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Pearlinden replied to HelensRay's discussion Its Official in the group Widowed in 2017
"Hi HelensRay,  I absolutely am where you are.  I lost my Charlie, also to cancer, Feb. 24, and life just keeps getting more difficult and hopeless.  I'm tired of doing everything large and small by myself.  I miss him like…"
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"My Partner's Value We all know we can’t put a dollar amount on our loss.  A few decades ago, there was a study about the economic value of a Wife – what a man (in those days) would have to pay for child care, housekeeper, cook,…"
Nov 7
BelovedPeach replied to Pearlinden's discussion How to Introduce Myself in the group Widowed in 2017
"Pearlinden, I to am an outgoing, caring person as yourself. It is in my nature to try to please everyone, even to my own expense. Like yourself I to in public didn't want to discuss the death of my husband for fear of a breakdown in public and…"
Nov 2
Pearlinden added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2017

How to Introduce Myself

I moved to my old hometown a few months ago, after a long absence.  I'm generally an outgoing person, before all the dark grief.  People are very friendly here.  Up until recently I responded truthfully to the inevitable casual questions of "why did you move here?"  It's obvious from my ID, different area code, etc., that I'm new here.  It's just too exhausting to go into the whole widow thing and field the equally inevitable stupid remarks, unless there's a clear need to know.  I've started…See More
Nov 2
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"InsideLove, HelensRay, Nancy, and all the rest of us that endure incompetent or at best indifferent treatment:  I wish I had known about this group in the first couple months.  The tip about only doing one thing a day is invaluable, and I…"
Oct 31
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Hello Ray!  Thank heavens for Widow Village for the very reasons you state.  I am being judged on a daily basis by people who just have no idea, or why I'm not where I "should" be in my healing by now!  Is a liquidizer…"
Oct 30
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Thanks.  I'm just trying to keep a low profile and not open my mouth.  Just smile.  No one wants to hear it, or they try to fix it, wish it were that easy."
Oct 30
Pearlinden commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"OK, it's finally hit me like a ton of bricks.  I just passed the 8 month mark, and thought I was doing OK.  Coasting on adrenaline and busyness I guess.  Reminds me of when I had knee replacement surgery, they put a super local…"
Oct 29

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At 6:00pm on October 1, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Pearlinden.  I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.


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