Welcome, and I am sorry for all your loss. I lost my Dad and husband just 5 weeks apart in 2014. Both deaths were sudden and unexpected, especially my husband as he was 49 at the time.
I felt that when Andy died, my Dad’s death was completely overshadowed and I don’t think I dealt with it much for a while. I even felt guilty, like I didn’t care about my Dad which of course I did and do.
My best advise is give yourself time and the freedom to feel whatever it is you are feeling. If right now, you are dealing with the loss of your Dad more, that is okay. You will deal with your loss of your husband in your own time.
There isn’t one way to grieve and however you do it, that is okay.
You are wonderful to be taking care of your Mom but don’t forget to take care of yourself as well. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but give yourself the freedom to do something for you. I personally go for walks, I love the fresh air the blue sky and the time alone with my thoughts. And yes, even now sometimes there are tears....
Welcome to Widville, Ninny. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
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