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Pat in Ct
  • Female
  • Norwalk, CT
  • United States
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Pat in Ct replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"That's really sad that your in-laws have cut you off. But maybe they're in deep grief and will come around. Can you reach out to your own family or friends?"
7 hours ago
Pat in Ct replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"I know exactly what you mean. I'm so sorry you lost your husband. Sudden deaths are so hard to process. "
7 hours ago
Pat in Ct replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hi Debi, I'm in the same spot you are. I'm 59 and my husband died unexpectedly four months ago today. I like your model because it shows me that I'm not the only one experiencing the exhaustion. Getting out of bed is so hard.…"
Sunday
Pat in Ct commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"I know independence is worshipped by our society, but you have to let people help you when you need them. Fortunately, my very large family and my friends showed up immediately and made the funeral and the wake, and the pre-wake, post-wake, and…"
Sep 11
Pat in Ct commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Darlene, Three months is when the extreme sadness, desperation, hopelessness, and anxiety hit me, too. I guess we were in shock before then. My husband died on May 15 and it's getting harder, not easier. I'll say a prayer for you."
Sep 8
Pat in Ct replied to Ozzy turtle's discussion 3 MONTHS AFTER in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Ozzy, I am so sorry for your pain. I understand it well. I lost my husband of 28 years suddenly and unexpectedly on May 15. The crushing depression, desperation, and sadness has just surfaced after the shock and autopilot phase wore off. I…"
Sep 6
Pat in Ct replied to Pat in Ct's discussion Desperate and Sad in the group Born in the 60s
"Thank you so much for the link. I appreciate your taking the time to help me."
Sep 6
Debz replied to Pat in Ct's discussion Desperate and Sad in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi Pat, I am so sorry you are having so many issues,  I know the feelings you describe so well. The group where I found the most help in the first year after my hubby died was the widowed in 2014 or for you it would be the 2019 group. This…"
Sep 6
Pat in Ct replied to Liss's discussion Brain fog? in the group Born in the 60s
"My husband died unexpectedly in the hospital. He went in for diabetic neuropathy pain and had a cardiac arrest. This was in May 2019. I have spent the last three months binge-watching TV and doing my paying work in the middle of the night. The days…"
Sep 5
Pat in Ct replied to Liss's discussion Brain fog? in the group Born in the 60s
"Suspended animation. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone."
Sep 5
Pat in Ct added a discussion to the group Born in the 60s
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Desperate and Sad

My husband died on May 15, 2019. At first, I muddled through but now I am almost paralyzed with grief. I am in a constant state of anxiety and depression. I will be attending a grief support group starting next week and have a Xanax prescription, but I'm trying to not take the latter too often. My husband and I were in horrible debt and now I'm staring at that alone. I sleep so much that I'm falling behind in my work (I work from home) and have to work through the night to try to catch up. I…See More
Sep 5
eliana left a comment for Pat in Ct
"Welcome to Widville, Pat in Ct. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit…"
Sep 5

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At 11:35am on September 5, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Pat in Ct. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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