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Pearlinden
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  • Omaha, NE
  • United States
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Carol FB left a comment for Pearlinden
"Hi there..... glad to hear you are attending the Tampa camp.   I will let you know when I book my flights.  My Mom lives in  Sun City Center, and I have to decide if I want to see her before or after the camp.  I will have…"
Jan 9
ShirleyB left a comment for Pearlinden
"I just saw that you had commented on someones page that you had read half of Option B.  I, too, only got through half and for the same reasons as you mentioned. I love the concept.  If Option A is no longer available- to kick the blank out…"
Jan 8
Carol FB left a comment for Pearlinden
"Thank you for replying to my awkward introduction.....  I too would love to start a local Soaring Spirits group and have painstakingly looked at members profiles to see if they may live in my area, and reached out to them.  Honestly, there…"
Jan 8
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Hi Carol, I'm so glad you found us, but sorry you need to.  Welcome, it's a great resource.  My name is Pat and we have a lot in common.  I also lost my husband (of 36 years) in Feb. 2017.  I moved from California…"
Jan 8
Pearlinden replied to HelensRay's discussion Its Official in the group Widowed in 2017
"Hi HelensRay,  I absolutely am where you are.  I lost my Charlie, also to cancer, Feb. 24, and life just keeps getting more difficult and hopeless.  I'm tired of doing everything large and small by myself.  I miss him like…"
Nov 17, 2017
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"My Partner's Value We all know we can’t put a dollar amount on our loss.  A few decades ago, there was a study about the economic value of a Wife – what a man (in those days) would have to pay for child care, housekeeper, cook,…"
Nov 7, 2017
BelovedPeach replied to Pearlinden's discussion How to Introduce Myself in the group Widowed in 2017
"Pearlinden, I to am an outgoing, caring person as yourself. It is in my nature to try to please everyone, even to my own expense. Like yourself I to in public didn't want to discuss the death of my husband for fear of a breakdown in public and…"
Nov 2, 2017
Pearlinden added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2017
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How to Introduce Myself

I moved to my old hometown a few months ago, after a long absence.  I'm generally an outgoing person, before all the dark grief.  People are very friendly here.  Up until recently I responded truthfully to the inevitable casual questions of "why did you move here?"  It's obvious from my ID, different area code, etc., that I'm new here.  It's just too exhausting to go into the whole widow thing and field the equally inevitable stupid remarks, unless there's a clear need to know.  I've started…See More
Nov 2, 2017
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"InsideLove, HelensRay, Nancy, and all the rest of us that endure incompetent or at best indifferent treatment:  I wish I had known about this group in the first couple months.  The tip about only doing one thing a day is invaluable, and I…"
Oct 31, 2017
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Hello Ray!  Thank heavens for Widow Village for the very reasons you state.  I am being judged on a daily basis by people who just have no idea, or why I'm not where I "should" be in my healing by now!  Is a liquidizer…"
Oct 30, 2017
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Thanks.  I'm just trying to keep a low profile and not open my mouth.  Just smile.  No one wants to hear it, or they try to fix it, wish it were that easy."
Oct 30, 2017
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"OK, it's finally hit me like a ton of bricks.  I just passed the 8 month mark, and thought I was doing OK.  Coasting on adrenaline and busyness I guess.  Reminds me of when I had knee replacement surgery, they put a super local…"
Oct 29, 2017

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At 4:40am on January 9, 2018, Carol FB said…

Hi there..... glad to hear you are attending the Tampa camp.   I will let you know when I book my flights.  My Mom lives in  Sun City Center, and I have to decide if I want to see her before or after the camp.  I will have to look at flights either way to see what works best.  Either way, I could check into the hotel Thursday afternoon so I could meet up with others before the weekend of workshops.  I too am a bit taken back at the lengths [we] need to go to to find others who understand.  I have met a couple of widows here through the gym or a meet up group, but they haven't really tried to 'stay in touch'.  I think for some who have a strong family and friend connection, they don't have the same need perhaps.   Anyway, thanks for letting me know.  I hope others from this site will reach out also.   Gotta go get some breakfast!

At 6:01pm on January 8, 2018, ShirleyB said…

I just saw that you had commented on someones page that you had read half of Option B.  I, too, only got through half and for the same reasons as you mentioned. I love the concept.  If Option A is no longer available- to kick the blank out of Option B.  But I also didn't like the tone and where the book was heading.  

At 1:01pm on January 8, 2018, Carol FB said…

Thank you for replying to my awkward introduction.....  I too would love to start a local Soaring Spirits group and have painstakingly looked at members profiles to see if they may live in my area, and reached out to them.  Honestly, there has to be an easier way.  Even replying to a comment is not the easiest task.   I know what you mean about 'repeating your story'.  I have joined a few age related meet up groups in my area, and as much as I love going to them and meeting new people, I can't seem to 'stop' myself from telling my story.  I need to learn how not to do that.   If you are planing to go to Widow Camp Tampa, let me know.  I would love to meet others from this site.   Would love to go to the Toronto one later this year also.... have always wanted to visit Canada.  Might be a good reason.   I am glad you are somewhere you have family and connections.  My daughter and her boyfriend ( and his parents) all live near me, so that has been my salvation.  I love it here, and realize that even if she moves away someday, I wouldn't trade a moment I have had with her.  The story gets complicated, so I won't get into that now.   I am glad to connect to you.... it seems we have some things in common.   I didn't like the fb group Option B.... I am on there but have unfollowed it for a while.  It really helped me at first, but then I got depressed over the postings.  I needed to move on.  Thanks again, and stay in touch.

At 6:00pm on October 1, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Pearlinden.  I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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