PsLove's Page

'happy' birthday! thinking of you

Hi Pslove. I am so glad that you found widowed village and our unwedded widows group. This online community is full of amazing people. I hope that you find the support that you need here. I am here to support and encourage you on this journey. Sending you lots of love and hugs. GW

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Big hug!
Supa
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Amazing pictures - I'm glad you found us but said you have to be on the Born in the 80s group- love and hugs

Hi PsLOVE.

so glad you found us!

here I hope you'll find strength, hope and healing. (hugs) so sorry for your recent loss.  Although this feels like an unsteady path, esp in comparison to the very steady path we were on when we were with our spouse' ...but you've come to the right place in seeking understanding, and guidance/  we all 'get it' and listen.  

peace and healing.

cheers!

stacy

Hi,

      I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room.
1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
7. BE READY:
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.
ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..

I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.

Hi,

I met you in the chat room last night, but it was late for me and I couldn't stick around long.  As i recall your name is Michelle, forgive me if I'm wrong, I can hardly remember my own name.

Welcome to the group nobody wants to be a part of, you will find a lot of support.  My experience has been that Widowed Village allows you to say anything without judging you.

You look very young in the picture, i won't ask your age, but there are widows of all ages in here.  I'm 58, thought I would be the youngest one, and I'm one of the older ones.

It's only been 7 weeks for me today, so I probably don't have any answers for you, and don't know if there are answers, but come back and you'll find someone that can help you wth whatever you're going through.

Alan