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Pal
  • Female
  • Edinburgh
  • United Kingdom
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Pal replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Hi, I live in the uk but am visiting Seattle next month, I'm looking for helpful tips (and ideas of "what's best to see") as to how to get through my first (long-haul) holiday without my husband with my two kids (and their dads…"
Jun 15, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"So today I got a letter from the funeral director who handled my husbands cremation and things. They can't store his ashes any longer (it's been 7 months) and want me to collect them. Don't know if I can physically (emotionally) take…"
Jun 15, 2015
Pal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Hello Tripletmom, so sorry to hear of another kidney cancer widow. You are right - every day is hard and sometimes we just want to be alone (I HAVE shouted this at hubby's mum - and meant it! - not seen her in seven months!). I do NOT suffer…"
Jun 7, 2015
Pal replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion BRITISH ISLES in the group Connect with others in your area
"Hi, I'm from Scotland and lost my husband, the father of my two young girls, to kidney cancer last November (aged 43). Anyone in the uk have a similar story? I never wanted to be part of the "widow" club, but connecting with other…"
Jun 7, 2015
Pal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Hi Karen and Gypsy, Good to hear from you. Life has been very cruel to us taking our husbands so young, leaving such young children (and us to cope alone!) RCC is a cruel cancer as it's resistant to traditional chemo and radiotherapy. My hubby…"
May 31, 2015
Pal commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Hi Karen, I'm sorry you have a reason to post here, but we all share your feelings of loss and uncertainty. My own husband died (aged 43) after a 3 year battle with kidney cancer (RCC) and I have 2 girls, aged 10 and 14. Being part of this site…"
May 28, 2015
Widow Ever After left a comment for Pal
"Pal, Thank you for your note, and for sharing your story and heartaches.  I'm sure, like me, you're doing the best you can to fill your husband's role, but we can never replace them and it hurts.  Your children are lucky to…"
May 24, 2015
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May 23, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Idaho, I feel for you, I can still hear my husbands laboured breathing and remember his babbled words and hallucinations as the cancer (kidney) messed with his brain! My heart broke listening to him! I only hope he didn't feel it really and it…"
May 4, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Tears ... It's true we don't have a clue how we're going to react to grief until it hits us. I lost my mum (aged 70) to (secondary, died within 3 months) cancer 2 years before my husband was diagnosed and I though that was pretty…"
May 1, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Thanks Sharon :-) Why do the people around us think their life's are so bad when they are still breathing and their loved ones are still alive and kicking! Loosing your (adult) brother/son has nothing on loosing your life partner and father of…"
May 1, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Today is exactly 6 months since my husband breathed his last and I still think about his last few (horrible!) days/weeks/months/years on this earth daily and have real trouble remembering the good/healthy 19 years we were together (I was with him…"
May 1, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Gypsy, Thanks so much for your post - it made me cry. I'm so sorry you've had to suffer too. On world cancer day I honour my husband who put up a brave three year fight against renal cell carcinoma (an evil cancer which regular chemo…"
Feb 5, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Dear Eli, thank-you so much for your reply! I thought I was going mad with no-one understanding what I'm going through (but pretending to!) and, worse still, expecting MY sympathy! I don't think who I've become at times (hard hearted…"
Jan 1, 2015
Pal commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"I lost my husband (of 19 years) and partner of 22 years (and father to my 10 and 13 year old girls) to kidney cancer after a battle of three years on 1st November 2014. I just feel so angry and alone and no-one around me understands! I feel bad as a…"
Jan 1, 2015

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At 7:00am on May 24, 2015, Widow Ever After said…

Pal,

Thank you for your note, and for sharing your story and heartaches.  I'm sure, like me, you're doing the best you can to fill your husband's role, but we can never replace them and it hurts.  Your children are lucky to have you and, while I'm sure they will always miss their father, the fact that you recognize his strengths and what he offered your children is a wonderful beginning to perhaps taking on a few of those traits yourself.  We have to be strong for our kids, and for ourselves.  Some of that may mean we have to change just a little, be and do even more than we think is possible.  I would never wish this situation on anyone, but I am glad to have found people who are walking this path with me.  People like you, who understand, make it a bit more bearable. 

I hope my posts have made you not only cry, but also feel less alone.   We can make it.  Keep in touch!

At 8:46am on January 1, 2015, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

 

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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