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Ozzy turtle
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  • Beaverton, OR
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Jules replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Roxie, I agree. The only thing that gives me comfort is knowing we will be together again sometime in the future. "
Sep 18
Pat in Ct replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"That's really sad that your in-laws have cut you off. But maybe they're in deep grief and will come around. Can you reach out to your own family or friends?"
Sep 18
Pat in Ct replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"I know exactly what you mean. I'm so sorry you lost your husband. Sudden deaths are so hard to process. "
Sep 18
Jules replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Same with me. We were married 5 days shy of 28 years. We have no children and he was my best friend. How do we go on? Nothing feels right. Things I used to enjoy have no joy any more. I don’t understand how someone who took such good care of…"
Sep 18
Pat in Ct replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Ozzy, I am so sorry for your pain. I understand it well. I lost my husband of 28 years suddenly and unexpectedly on May 15. The crushing depression, desperation, and sadness has just surfaced after the shock and autopilot phase wore off. I…"
Sep 6
Judyrose replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Reading this mean so much. It’s been 3 months for me. The pain is awful I thought he would be back by now but it hasn’t happened. Then it hits me that he isn’t going to. We where married for 48 years. It’s so hard being…"
Aug 30
Melissa replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion All the Firsts in the group Widowed in 2019
""No major decisions" is a good rule of thumb, but not realistic for some of us. I mean, I had to decide whether to get a roommate or move pretty much right away. Either one would be a big change. I hope your health will support you working…"
Aug 29
Pualili221 replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion All the Firsts in the group Widowed in 2019
"@Ozzy turtle,  So sorry for your loss. I resonate with you, I was feeling the same things a few months back...our anniversary, Mother's Day, Father's Day. I absolutely do not look forward to Thanksgiving, Christmas and the New Year.…"
Aug 26
TheEDCZone replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion All the Firsts in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hi Ozzy turtle, My condolences on your lost, I have a similar journey as you. I lost my wife Lisa 7 months ago on the 24th Jan 2019, April 5th was tough as it would have been our 22nd Wedding Anniversary. On the 13th of September it would have been…"
Aug 25
Ozzy turtle added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2019
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On September 2nd it will be 8 months, August 18th was our 10 year Anniversary, September 8th our 7 year wedding Anniversary. With birthdays, and the holidays to follow right after, then the 1 year. When Jim passed away we were living in a place for Veteran's and their families and up until the 9th of July I was there, I had to move. Its so hard being in a new place without him. I know they say no major decisions but I'm completely faced with them, first moving and now looking for work after 20…See More
Aug 25
Frankiegirl replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Roxi, thank you for your reply - so good not to feel alone, and I can relate to everything you wrote.  xoxo"
Aug 24
Nance63 commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"I came to this page thru a friend request (which, btw, I am sorry I have not replied yet... I will!) and I have just only read flower girl's comment, Dee's response and then I paged up and read Ozzy's original post. You all have my…"
Aug 7
CoraKaye replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hello, Ozzy, I am so sorry for your loss. Totally understand your feelings! My beloved passed on the first day of Spring - 3/20. Although I am thankful his suffering has ended and that we had almost 38 years together, missing him is excruciating.…"
Aug 6
Dee1960 commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"Ozzy and flower girl , both of you, 4 months, 6 weeks --- you both are still in shock... please just be kind to yourself, take it day by day, one thing at a time, I'm four years out and still don't have my shit together... tiptoe, one day…"
Jul 20
flowergirl537 commented on Ozzy turtle's blog post I need some advice
"My spouse died 6 weeks ago. I've realized in that short time that I'm going to be a feisty widow. I was a caregiver (by myself) for 9 years.I am a retired social work. I'm confident I did an excellent job as a caregiver as his…"
Jul 20
jnzmom71 replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"On May 5th, 2019, was my 3 mths of losing my husband and best friend. I am in a haze and just live everyday expecting this not to be real.   I want to put a hold on the day  he passed so I dont have to face a future without him. …"
May 12

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Posted on April 28, 2019 at 4:33pm 8 Comments

I'm a few days away from it being 4 months since Jim passed away. A couple people I know and respect came to me last week both with the same concern that I'm not grieving, I'm avoiding. Aside from all the stuff I have had to take care of in the beginning, like we all do, Jim gave me a list of things to do. The first was I couldn't run away, the second make all my appointments and take care of me. Over the last few years I haven't done much of that and he was…

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At 9:35am on April 22, 2019, sdonna said…

Hi Ozzy-

We have can have peace knowing our loved ones are no longer in pain.

At 5:30pm on April 16, 2019, sdonna said…

Hi Ozzy turtle-

I know how difficult this must be for you. I lost my husband a few weeks ago and he also had COPD and heart problems. My heart goes out to you and your children. I am so sad to read the pain you are experiencing. I will be praying for you.

At 9:38am on March 8, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Ozzy turtle. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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