"Yup, hate to say, grief does make one reach for the bottle -- dull the pain. It's just normal. I did it/do it too. Take care and glad you have support."
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Pegasus
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Pegasus commented on GKinSD's blog post 8 months into this shitty journey
"I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. My husband of 49 years was diagnosed with colon cancer and a hole in his colon just two months before his death exactly one year ago. I witnessed his body's deterioration and woke up in…"
BlankMind commented on Pegasus's blog post A Sobering Thought
"Pegasus, I'm very sorry for your loss. I too drank for awhile to numb the pain. Sometimes we just can't stand the grief. I'm happy for you that your daughter was there to help you. Thank you for sharing."
Pegasus commented on Daisy's blog post Seven Years Later
"I share many of your thoughts and feelings - not capable of loving anyone else, not worth the time or trouble to look and feeling lucky for the time I had with my husband. We had 51 years together but it wasn't enough. You will…"
Pegasus posted a blog post
A Sobering Thought
I passed the 1 year mark 9 days ago. My family needed me to be strong so I didn't allow myself to grieve. Things were going pretty well until this past spring, when I unexpectedly slid into depression and crying jags. Almost four months passed and just as I started thinking I was getting back on track, I did an odd thing. I'm not a drinker but 3 weeks ago I bought 3 bottles of bourbon. After some experimentation I decided mixed drinks were my preferred way of drinking it. I barely put in…See More
Pegasus commented on Julie's blog post Trying to find my way,
"My husband died July 10, 2018. After a week of tests in the hospital; I was told to take him home because he had 10 days to live. Inoperable hole in his colon and colon cancer. He held on for 42 days, dying on our daughter's…"
Heidi57 commented on Pegasus's blog post Life Changes
"I understand. My husband's death has me not knowing who I am, what I want to do, how I want to do it and how will I get thru it alone. He passed away Sept. 22/18 and I still feel like I'm on hold expecting to wake up and find…"
Tekwriter commented on Pegasus's blog post Life Changes
"In two and a half months the anniversary will be here for me. Whoever said that should be drawn and quartered. It is clear they know nothing. Most people know nothing. Unless they have been there they don't understand and by this point they are…"
Rainy (Misty) commented on Pegasus's blog post Life Changes
"Death changes everything, but it doesn't change the fact that we were loved and loved an amazing partner. I am a different person as well, it's been 13 months for me and I am just now beginning to learn who I am without…"
riet commented on Pegasus's blog post Life Changes
"Everything has changed since my love died. Very much. Everything changed when he suddenly became incurably ill in 2014. But nothing can be compared to the time that came afterwards. The dreams are gone, the hope is gone. Away the little things to…"
DIVA70 commented on Pegasus's blog post Life Changes
"Whoever said "Death changes nothing" has most certainly not been on the journey I am on now. When my husband died on April 29,2018 EVERYTHING in my life changed. Imagine meeting your husband in the sixth grade and than being reunited years…"
Bobbysgirl commented on Pegasus's blog post Life Changes
"Very sorry for your loss. It has been over 5 years for me. Whoever said that death changes nothing is an idiot. It changes almost everything in your life. When I lost Bob I thought I would never fully recover. My life has changed a lot and I…"
Pegasus posted a blog post
Life Changes
I had a random thought this morning - I'm not who I was 6 1/2 months ago. My husband's death has turned me into a different person, one that I don't know and don't want to be. His passing set off a chain of events that was impossible to anticipate. I read a quote on the internet a few minutes ago that stated "Death changes nothing". No, death changes everything. It has forced me into thinking differently, feeling differently, living a different life, having a different future, making…See More
Pegasus commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post Carrying a Hole
"You've written exactly what I've been feeling but hadn't been able to express. It's been 5 months since I lost my husband of 47 years. I'm 70 and truly believe that I'll be carrying this hole within me for…"
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A Sobering Thought
Posted on July 19, 2019 at 2:21pm 2 Comments 0 Likes
I passed the 1 year mark 9 days ago. My family needed me to be strong so I didn't allow myself to grieve. Things were going pretty well until this past spring, when I unexpectedly slid into depression and crying jags. Almost four months passed and just as I started thinking I was getting back on track, I did an odd thing. I'm not a drinker but 3 weeks ago I bought 3 bottles of bourbon. After some experimentation I decided mixed drinks were my preferred way…
Continue Life Changes
Posted on January 28, 2019 at 9:03am 7 Comments 0 Likes
I had a random thought this morning - I'm not who I was 6 1/2 months ago. My husband's death has turned me into a different person, one that I don't know and don't want to be. His passing set off a chain of events that was impossible to anticipate. I read a quote on the internet a few minutes ago that stated "Death changes nothing". No, death changes everything. It has forced me into thinking differently, feeling differently, living a different life,…
Continue Christmas Tree
Posted on November 12, 2018 at 4:27pm 0 Comments 0 Likes
Finally figured out how to put the Christmas tree in this post. It's a bit early but the past four months have been extraordinarily difficult, sad and life-altering. Putting up the tree has helped some. I just want to end the year with something positive, pretty and fun.…
Continue Thinking Ahead
Posted on November 11, 2018 at 11:09am 4 Comments 0 Likes
It's been a difficult, sad and life-altering year. For the past four months my life has been consumed with settling my husband's estate, taking care of my developmentally delayed son and just getting through each day. The arrival of November has been urging me to start planning for the holidays. For the first time ever, my youngest sister just told me that her children have to work on Thanksgiving so her family won't be able to come. My daughter's boyfriend…
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- At 11:07am on October 22, 2018, jlsrdh said…
I totally understand your loss of your husband. I’m glad you had a little time together just to be with him and maybe get a few things in order before his passing. I have had to deal with shared iPads, his phone, his amazon prime, our Costco cards, health insurance all co mingled with his office. He was just 71 but did not want to retire and was working part time from home. Most is taken care of now. The amazon prime paid for by his company expires next year. Same with Costco card. I had to change the email address and credit card in the amazon account to mine. What a mess he left me with and I tell him this. He was the technical one. Did all the Apple stuff for his company and us. All Apple ids were his email at work, which if not gone now will be removed from his Apple items. I still have one of his iPads, as he had 2. I have not changed anything in it yet as his office said until they change it to leave it alone. His work was uploaded to the cloud and they are still retrieving it. Early this morning I was having a strange dream. In the background at 4:30 I hear his cell phone ring tone and at the same time I had a jiggle in my bed. He woke me up. My bed is a Tempur-pedic and they don’t move. This has happened a few time since his death 2 months ago. I know he is here to try And help me with this grief. Life is oh so,different now.
- At 5:52pm on September 28, 2018, Patience said…
Welcome to Widville, Pegasus. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
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