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Photo's of possessions...Short article I came across

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) on Sunday. 2 Replies

I came across an interesting article and thought I'd share it with everyone.... the pictures are really cool I thought.  The idea of turning everyday objects into an artful scrapbook is pretty neat.  …Continue

Poems, songs and sayings...

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Apr 17. 4 Replies

I had a pretty low morning and have been thinking of Jerry all morning and something he said to me years ago keeps playing in my head.  When I asked him what would I ever do without him, he said to me, "Go on with it, but miss me a little."Just for…Continue

Is there anything you know NOW that you wish you'd have known pre loss?

Started this discussion. Last reply by vintage56(barb) Mar 17. 9 Replies

Oh how I wish I'd have known....Without ever having lost a person close to me before Jerry I wish I'd have known then what I know now.  PHOTOS!  Today google sent me a collection of what I was doing on this day four years ago.  I was so excited, to…Continue

How often do you visit the gravesite?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Feb 9. 14 Replies

I haven't been back to Jerry's grave site yet.  His daughter and I plan on riding up there with the restored "55 Bel Air he never got to drive and blast him some Freebird!  I'm not really looking forward to that.  I wanted to go first alone, when…Continue


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"Misty, you have been dealt a terrible blow, losing Jerry and your ex husband in such a short space of time. Must be really hard for you and your children. My thoughts are with you. Hopefully you have some close friends who will support you plus the…"
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"I agree w/Callie ... Its time to convalesce & cry it out ... The time will come when you are not as weak so you can start learning to cope w/it - the raw grieve has to be released ... Suffering is much longer when running, fighting & denying…"
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If I leave here tomorrow
Would you still remember me?
For I must be traveling on, now
Cause there's too many places I've got to see
But, if I stayed here with you, girl
Things just couldn't be the same
Cause I'm as free as a bird now
And this bird you can not change

Written by Allen Collins, Ronnie Van Zant • Copyright © Universal Music Publishing Group

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I'm a weather forecast and maybe a little bit crazy

Posted on April 22, 2018 at 6:55pm 2 Comments

It's been awhile since I've had anything to say.  Profound sadness has had me locked up in a choke hold.  I tend to retreat within myself during those times.  Like a clam closing, it's shell.  I'm feeling a little better, okay actually I'm feeling a lot better.  From somewhere in my little clam world the theme from Rocky begin playing on a loop in my head. …


What's with her?

Posted on March 13, 2018 at 10:18am 11 Comments

 Since Jerry's death, I have heard the whisperings of people who may or may not be well-meaning.  It is a really small town and everyone knows everyone.  So, I expect that I have to hear things I don't like or answer questions when I really don't want too.  Ignorance runs rampant around my town.  Not everyone, most folks are kind or mean well even if they don't cut the mustard.  

I am on the fence, should I fight stupid with stupid?  Should I put my mask on and pretend all is…


This is not my norm!

Posted on February 26, 2018 at 11:28am 8 Comments

I was chatting with a new member here at the village. She said to me; I hate this new normal. I echoed the sentiment. It's the same sentiment I've said and heard over and over again since, Dec. 14, 2017. I contemplated my new routine. It seems as though I'm in a persistent state of war. It's exhausting.

My heart and mind constantly duel, to the point of both physical and mental exhaustion. Most days I act upbeat; I even fool myself for a moment or two. However, my private war…


Staying positive amid despair

Posted on February 17, 2018 at 10:00am 10 Comments

This morning, I woke up and the first thing I thought about naturally was Jerry.  He's been the first thing I've thought about for years. Usually, I'd roll over and snuggle; today I stared at our picture.  I wondered what advice he'd give me.  I wondered what was going through his mind two months after he lost his wife.  Jerry was such a confident man.  He nearly always looked on the bright side.  He almost always embraced and adapted to circumstances beyond his control.  I so admired his…


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At 2:46pm on April 24, 2018, Vanda said…

Misty, you have been dealt a terrible blow, losing Jerry and your ex husband in such a short space of time. Must be really hard for you and your children. My thoughts are with you. Hopefully you have some close friends who will support you plus the friends you make on this website. X

At 9:10am on April 23, 2018, Vanda said…

Thank you Misty. I should introduce myself. My name is Vanda, i’m 59, live in Wales, UK and have two children, Mike 31 and Sammi, 28.i lost my husband, Phil,  on 31 March 2017 to pancreatic cancer. Phil was diagnosed in early February 2017 and seven weeks later he passed away, aged only 56. That’s when our world fell apart!!

the past year has been so hard for the three of us. We can’t imagine how we will cope with the long years ahead of us without Phil. So many people loved him and there was a huge turn out for his funeral but many people fall by the wayside. Luckily I have a handful of close friends who keep in touch regularly. We were such a close family and enjoyed going on holiday together. Phil had served 31 years in the Police and we were looking forward to many holidays, relaxing together, but all of this and all that he worked so hard for was taken away from him.

Phil loved his music, Elton John being a firm favourite from the seventies. He also loved to visit America with Mike. They visited LA, San Francisco, Las Vegas, Florida and New York on many occasions.

Life seems so meaningless without Phil.

I’m sorry for your loss too, Misty. Hopefully I will find friends and comfort from visiting this site, as you have done.

Vanda x

At 9:07am on April 2, 2018, nayajivan said…

Thanks !

At 7:49am on April 2, 2018, nayajivan said…
Thank you very much for reaching out to me !

It is being very tough first few days and weeks for me and kids without her..

I just don't feel like doing anything...

I don't know how I will manage home and family now without her..?
At 3:29pm on March 29, 2018, Gary said…

thank you, and... likewise.

At 12:39pm on March 26, 2018, MartyG said…

Thank you, Misty, for your comment only post "Epiphany" is uplifting to know that I have friends here like you in WV :)

At 12:21pm on March 16, 2018, Peaceful3616 (Jessica) said…
You are so welcome!
At 5:02pm on January 31, 2018, Sonu said…

Hi Rainy, thankyou for reaching out to me and I am sorry for being late as I am stuck in all the legal matters now which i don't feel like doing but i have to. Honestly speaking I am not doing good.I feel like screaming, I don't know what to do. It has been 40 days and i still feel it was just yesterday. I feel his presence. He was my habit my daily routine. My day started with him and ended with him. Why does God take someone so soon? What more "GOOD" plans he has??

At 11:24am on January 29, 2018, Frank said…

Hi Rainy,

I received your "Friend" request and Yes, I'd like that a lot.



At 9:49am on January 11, 2018, Sonu said…

I am so sorry for your loss. Yes this is really devastating. It is midnight here in India and I can't sleep. I feel so empty inside. I can totally understand you.


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