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Noelene T
  • Female
  • North Coast NSW
  • Australia
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Noelene T commented on sunshinesoon's blog post Treading water
"I am so sorry for your loss.it must be even harder when you have a small child who misses his daddy, i hope you have some support as I have through my wonderful friends, hope Christmas is not too painful or you. Xx"
Sunday
Noelene T replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I am getting better at this grief thing, the crying jags don’t come as often as they did but when one hits me I can cry for hours. I feel like a rudderless ship going round and round in circles. The hardest thing I am finding to cope with now…"
Sunday
Sun Flower replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Noelene, It seems that we are about the same age, lost the love of our life. Mine was on Christmas Day...10 years ago. It may take a long time to  cope with his death. Everybody is different.  Just focus on the Wonderful times that you…"
Saturday
WEROK replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Noelene, my heart goes out to you. Please be as gentle and kind to yourself as you would be in comforting your best friend. If you've never read the reading about grief waves, please google it. For me it is true. The grief comes in waves. At…"
Nov 29
Noelene T posted a blog post

Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe …

Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe it has something to do with Christmas coming up. Even at 78 I was still IN love with Gil. We had a wonderful life together and I am sorry we didn’t meet sooner so we could have had longer together. In hindsight 26 years was not enough.what I miss the most is thr feel of his arms around me and his…See More
Nov 29
DIVA70 replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. I believe you have come to the right place. If nothing else I believe this site will help you to know that you are not alone. What you are feeling is real and it will take time . I don't know how…"
Nov 29
Noelene T replied to Kek5772's discussion I don't really know what to say in the group Widowed in 2018
"The meltdowns keep coming don’t they. Even though we know they no longer are suffering it istill doesn’t stop the longing to have them still here. My husband has been gone nearly 10 months and sometimes it seems like yesterday and…"
Nov 29
Noelene T replied to Kek5772's discussion I don't really know what to say in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi Beth, like you I am having great difficulty coming to terms with the death of my husband, He had prostate cancer for about 8 years and then it went to his bones. I was his sole carer until the last few months of his death and then he went into…"
Nov 29
Noelene T commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"The thing i find hardest to come to terms with is the fact that no one mentions his name, i belong to a table tennis club and we were both members until his death, he was well liked at the club but when i am there now no one says anything about him…"
Nov 29
Noelene T commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I meant to say i am now 79, the hardest thing i find to cope with is nobody mentions his name. It is as though he never existed. Sometimes i feel as if i am going mad, the pain is so severe."
Nov 29
Don replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"if you are not 79, how old are you ?"
Nov 28
sweetlady replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"My husband was also my best friend and it hard to let the pain go"
Nov 28
Don replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I don't understand why you said "I am not 79" ?    Anyway; my wife died "SUDDENLY" 9 years ago.  I live with it but I will never  get over it because she was my BEST Friend, confidant, outdoor pal, …"
Nov 28
Rainy (Misty) left a comment for Noelene T
"Hi Nolene, I have read some of your post but can't reply as I'm not a member of that group.  My heart just breaks for you.  Unfortunately, no body and tell you how long you'll feel the way you feel.  I kept asking that…"
Nov 28
Noelene T replied to InsideLove's discussion Unfortunately finding myself here in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I know what you mean. Just sittting here reading these posts i am in floods of tears. The evenings are the worst as i can manage to keep busy in the daytime. I yearn for him with all my heart and soul and don’t think i will ever get over…"
Nov 27
Noelene T added a discussion to the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
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Coping with yearning for dead husband

 I am new to this group and I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day this year. He was 85 and I am not 79. I had been married before but he had not. We had a wonderful marriage and he was the love of my life and soulmate, i find it easy to get through the day and socialise with people but when alone at night I yearn for him to be here with me, the longing is so bad that i am physically in pain, I don’t know how to get over this feeling. I feel like there is a hole in y heart that will…See More
Nov 27

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Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe …

Posted on November 29, 2018 at 6:31am 0 Comments

Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe it has something to do with Christmas coming up. Even at 78 I was still IN love with Gil. We had a wonderful life together and I am sorry we didn’t meet sooner so we could have had longer together. In hindsight 26 years was not enough.what I miss the most is thr feel of his arms around me and his…

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At 12:09am on November 28, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi Nolene, I have read some of your post but can't reply as I'm not a member of that group.  My heart just breaks for you.  Unfortunately, no body and tell you how long you'll feel the way you feel.  I kept asking that same question when I came here.   

You aren't alone and we all understand just how you feel.  I wish there was something I can say to ease your pain but the simple truth is time is the only thing that can give you some relief.  Connecting with other widows has been very helpful for me.  ((Hugs)) I pray for peace to come to you.  

At 4:16pm on November 22, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Soaring Spirits International has partnered with First Light Widowed Association, an organization for widowed people in Australia, to provide a forum for our Aussie widows to connect here in the Village. Here’s a link to that page:  http://widowedvillage.org/group/first-light-widowed-association

At 4:14pm on November 22, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Noelene T. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions and Chat Room for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

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