that…"
NC Coco commented on stagemom's blog post #18 Who will you kiss on New Year's Eve?
"I kissed my dog, but not until a few minutes ago - we were both asleep before midnight. Happy and healthy 2013 to all."
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"I was totally dreading New Year's Eve, but decided I will do the following: Make myself a decent dinner ( for a change), open and drink a split pf champagne, watch movies and play with Beasley, the dog I rescued a few months ago. It is going on…"
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recent loss(Ron) commented on NC Coco's blog post Very short blog post
"This is so very true we all looked forward to Christmas when we were youmg. But in this when just want it over and done. But I count my blessings daily
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Very short blog post
Posted on December 10, 2012 at 11:25am 2 Comments 1 Like
When I was a child (a long time ago), I would count the days until Christmas. Now, again, I am counting the days - not because I look forward to it, but because I can't wait for it to be over. Interesting how life changes!
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Posted on August 16, 2012 at 8:21am 9 Comments 0 Likes
Just a few random thoughts. First of all, I saw "Hope Springs" with a friend yesterday. The acting was wonderful, but I would not recommend it for any of us on this journey of grief. No real objection to the sexy scenes, but it brought forth a great deal of reflections about marriage, in general. It kind of acted as a downer for me for the rest of the day.
Last night, for the first time in a while, I had a decent night's sleep (of course I took a Xanax, but even that…
Continue 3 Months
Posted on August 2, 2012 at 8:09am 25 Comments 0 Likes
It is going on 3 months since that horrific morning when I woke up and Bud was dead. He had not been ill and I just cannot get that day out of my mind. I am told that later that day, or the next, I told my daughters that I would be "back to normal" in 2 weeks. I can't believe I said that but I guess I believed it at the time. Well, Monday will be 3 months and I am nowhere near there. In fact, I think I am worse and crying more now than I did in those first few shock-filled…
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- At 9:13am on January 22, 2013,
Mford4 (Marlene) said… Hi Coco. Thank you for friending me. I am so grateful to the outreach of this community. It is isolating living as widow in our everyday life. Here I feel safe to say what is really on my mind. Thank you. I see you lost your husband suddenly. I cannot imagine. I cared for my ill husband for 13 years, the last 8 were the hardest due to his condition. We said good-bye to each other many times--not that it helped when he finally left me, but at least I knew how he felt and what he wanted for me. Now I just have to find a way for me to get there!
- At 9:44pm on December 17, 2012,
thelmaz said… Hi, delighted to be your new friend. I've been widowhed for 6 years. How about you?
- At 4:51pm on August 16, 2012,
chrism said… Hi thank you for your kind friend invite,I really appreciate it,Chris
- At 4:00pm on August 5, 2012,
Brandywine Gal said… Normal? Wednesday Aug 8 will be 2 months for me and I am sorting out what is the new normal for me. I am doing pretty good I think, but dragging on finalizing claims on life insurance, COBRA, and some other things. Steve's passing came just a little over a year since my mom passed. I have had basically two years of paperwork, cleaning and sorting mom's house-what a horrific task that is, and basically trying to not make any real decisions. I am fortunate that my mom had a current living trust set up and I am an only child, and Steve and I had a living trust as well.
I do find myself sometimes kind of snapping out of a fog that I didn't even realize I was in. I had a tough time staying clear on the drive down and back to my mom's house. Over an hour each way even on a Sunday in daylight.
I know it all takes time and I am hoping the fresh sea air and fascinating ports on my upcoming 30 day cruise from Barcelona to the Black Sea, Hold Lands, and back to Rome will be a real healing balm.
We will all get there, I for one one to get to the new normal as quickly as possible.
- At 3:51pm on August 5, 2012, Brandywine Gal said…
Coco, I'd wonder if the travel agent is pushing hard enough! I'd be tempted to call UA and make an inquiry! They should get the refund processed in a reasonable amount of time. We ttied to get UA to credit the unused tickets, had the doctor write a letter he was in the hospital, nada, UA wouldn't budge and we both are 1K fliers.
- At 1:48pm on August 3, 2012,
suebru (Sue) said… Hi Nini, I just left you a private message. Please let me know if you get it or not.
Sue :-)
- At 12:43am on August 3, 2012, suebru (Sue) said…
Hi Nini, To private message a member here, type in their name in the Search Widowed Village box above. Once there, look on the left side of the screen and click on "Send a Message".
If anyone else wants to chime in with recommendations to help Nini, please do so!
- At 12:31am on August 3, 2012, suebru (Sue) said…
Hi Nina, Thanks for your number. If you want, we could meet one day next week for lunch at Wellbread in Weaverville, or any place you want. I work very close to Weaverville. When do you begin the support group? Let me know when and if you can meet next week. Hopefully, we can get together with KK one weekend soon.
Sue :-)
- At 10:45pm on June 19, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
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- At 12:06am on June 17, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome Nini: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
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