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Orb101214
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only1sue commented on Orb101214's blog post Celebrating without Dad
"My husband Ray's father died before he was born, his older brother was two when their father died and says he doesn't remember much about that time. Ray always said he wished his Dad had been there and he had got to know him.  Your…"
9 hours ago
Orb101214 posted a blog post

Celebrating without Dad

Yesterday my son turned 5.  It is a big number in our house.  He knew when he turned 5 he would be ready to go to kindergarten soon and he would get to chew gum.  What none of us knew was that it would also be his first birthday without his dad.  We have been talking about his birthday for a while.  A month ago I bought invitations... Power Ranger themed and I even looked into having a Power Ranger character come to our house.  I managed to get 6 invitations out to the preschool kids at his…See More
13 hours ago
MsMouse commented on Orb101214's blog post Our Anniversary
"My husband passed away January 8th of this year.  We were married for 13 years.  Our anniversary is May 24th and it would have 14 years.  I already know I'm taking that day off from work.  I don't think I can face…"
15 hours ago
Orb101214 commented on Orb101214's blog post Our Anniversary
"Thank you all!  I am so glad I found this community to share my thoughts and feelings and to get so much love and support back!"
18 hours ago
happylilycat commented on Orb101214's blog post Our Anniversary
"What a beautiful photograph, it's so obvious how much you two loved one another. You are lucky to have a supportive family, that is a blessing for you. I'm glad you have those people in your life. My first wedding anniversary without my…"
Apr 19
Callie2 commented on Orb101214's blog post Our Anniversary
"So very sorry for your recent loss. I certainly remember that first anniversary alone-it was two weeks after he passed. All the "firsts" are really hard but you will get through them. It must be very difficult having young children and…"
Apr 17
Lauri commented on Orb101214's blog post Small Rant
"Oh boy, I sure can relate to the issues with Verizon! I went into the store 4 times to get things taken care of. Every time I went there, I left thinking it was done ( getting my husband's line shut down). Each time, they screwed something up.…"
Apr 17
Orb101214 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion APRIL Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"I have no idea, but to say that I probably feel just as terrible as you.  April 10th was our wedding anniversary, we were only together 11 years, married for 6.  I cried all day at work and before I left I called my mom to tell her I…"
Apr 13
widow85 commented on Orb101214's blog post Small Rant
"Ugh, What sales-hungry dunderheads. I got a nice Verizon rep who suggested I close my husband's account -- then she opened a new one for me just to give me a bunch of discounts as a new account holder. She was a sweetheart, kept saying…"
Apr 13
Artist Suzanne commented on Orb101214's blog post Our Anniversary
"It gets easier especially after two years. My partner died 7 years ago in January and it is better now but I still have a day when I miss him so much it's hard to go on. Luckily I have 5 children and they help me when I let them know. …"
Apr 11
Orb101214 posted a blog post

Our Anniversary

Yesterday would have been my seven year wedding anniversary, but we lost my dear husband in December.  I was a wreck all day, hiding in the bathroom to cry most of the day.  I just miss him so much and we were so happy.  Just another hard road stop of this journey of grief.  Maybe I have been a little numb the last few months, I know I have most of the time actually.  Yesterday the pain was so raw and so intense.  I tried to embrace and sob every time I felt like crying and the tears never…See More
Apr 11
Athena53 commented on Orb101214's blog post Small Rant
"Bergen, what's happening with the mailing lists is that marketers are required to run their mailing lists against the Post Office database of address changes.  Your change of address form may have, by default, included everyone at your old…"
Mar 15
Rockon commented on Orb101214's blog post Small Rant
"This is so REAL! Thank All of You for the brutal truthful comments! This site keeps me sane as I have been widowed/alone for 7 years next month, April 18th. I am certainly not rich and must say that is just fine with me as I have struggled to…"
Mar 14
NoLongerInBergenJC commented on Orb101214's blog post Small Rant
"When my husband died a colleague who has no filters asked me, "So did your husband leave you a rich widow?"  And I answered, "If he did, I would not be standing here with YOU right now, you can be sure of THAT." Here's…"
Mar 14
guilloma commented on Orb101214's blog post Small Rant
"My husband's son called about his inherited account the day that my husband died.  I had not even visited the funeral home yet to make the arrangements, and his son was calling to claim his money.  People continue to amaze me. For…"
Mar 14
Imogen commented on Orb101214's blog post Small Rant
"I found everyone thinks you are rich because your spouse died.  Took my sister about two months to ask for money.  Of course said no. I am very careful with trades people.  I say he is golfing, or something.  My friend leaves…"
Mar 14

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Celebrating without Dad

Posted on April 25, 2017 at 12:30pm 1 Comment

Yesterday my son turned 5.  It is a big number in our house.  He knew when he turned 5 he would be ready to go to kindergarten soon and he would get to chew gum.  What none of us knew was that it would also be his first birthday without his dad.  We have been talking about his birthday for a while.  A month ago I bought invitations... Power Ranger themed and I even looked into having a Power Ranger character come to our house.  I managed to get 6 invitations out to the preschool kids at his…

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Our Anniversary

Posted on April 11, 2017 at 10:37am 5 Comments

Yesterday would have been my seven year wedding anniversary, but we lost my dear husband in December.  I was a wreck all day, hiding in the bathroom to cry most of the day.  I just miss him so much and we were so happy.  Just another hard road stop of this journey of grief.  Maybe I have been a little numb the last few months, I know I have most of the time actually.  Yesterday the pain was so raw and so intense.  I tried to embrace and sob every time I felt like crying and the tears never…

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Small Rant

Posted on March 7, 2017 at 7:20am 9 Comments

Do any of you feel like people try to take advantage of your grieving?  I feel as though I am very cautious of certain people and companies.  I went to call Verizon to change the plan to my name and to close my husband's line. The first time I was on the phone they told me I could take my time to send the DC in and they would take care of it.  I asked follow up questions and after the 5th question I found out they were going to keep the line open and keep charging me for it.  I still owed…

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Losing your dad at 2

Posted on February 22, 2017 at 9:05am 1 Comment

My husband received a bone marrow transplant in November.  At the hospital they bring cake after the transplant and sing happy birthday to the patient to celebrate their new birthday.  Our children were too little to visit him in the hospital because they carry too many germs.  He passed away in December from Graft Vs Host.  They let my children come visit once they knew things weren't going to turn around.  Explaining to a 2 and 4 year old that Daddy wasn't going to get better and that we…

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At 2:16pm on February 13, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Orb101214. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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