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Bringing Along the Family

Posted on September 15, 2016 at 6:08am 3 Comments

I just spent an extended weekend with my girlfriend (yes, I’m using the “girlfriend” thing regularly now) at her home down south, sort of a quasi-trial run (trial run 1 of a potential 3) (maybe trial run 1 of a potential 4) (or possibly trial run 1 of a potential 2 … things went very well …) to see how we would actually get along if we were living together. There was never a big doubt that all would be good, but, hey, as we all know, the bouncing ball of widow-dom…


Closure & Journey

Posted on August 26, 2016 at 8:00am 4 Comments

I have had some really interesting conversations recently regarding the words “closure” and “journey”, so regularly used when discussing the state of my widowed status. I’ve used those exact words myself many times, casually flipped out there like a business card to anyone who is interested. Just for the sake of conversation, I looked up the Merriam-Webster official descriptions of these two heavily over-used nouns:

Closure: a feeling that a bad experience (such as a…


Breaking All of the Rules

Posted on August 20, 2016 at 4:30am 10 Comments

As I close in on 3 months since Bunny died it appears that I have broken ALL of the rules.  Especially, you know, the overall Big Rule - Don't make any major decisions:

The Rules:

  1. Don't quit your job
  2. Don't rush into clearing stuff out of your house
  3. Don't start a new relationship
  4. Don't move
  5. Don't make any financial…

Counting the Days

Posted on August 5, 2016 at 9:58am 2 Comments

I no longer say “my wife died (5,6,7,etc) days ago”, now it’s “a few months ago”. And before too long it will be “last year” and then “several years”. When I first realized I was saying “a few months ago” it sounded cold & unfeeling to my ears, as if I didn’t care that much or that her death was somehow much less important now. But that’s not it at all. I think a few things happened that started to change my approach to mourning, and in turn, affected my telling of her passing and my…


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At 5:58pm on July 1, 2016, Patience said…
Welcome to Widville, Pointbass. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
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