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Noelene T
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  • North Coast NSW
  • Australia
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sis commented on Noelene T's blog post Noelene Tauris
"My heart hurts for you. I know how emotional it has been for me having my anniversary connection to Valentines Day. As soon as Christmas is over you get bombarded with everything Valentines and there is little chance of getting away from it.…"
2 hours ago
SweetMelissa2007 commented on Noelene T's blog post Noelene Tauris
"Diva70, If you have not put yourself on a daily grief schedule, you might want to try triggering your grief rather than allowing it to take you down unexpectantly. Not releasing disrupts sleep & daily functioning ... Take care of your grieving…"
3 hours ago
DIVA70 commented on Noelene T's blog post Noelene Tauris
"Beautiful! Thank you for sharing. April 29th will be a year for me and already I am getting anxious. Maybe that's why I'm having trouble sleeping. So much in your poem resonates with me and echoes my feelings. I have friends who have been…"
6 hours ago
Noelene T commented on Noelene T's blog post Noelene Tauris
"Thank you for your comments sis. I lost my husband on Feb 14th, Valentine’s Day. It is a hard day to get through as everyone else is celebrating with their loved ones. I will be thinking of you in March. As y ou say all the firsts are…"
21 hours ago
sis commented on Noelene T's blog post Noelene Tauris
"Thank you for sharing those beautiful words from the heart. I, too, will be experiencing my first year without my husband in March. This month was my first wedding anniversary without him, Feb.14, and I for one am exhausted from all the firsts this…"
22 hours ago
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Noelene Tauris

Hi everyone, it is awhile since I posted. I have just gotten through the 1st anniversary of my husbands death. It was a very sad day but not as bad as I thought it would be. I went out with a friend who had lost her husband 18months before I lost mine. We went to a movie and then went to his favourite Thai restaurant for lunch, i had a glass of wine to toast him as he loved a glass of wine. My family and friends all posted lovely messages on facebook and my beautiful granddaughter sent me a…See More
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Noelene T commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"There have been a couple of comments in here about still wearing your rings, it doesn’t matter what other people think. Why would you take off treasured rings unless you are looking for another partner. I am 79 years old and I intend to wear…"
Dec 17, 2018
Sun Flower replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Noelene,Thanks for sharing your story with me.Sounds like you are on the right path in healing.The Cat that you adopted will help comfort you.You lost your husband on Valentine's Day.I lost my husband on Christmas. 10 years ago.I put up a…"
Dec 16, 2018
Noelene T commented on sunshinesoon's blog post Treading water
"Hi , I too like you are new on here. I am so sorry for your loss. We are on different ends of the spectrum from each other. I am coming to the end of my life but you are at the beginning. I cant imagine the pain you must feel when your little boy…"
Dec 14, 2018
Noelene T replied to Kek5772's discussion I don't really know what to say in the group Widowed in 2018
"We all seem to be part of this awful “epidemic” of cancer. They say time heals, that is not true. You don’t ‘’’get over’ the death of your soulmate you get through it, the pain is always there. I am 10…"
Dec 14, 2018
Noelene T replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"hi Sun Flower. I am doing better.i have adopted a small rescue cat and she is good company.i still find the night time the worst, i am a director of a small bowling club, so that takes care of some of the daytime hours. I am not crying as often as I…"
Dec 14, 2018
Sun Flower replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Make a new life for your self. Volunteer or get a part time job. Change your routine. We are all different in how we handle the loss of our loved one. Even adopt a pet. That might relieve your loneliness. and give you something to love. During this…"
Dec 14, 2018
Noelene T commented on sunshinesoon's blog post Treading water
"I am so sorry for your loss.it must be even harder when you have a small child who misses his daddy, i hope you have some support as I have through my wonderful friends, hope Christmas is not too painful or you. Xx"
Dec 9, 2018
Noelene T replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I am getting better at this grief thing, the crying jags don’t come as often as they did but when one hits me I can cry for hours. I feel like a rudderless ship going round and round in circles. The hardest thing I am finding to cope with now…"
Dec 9, 2018
Sun Flower replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Noelene, It seems that we are about the same age, lost the love of our life. Mine was on Christmas Day...10 years ago. It may take a long time to  cope with his death. Everybody is different.  Just focus on the Wonderful times that you…"
Dec 8, 2018
WEROK replied to Noelene T's discussion Coping with yearning for dead husband in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Noelene, my heart goes out to you. Please be as gentle and kind to yourself as you would be in comforting your best friend. If you've never read the reading about grief waves, please google it. For me it is true. The grief comes in waves. At…"
Nov 29, 2018

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Posted on February 17, 2019 at 4:26am 5 Comments

Hi everyone, it is awhile since I posted. I have just gotten through the 1st anniversary of my husbands death. It was a very sad day but not as bad as I thought it would be. I went out with a friend who had lost her husband 18months before I lost mine. We went to a movie and then went to his favourite Thai restaurant for lunch, i had a glass of wine to toast him as he loved a glass of wine. My family and friends all posted lovely messages on facebook and my beautiful granddaughter sent me a…

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Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe …

Posted on November 29, 2018 at 6:31am 0 Comments

Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe it has something to do with Christmas coming up. Even at 78 I was still IN love with Gil. We had a wonderful life together and I am sorry we didn’t meet sooner so we could have had longer together. In hindsight 26 years was not enough.what I miss the most is thr feel of his arms around me and his…

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At 12:09am on November 28, 2018, Rainy (Misty) said…

Hi Nolene, I have read some of your post but can't reply as I'm not a member of that group.  My heart just breaks for you.  Unfortunately, no body and tell you how long you'll feel the way you feel.  I kept asking that same question when I came here.   

You aren't alone and we all understand just how you feel.  I wish there was something I can say to ease your pain but the simple truth is time is the only thing that can give you some relief.  Connecting with other widows has been very helpful for me.  ((Hugs)) I pray for peace to come to you.  

At 4:16pm on November 22, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Soaring Spirits International has partnered with First Light Widowed Association, an organization for widowed people in Australia, to provide a forum for our Aussie widows to connect here in the Village. Here’s a link to that page:  http://widowedvillage.org/group/first-light-widowed-association

At 4:14pm on November 22, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Noelene T. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions and Chat Room for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

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