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Portpom
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  • New South Wales
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Other people making it all about them...

Started this discussion. Last reply by Broken Diva Mar 15. 5 Replies

Anyone had other family members trying to make it all about them? My husband died just over 3 weeks ago and I have just had an email from my mum about how hard she is finding it and how difficult it…Continue

How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rich 11 hours ago. 9 Replies

My husband died just over three weeks ago. We had been married for 29 years and have two kids eho are 12 and 10. 14 years ago we emigrated to Australia, but my family are still in the UK. I have been…Continue

 

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Rich replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Frank: I get the talking thing. Janet's birthday was 5/11 so I set my phone alarm to 5:11 pm. Everyday where ever I am I pick it up when it rings and give her an update of my day. If someone is with me they just think it's a friend or…"
11 hours ago
Frank replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Hi Pooh You are going through a truly terrible time, way more than any one person should endure.  The first year many folks get through by putting one foot in front of the other, day in and day out.  We are stunned by the tragedy that has…"
15 hours ago
Pooh898 replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"My husband passed unexpectedly less than a month ago. I’m still waiting for my phone to ring or for him to walk in the door. "
Sunday
barbee replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Frank, truer words were never spoken than the ones you wrote: "most people want to help and even fewer know how". When Gary was in Hospice (the last 13 months of his life), one of the nurses mentioned to me that when someone says they…"
Saturday
Frank replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Hi Portmom, When we are struck with this tragedy, our lives are shattered, and we fall to pieces.  It is as if a bomb went off and we are stunned.  We scream, cry, some rage, others just fall to emotional pieces.  One of our members…"
Saturday
Broken Diva replied to Portpom's discussion Other people making it all about them...
"ExPatkat, So sorry you had to go through that!  Don't you want to just hang up on them?!  The people who you really feel that would be the most support aren't! I don't answer either!!! BTW, is that a picture of your…"
Mar 15
ExPatKat replied to Portpom's discussion Other people making it all about them...
"When my husband died, I found out what Caller ID is really for!  I got calls from one of my sisters who was drunk going on and on about how hard it is to get old alone.  She walked away from every decent guy that wanted to be with her, she…"
Mar 15
Broken Diva replied to Portpom's discussion Other people making it all about them...
"YES!  This has happened to me too!  A month after my husband died unexpectedly, my sister in law wanted to come to my house with me taking care of my elderly mother & father at the time - he has since died (not to invite US to their…"
Mar 15
Lisa_says replied to Portpom's discussion Other people making it all about them...
"Yes people literally call me with their problems.  It starts with "how are you?" and then they unload all their trivial BS on me. My sister is miserable because her Mother in law is living with her now and she has only called me once…"
Mar 14
Lisa_says replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"I am so sorry for your loss PortPom My husband died 3 months ago and whenever I tell people how devastated I am they look worried and some avoid me completely as I think it's awkward for them. I joined this site so I can post how I truly feel.…"
Mar 14
Portpom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"My husband died on 15th Feb 2019 and it all still seems so surreal. He had liver damage from birth that had never affected him, but since Christmas had various infections that would seem to heal. He had been sick for a couple of days when he took a…"
Mar 13
f650cs replied to Portpom's discussion Other people making it all about them...
"Family can be so unhelpful. Some of mine has been wonderful and others just horrible. Four days after my husband died, much sooner that we had expected from complications of his cancer, his sister called to tell me that it was my fault. He had been…"
Mar 13
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Mar 11
DIVA70 replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"I truly understand how you feel. It will be a year for me on April 29 and my emotions have been all over the place. I seem to be crying more the closer I get to the one year mark. I said something to my youngest son about my mental state and the…"
Mar 10
sis replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Portpom, I came to this site so I could release emotions without stressing family with worry. I don't do facebook, so this site has been helpful for me. Everyone here has experienced loss of their love, but realize that grief is like…"
Mar 10
Rainy (Misty) replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Portpom, I'm sorry for your loss.  Three weeks is so very soon, you really haven't had time to process anything yet.  Yes, it's normal to think he'll walk in the door.  Mine has been gone for 15 months and…"
Mar 10

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At 1:22pm on March 9, 2019, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville, Portpom. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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