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Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused

Started this discussion. Last reply by Hope Mar 17. 57 Replies

Hello,My wife passed Oct of last year. I'm 46 and I have an 11 Yo little girl.Back when i was 23 I had 3 girlfriends all 18 years old (they all knew about each other btw) My wife was one of them, I…Continue

 

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Hope replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"I have looked up old bfs after my husband's death. I really didn't want to start over with someone new.  But when I saw them, I remembered why he won out.  (I think they remembered why I didn't win with them, too, to be…"
Mar 17
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Hello again! To anyone who helped me through my first couple years i want to thank you all. it was a hard struggle. About the woman who i spoke of in this thread.. she left and came back many many times up until about a couple months ago. She…"
Mar 16
Mary H replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"I haven't been dating yet, but I've noticed that there is a bigger difference than just grief between the widowed and those who have been out there dating for a long time.  They work fast, and they are easily offended (they would say…"
Feb 11
Diamond Sky replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Owfw, I think You may need more time to heal Your heart. Telling this to the person You are dating is healthy. They need to understand that You are still healing. And not ready to go further. It is okay. It may not be fair to them to let them hang…"
Feb 10
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Sigh.. Why does life have to be so hard? Why does grief have to come back and hit you like a brick to the head and send everything into a spiral? Everything has been great. But i find myself trying to distance myself from her. Even when she is here…"
Apr 8, 2017
Timelord replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"GOod for you! jUst...protect your heart if it needs to be."
Feb 20, 2017
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Have not been on in awhile, About a week after the breakup,I took her to lunch to talk and see if we could salvage a friendship out of our situation. While eating she began to cry,She is a very tough woman and is not one to cry. She took the blame…"
Feb 19, 2017
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Sigh.. the fireball i assumed would happen, happened i think. She got the flu a couple weeks ago and stayed home because she prefers to be alone when sick. And she is just getting over it still but we have been texting for a few days. She says i am…"
Jan 23, 2017
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"I'm so trying to live again.. But i keep having setbacks..some my own mind and others are based on normal new relationship fears. I sometimes feel myself trying to come up with excuses to kinda shy away from her when i get scared..then my brain…"
Jan 6, 2017
Mary H replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"I'm glad you are happy, and I really appreciate how much you have shared about your feelings in moving on.  I know that I would have similar feelings of wanting to run towards life, but also of finding it hard to move on, and that these…"
Jan 2, 2017
camsmom replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Hope the New Year is good to you and your daguhter."
Jan 2, 2017
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Hello again to anyone still following this thread. Had a perfect night the other night on Saturday. I performed a wedding for a widowed friend of mine. He lost his wife about a year and a half ago right before i lost mine. they had been together for…"
Jan 2, 2017
Timelord replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Hello! YEs, if the "new woman" says what she said, and means it, that is good.  It takes a bit to understand that widow's don't have "exes" in the sense that divorced people do.  That our "ex" (for…"
Dec 29, 2016
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"I'm glad you posted that message,It really relived alot of things i have thought about, I don't ever want to stop loving my wife. she was the greatest woman i have ever met in my 47 years on this earth. But i still have dreams of growing…"
Dec 28, 2016
Timelord replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Hello!  I'm not going to lie...having ladies...interested...isn't a bad thing...if nothing else, it's an ego boost :-) Now, regarding your daughter - all my friends would tell me that kids can't run our life.  But the…"
Dec 28, 2016
Owfw replied to Owfw's discussion Over the one year mark and went on a date..So confused
"Yeah, I talk to my daughter about everything as my mother did with me. My mother and i were very close and my daughter and i have the same relationship as my mother and I had. I have consulted with her every step of the way and a few months ago she…"
Dec 28, 2016

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At 6:14pm on November 15, 2015, rodsgurl09 said…

Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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