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Ozzy turtle
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  • Beaverton, OR
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Nance63 commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"I came to this page thru a friend request (which, btw, I am sorry I have not replied yet... I will!) and I have just only read flower girl's comment, Dee's response and then I paged up and read Ozzy's original post. You all have my…"
Aug 7
CoraKaye replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hello, Ozzy, I am so sorry for your loss. Totally understand your feelings! My beloved passed on the first day of Spring - 3/20. Although I am thankful his suffering has ended and that we had almost 38 years together, missing him is excruciating.…"
Aug 6
Dee1960 commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"Ozzy and flower girl , both of you, 4 months, 6 weeks --- you both are still in shock... please just be kind to yourself, take it day by day, one thing at a time, I'm four years out and still don't have my shit together... tiptoe, one day…"
Jul 20
flowergirl537 commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"My spouse died 6 weeks ago. I've realized in that short time that I'm going to be a feisty widow. I was a caregiver (by myself) for 9 years.I am a retired social work. I'm confident I did an excellent job as a caregiver as his…"
Jul 20
jnzmom71 replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"On May 5th, 2019, was my 3 mths of losing my husband and best friend. I am in a haze and just live everyday expecting this not to be real.   I want to put a hold on the day  he passed so I dont have to face a future without him. …"
May 12
Telynn replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"I am still in a fog which is a blessing because I don't feel like anything around me is quite real.  I keep thinking that he will walk into the room I'm in and I wish that with my whole being.  I just said the other day that…"
May 7
sis commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"Those friends actually feel that they are being helpful, but grieving is a process that is much like fingerprints, and is different for each of us. I don't know if they have experienced the loss of a spouse, but until you do there is no way to…"
Apr 29
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"There is no road map , nor one size fits all in grief. It is a personal experience , and nobody has the right to determine if you are or are not grieving the way they think you should. , and i mean nobody.The simple fact that your are on this site…"
Apr 28
Dee1960 commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"Agree with Barb, plus 4 months is too soon for people "giving advice" -- there's all the legal junk you have to do, getting death certificates, changing legal stuff, funeral (if you had one) stuff -- don't let other people tell…"
Apr 28
vintage56(barb) commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"You are doing what you need to do, for you. Don't let other people tell you where you need to be in the grief process. Not everyone is the same."
Apr 28
Ozzy turtle commented on AEDforever (Ali)'s blog post Certificate of Life
"I need that !! It's a wonderful idea!!"
Apr 28
Ozzy turtle posted a blog post

I need some advice

I'm a few days away from it being 4 months since Jim passed away. A couple people I know and respect came to me last week both with the same concern that I'm not grieving, I'm avoiding. Aside from all the stuff I have had to take care of in the beginning, like we all do, Jim gave me a list of things to do. The first was I couldn't run away, the second make all my appointments and take care of me. Over the last few years I haven't done much of that and he was always worried, so over the last…See More
Apr 28
sdonna left a comment for Ozzy turtle
"Hi Ozzy- We have can have peace knowing our loved ones are no longer in pain."
Apr 22
sdonna left a comment for Ozzy turtle
"Hi Ozzy turtle- I know how difficult this must be for you. I lost my husband a few weeks ago and he also had COPD and heart problems. My heart goes out to you and your children. I am so sad to read the pain you are experiencing. I will be praying…"
Apr 16
Ozzy turtle replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion I'm lost in the group Long-Term Illness
"I'm sorry for your loss as well. The list is a really good idea, I will talk to my therapist about it as well, thank you for the idea. I agree one day, one hour, sometimes I feel like it's seconds. I think some of the reality is beginning…"
Apr 9
Ozzy turtle replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"I'm so sorry for your loss, thank you for the kind words and validation of all these different thoughts and emotions."
Apr 9

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I need some advice

Posted on April 28, 2019 at 4:33pm 8 Comments

I'm a few days away from it being 4 months since Jim passed away. A couple people I know and respect came to me last week both with the same concern that I'm not grieving, I'm avoiding. Aside from all the stuff I have had to take care of in the beginning, like we all do, Jim gave me a list of things to do. The first was I couldn't run away, the second make all my appointments and take care of me. Over the last few years I haven't done much of that and he was…

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At 9:35am on April 22, 2019, sdonna said…

Hi Ozzy-

We have can have peace knowing our loved ones are no longer in pain.

At 5:30pm on April 16, 2019, sdonna said…

Hi Ozzy turtle-

I know how difficult this must be for you. I lost my husband a few weeks ago and he also had COPD and heart problems. My heart goes out to you and your children. I am so sad to read the pain you are experiencing. I will be praying for you.

At 9:38am on March 8, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Ozzy turtle. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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