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Susan D (Profe D)
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On September 17, 2012 at 4:15 am I received the worst phone call ever! He was supposed to be released that afternoon from the hospital after a bout of pancreitis. We were married in our 30's and had no children, but had dogs over the years. I am happy for the 19 years that we had together, but I miss him terribly.

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Autumn Leaves......

Posted on November 11, 2013 at 1:17pm 0 Comments

Dan and I both loved the fall.  The crispness in the air, the colors of the leaves, football!  He died on September 17. 2012...right before the official start to fall.  We were married on November 20, 1993....toward the end of fall.  I miss him so much.  Sometimes it is just easier sitting in the dark, crying, missing.......'s a sad song sung by an artist who died much too young.…


Where to start?!?!?!

Posted on November 7, 2013 at 1:59pm 2 Comments

Dan has been gone almost 14 months.  I have done nothing with his things.  But, I am getting that feeling that I'm ready.  My problem.....where do I start??  I know that I want to have a quilt made from his T-Shirts and give the rest of his clothes and shoes that are in good condition to a nursing home that our church helps sponsor.  It's just the stuff in his part of the storage room.....I just don't know where to start.  I said this to my mom, and in all her wisdom, she said, "Start with…



Posted on September 29, 2013 at 7:47am 8 Comments

In the year and some odd days that Dan has been gone, I have had bronchitis, sore throat, a root canal (the worst) and other little things.  I have been able to handle them just fine.  But now, on Thursday, I will be having surgery -- nothing big -- to repair the torn meniscus in my left knee and to "clean up" the Articular cartilage.  It is finally hitting me that Dan won't be here to take care of me.  I have to be totally dependent on my neighbors.  My dog and I will be "moving in" with…


Hardest of times

Posted on May 17, 2013 at 8:30am 5 Comments

I an having a tough week for some reason.  My students have been with me on this grief journey, so they are able to recognize "those" days.  Yesterday, one of my sweet girls handed this to me after class.  


I know that you're in

   the hardest of times

And I know it's a tough

   uphill climb, but

things get better, and

I know it was supposed 

   to be forever.

But forever…


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At 5:47pm on October 30, 2013, SpiritsInTheNite said…
I'm sorry Susan D.......You sent me a message on 10/11.......just now see it........I guess it shows just how slow its going to take me to try to catch up to you guys .......Thank You.......
At 8:28am on September 18, 2013, my roses said…

Just came  to read your comments.  My heart is with you... I just went through my first wedding anniversary on 7th Sept,  I echo your words... we will love our beloved for ever.  I know that 3 days before  the anniversary I was withering away.  I share your anguish and sorrow.  I decided I could not stay in the house that day.  Went out to a film and a concert with friends.  Somehow I managed to get through the day without tears.  I pray that you will have a sign, a dream, a vision, a thought of your Dan.  It seems, from what I have read and also experienced.  that the more one 'talks, sings' etc to one's love, the greater the chance they will respond somehow.   I know this aching pain and longing is really terrible.  I have had other losses BUT NEVER LIKE THIS. mUCH LOVE

At 9:57pm on August 8, 2013, bj628(Bonnie) said…

Thanks for the friend request ♥  I know we have chatted a bit, Looking forward to getting to know you better.

At 2:09am on June 29, 2013, AD1970 said…

thank you Susan for adding me as your friend,gosh wasn't it fun in chat lovely to have been able to meet you too

best wishes

Andrew (AD)

At 4:36pm on April 22, 2013, Nancy828 said…

Thank you for the request and thank you again for the chat! It really made me smile, I feel better after talking to all of you

At 3:13pm on March 15, 2013, saudade said…

Thank you Susan, Just looking through the site, I'm sure it will be very helpful.

At 5:24pm on March 8, 2013, MichaelsLisa said…

Susan, I'm so very sorry for your loss. and yes it really is nice to be around people that "get it" so many friends and fam really have no idea, and tend to offer unwanted advice. ;)

Hugs tight!

Hang in there!

At 1:04pm on March 8, 2013, Alice said…

I wish I would have found this website sooner.  I have been struggling this past year.  My husband passed away 51 weeks ago on his 60th birthday.  Went to work and never came home.  This past year has been a learning experience to say the least.  I have lost friends and gain some along the way and my family from both sides really have not been there for me.  So it has been very lonely.  

At 1:55pm on February 2, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…

Hi Susan, thanks for the request. Sorry for your loss. Nice chatting with you. Love it here in NC, Been snowing today, it's magical to watch it snowing, but tough to drive in it. Keep it touch, Look forward to chatting again. God Bless, Keep Smiling

At 7:28am on December 25, 2012, LaurieR said…

Hi Profe D, I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to Widowed Village.  Your family and friends love and support you but have no idea what you are going through unless they lost their love.  Everyone on this site has lost their loves.  They understand.  Please come here when you are sad and need someone to listen. Read a blog, write a blog, join in chat when you are ready.  If you have any question e-mail me.  I will send you a friend request you can accept it if you wish.


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