"So this comment is a day or two late, but hearing from some that love their therapy and others of us who don't want or need it, I'm pretty sure the answer is that we each know ourselves best and we don't need someone else telling us…"
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Brucer left a comment for Petal
"Hi Petal,
I am so sorry for your loss. I saw your post about people pushing therapy. You are right, therapy will not bring our loved ones back. We need to grieve, shed our tears, and be sad. Too bad if others aren't…"
Petal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Oh Joellen, I totally agree with you (like always). And Tomsgirl, if you don’t want therapy, don’t get it.
I have several friends and family who keep pushing me to get therapy. What the hell do they know? They have never been…"
Petal commented on kelleyinnewyork's blog post What Remains .....
"I've read this several times and I break down and cry each time. I feel everything you wrote. You put it so well. How did this happen? My husband also died while I was asleep. Why did we go…"
Petal replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"That's funny! And so very true."
Petal commented on Suz's event Jud
"Suz, I hope you feel Jud's love today. What a great picture of the two of you. I just lit a candle for Jud and said a prayer for both of you. You are a nice lady and I always like reading your posts. Peace and love…"
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Jud at In My Heart
April 29, 2013 all day
It is hard to believe but this is Jud's second birthday in the afterlife. I think the "missing' is more "raw" this year. Last year, I was knee-deep in fixing a breaking-down home and somewhat numb. This year I am feeling great loss. I know you all "get it."Would appreciate your prayers and good thoughts.My dear kind Jud, I miss you and will always love you!See More
Petal commented on Cristina's event 2 year sadiversary, of Darling Billie's Passing
"Cristina, I just lit a candle for your sweet Billie and said a prayer for him and you. I have many candles burning tonight and will continue to keep you both in my thoughts and prayers tonight."
Petal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"to nancyb88 and Joellen, I also know how you both feel. Scott has been gone for just over 6 months. I have no purpose in life now and no desire to find a new purpose. This emptiness and loneliness is what we're left…"
Petal commented on Cristina's event 2 year sadiversary, of Darling Billie's Passing
"Dear Beautiful Cristina, first of all, take good care of your health. Rest and try your best to only concentrate on the happy times with your Billie. I will be thinking of you two on Monday and I will also light a candle in his…"
Petal commented on MrsD's blog post So angry and hurt
"I'm so sorry for this mess your MIL has created for you. Not cool. My Scott's family is probably about to pull something like this as well, but I just have to wait, keep my mouth shut and see what happens.
Your friend is…"
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- At 8:54am on May 16, 2013,
Brucer said… Hi Petal,
I am so sorry for your loss. I saw your post about people pushing therapy. You are right, therapy will not bring our loved ones back. We need to grieve, shed our tears, and be sad. Too bad if others aren't comfortable with that.
I lost my sweetie 7 months ago today. She battled ovarian cancer for 8 years. She had so much courage! There is no way to prepare for our loss. It's not real until it's real. I can't imagine having a sudden loss like yours. God Bless and all my best to you and your family!
Bruce
- At 9:29pm on April 7, 2013,
sueprnova said… such a handsome couple!
- At 10:47am on March 19, 2013,
gregsgirl said… - Hi Petal, So sorry for your loss. It is such a sensitive matter dealing with the things our loves left behind. Suddenly they hold so much meaning. I had thrown away our toothbrushes at his apartment and it killed me. His toothbrush still sits beside mine in my bathroom. I am definitely keeping many things and incorporate them into my life-wear his tee shirts to bed, listen to his iPod, watch his movies. It's just this desperate need to hold onto any last vestiges of the person. So incredibly sad.
- At 12:06pm on March 17, 2013,
john said… Hiya Petal I lost Elaine my partner of 21 years on Dec21st 2012 suddenly and unexpected from a Anneurysm #Haemoragic stroke she was 50 years of age so sorry for your loss
- At 11:15pm on March 12, 2013,
Pat said… I also apologize for if I make decisions he wouldn't have made (or might not like)! I do agonize over some things, I simply decide about others, and other times I figure a widow can only get screwed once! Then I move on to the next decisions! But I keep wondering what he thinks of what I'm doing. I know he's watching and beside me. Take care, Petal.
- At 11:10pm on February 17, 2013,
Suz said… You are so welcome, Petal. I am glad you found us.I hope you will find a lot of caring and compassion here.
Hugs,
Suz
- At 6:17pm on October 28, 2012, missinghugs (fran) said…
Petal....I give you credit being here at 1 month. I think I was in shock for six months. Saturday it will be one year for me......I don't know where I belong.....even among family, I'm lost.
- At 6:08pm on October 19, 2012,
LaurieR said… Hello Petal. I am so sorry for your loss. I never really know what to say but welcome to this site. It is so very hard for people who have not lost their significant other to understand what your going through. People here all have lost their love and understand. I saw in your post you were asking about sayings. The people who are selling you the headstone should have a book with different sayings. I don't know if you are religious but this is one of my favorite. "God could not have made Earthly ties so strong to break them in eternity." If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me. I will do my best to help you. I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept.
- At 10:22pm on October 16, 2012,
Joyce said… Hi Petal: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
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