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Rainy (Misty)
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Is there anything you know NOW that you wish you'd have known pre loss?

Started this discussion. Last reply by vintage56(barb) Mar 17. 9 Replies

Oh how I wish I'd have known....Without ever having lost a person close to me before Jerry I wish I'd have known then what I know now.  PHOTOS!  Today google sent me a collection of what I was doing on this day four years ago.  I was so excited, to…Continue

How often do you visit the gravesite?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Feb 9. 14 Replies

I haven't been back to Jerry's grave site yet.  His daughter and I plan on riding up there with the restored "55 Bel Air he never got to drive and blast him some Freebird!  I'm not really looking forward to that.  I wanted to go first alone, when…Continue

"Because I'd want you to move on and live."

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Feb 10. 7 Replies

I have been reading a book recently that triggered a memory of a conversation between Jerry and me.  It was a very long time ago.   I guess our age difference kind of forced us to have strange pillow talk... Anyway, without all the back story, I…Continue

Let's Grumble

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Feb 2. 22 Replies

I have heard so many wonderful things about some wonderful men and women here.  Many of you have heard all about how perfect for me, my Jerry was.  I love him plain and simple...warts and all!  I love all of his many quirks and craziness. I was…Continue


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SweetMelissa2007 commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post What's with her?
"Knowing that you are trying for a positive spin - keep doing it b/c it can be achieved - its a matter of finding your interpretation for annoying distractions even taxing people. I only wish a seasoned widow w/sage knowledge had told me this in the…"
Rainy (Misty) replied to Linda C's discussion Why, why do we suffer so?
"Linda, I'm so sorry for your loss.  It is still so new and raw for you.  I won't speak for everyone but I'll share my experience.  I lost Jerry Dec 14, 2017, so I'm still new at this too.  Very early on,…"
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Faith Hill - There You'll Be (Pearl Harbor Theme 2001)

"I love this song!  We loved the movie and would watch it I can't say how many times.  My husband did art work with Flight Jackets.  Oh how I'm missing him today.  I know he is hear.  "
Morgana (Janet) commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post What's with her?
"What a wonderful idea Misty. Yes maybe we can brainstorm and come up with some things. We aren't the person who we were before. That person died also."

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If I leave here tomorrow
Would you still remember me?
For I must be traveling on, now
Cause there's too many places I've got to see
But, if I stayed here with you, girl
Things just couldn't be the same
Cause I'm as free as a bird now
And this bird you can not change

Written by Allen Collins, Ronnie Van Zant • Copyright © Universal Music Publishing Group

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What's with her?

Posted on March 13, 2018 at 10:18am 7 Comments

 Since Jerry's death, I have heard the whisperings of people who may or may not be well-meaning.  It is a really small town and everyone knows everyone.  So, I expect that I have to hear things I don't like or answer questions when I really don't want too.  Ignorance runs rampant around my town.  Not everyone, most folks are kind or mean well even if they don't cut the mustard.  

I am on the fence, should I fight stupid with stupid?  Should I put my mask on and pretend all is…


This is not my norm!

Posted on February 26, 2018 at 11:28am 8 Comments

I was chatting with a new member here at the village. She said to me; I hate this new normal. I echoed the sentiment. It's the same sentiment I've said and heard over and over again since, Dec. 14, 2017. I contemplated my new routine. It seems as though I'm in a persistent state of war. It's exhausting.

My heart and mind constantly duel, to the point of both physical and mental exhaustion. Most days I act upbeat; I even fool myself for a moment or two. However, my private war…


Staying positive amid despair

Posted on February 17, 2018 at 10:00am 9 Comments

This morning, I woke up and the first thing I thought about naturally was Jerry.  He's been the first thing I've thought about for years. Usually, I'd roll over and snuggle; today I stared at our picture.  I wondered what advice he'd give me.  I wondered what was going through his mind two months after he lost his wife.  Jerry was such a confident man.  He nearly always looked on the bright side.  He almost always embraced and adapted to circumstances beyond his control.  I so admired his…


Alone on the Farm

Posted on February 16, 2018 at 4:30am 2 Comments

Last night was the first night I've spent alone on the farm.  My kids were here, but they are kids.  My "step-daughter" and her family share 40 acres with me.  They took a weekend trip.  It was eerily quiet and dark out here.  I felt really alone. 

It's strange how little things like that make me feel vulnerable and achy.  I ache for Jerry, he was the kind of man that made one feel safe.  I was never afraid when he was here.  There are so many small adjustments to make.  In attitude,…


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At 12:21pm on March 16, 2018, Peaceful3616 (Jessica) said…
You are so welcome!
At 5:02pm on January 31, 2018, Sonu said…

Hi Rainy, thankyou for reaching out to me and I am sorry for being late as I am stuck in all the legal matters now which i don't feel like doing but i have to. Honestly speaking I am not doing good.I feel like screaming, I don't know what to do. It has been 40 days and i still feel it was just yesterday. I feel his presence. He was my habit my daily routine. My day started with him and ended with him. Why does God take someone so soon? What more "GOOD" plans he has??

At 11:24am on January 29, 2018, Frank said…

Hi Rainy,

I received your "Friend" request and Yes, I'd like that a lot.



At 9:49am on January 11, 2018, Sonu said…

I am so sorry for your loss. Yes this is really devastating. It is midnight here in India and I can't sleep. I feel so empty inside. I can totally understand you.

At 6:00pm on January 2, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville Rainy. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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