"Hairpins. My wife would always pull them out of her hair at the earliest occasion and drop them wherever she happened to be. On the coffee table, in the car, on the couch, wherever. Drove me nuts. After she died I hunted down and threw out all the…"
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Jerry commented on Rook's blog post Sunday
"I hate being a widower,it's the strangest feeling in the world. It's worse when I am around people that know me,I feel,they are somehow treating to me differently. it will be coming up on 3 years that my wife is gone and next week will be…"
Rook commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"The homesick aspect of grief absolutely resonates with me. I have been mumbling to myself for months "I want to go home", and have been puzzled because the feeling comes when I am at home, in my bed, out with my closest friends, back where…"
Rook commented on Rook's blog post 21 minus 3
"Thanks for your comments. It is interesting to find others relating to feelings that still continue to surprise me when I experience them myself. Glad you are all making it to the other side of these painful periods too. We are all apparently…"
Susan J commented on Rook's blog post 21 minus 3
"I thought the third time the birthday and anniversary came around it would be easier. HA! It's different but not better. I like your comparison to the headache. I am coming up on what would have been our 5th anniversary. We were only married…"
bj628(Bonnie) commented on Rook's blog post 21 minus 3
"Hi Rook, I am so sorry for your loss. Your son sounds adorable. I am a little over 14 months. This is the 2nd time being a widow. Yes the pain is a bit more dull, but still have some really rough days.
Chat is a great way to meet and…"
honeys(puddin) commented on Rook's blog post 21 minus 3
"I hope you find some comfort soon. I had my 18th Anniversary 3 months after my Honey died. I also had friends over and that was helpful. Not looking forward to the rest of the special days and anniversaries. I am 17 weeks…"
Suz commented on Rook's blog post 21 minus 3
"HI Rook,
I am Suz, six months out. Welcome to the board...I think. At least I have not met you yet.i am so sorry about the loss of your wife. Seems like you were really devoted from reading through the lines. I love her name, also the name of…"
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This morning my son greeted me with "Happy sad anniversary, Daddy!" What could I do but hug him and let him know that he was exactly right. Happy, sad, anniversary.I have such warm memories of September 7th twenty-one years ago that I can never help but smile when I see the wedding photos. But the last 3 Septembers have been brutal without her. Having gone through it twice before let me know that I would survive the day, but I really didn't feel like it. Just felt kind of numb all day, through…See More
carolynne commented on Rook's blog post Sunday
"(((Rook))) Hang on to that hope, and the memories of the better days. Wishing you peace."
Stumbling (Susan) commented on Rook's blog post Sunday
"Thank God we have our memories to remember the sweet times and help us lessen the sadness and pain of their illnesses. While I miss Ed more than I can imagine, I know his pain needed relief from God."
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Posted on September 7, 2012 at 11:30pm 5 Comments 0 Likes
This morning my son greeted me with "Happy sad anniversary, Daddy!" What could I do but hug him and let him know that he was exactly right. Happy, sad, anniversary.
I have such warm memories of September 7th twenty-one years ago that I can never help but smile when I see the wedding photos. But the last 3 Septembers have been brutal without her. Having gone through it twice before let me know that I would survive the day, but I really didn't feel like it. Just felt kind of numb all… Continue
I have such warm memories of September 7th twenty-one years ago that I can never help but smile when I see the wedding photos. But the last 3 Septembers have been brutal without her. Having gone through it twice before let me know that I would survive the day, but I really didn't feel like it. Just felt kind of numb all… Continue
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Posted on January 8, 2012 at 2:16pm 5 Comments 3 Likes
Two years ago this week, on Sunday morning, I was sitting in church when they called to tell me that my wife had breathed her last. I remember the feeling of shock, then thinking how weird it should be that I would be shocked. After all, Marguerite had been on her deathbed under home hospice care since before Christmas, and for the last week had been so close to the edge that sitting by her bedside had exhausted me, so I went to church.
I remember feeling the weight of sadness descend, and… Continue
I remember feeling the weight of sadness descend, and… Continue
Comment Wall (8 comments)
- At 8:07pm on December 1, 2011,
NMWidower said… Thank you for the friend invite. I hope you find hope and encouragement here!
- At 2:31pm on October 26, 2011,
jean said… - Welcome Paul, I'm so sorry you are here. I hope you find the support you need.. pop in to chat sometimes if you have time and say hello. Hope to meet you soon
- At 8:48pm on September 14, 2011,
Rook said… - Thanks so much for he warm welcome. I am glad to have found others who get it, although it is a bit overwhelming to think of pain like mine multiplied in so many others.
- At 9:21am on September 11, 2011,
carolynne said… - I'm so sorry for the loss that brings you here, but glad that you've found us. I hope you will find the same support and understanding that I have.
- At 11:27pm on September 10, 2011,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
So pleased you found us, Paul. Take a look around and join our conversations - in the Groups, Forums and Chat Room. You'll find wonderful support here.
- At 8:41pm on September 10, 2011,
RobertBear (Bob) said… Hello Paul, I am sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort, understanding, and friendship on this site.
~Robert
- At 7:49pm on September 10, 2011,
Lisa (lost) Lamb said…
- At 7:11pm on September 10, 2011,
wannabmartha said… So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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