I started attending a Group Grief therapy session last week. It is 8 weeks long. In this group are all different ages (although all are adults in this session) and genders of people who have lost…Continue
"I've found group therapy to be good for general what to expect when grieving. The therapist does most of the talking. I'm also going to individual therapy for things I'm not comfortable discussing in a group"
The Oxygen Mask metaphor was clever. But it sure gets the point across. Thank You much for your words. From what my husband has told me on the past, I tend to be thin skinned. And the sorrow of others just seem to get me down…"
"Susan,It is not selfish. I always tell people, whether in this journey of grief, or struggling with another life hardship, that you have to put your own oxygen mask on first when it feels like the plane is going down. That means that you have to…"
I have gone to Grief / Bereavement groups before... At first they helped me. They let me know that what I'm feeling is normal.But now it seems like I leave feeling worse. Listening to everyone's situation is stressful. I…"
"You are better than I am I think I would have said something to them. You are right this is a shitty club to be a member of. You know, I'm not suicidal and would not kill myself, but the other day I thought I would not be upset if I…"
"my wife died on sept 3rd. less than a week after someone said to me "Its crazy, i lost my dog last year and didnt know what to do. Was nervous about the kids but somehow they just got through it." my reply was.…"
"Any man or woman for that matter, who preys on vulnerable people in any setting, particularly in a grief support group should be asked to leave the group. Goes for the participants and the facilitator. There is no excuse for anyone taking advantage…"
"I agree- I'd love to have another good man in my life but I need time to figure out how I want my life to look like first.
I'm very glad I'm not in the position of my step-grandma. My maternal grandmother died and Grandpa…"
"Callie2, at this point I'm nowhere near ready for another relationship. However the time will come when I will want another relationship but in the meantime I figure I have a lot of work to do, a lot of road to go down. I have a lot of baggage…"
"I am learning a lot too. My husband took care of a lot and doing it all or at least being responsible for everything is not easy. We learn to manage though, and even though I screw up a lot, I have to remember I have learned something. At first, I…"
"Great answer mis64-
I agree, not every man is out looking for a date at a grief support group, certainly not me, and it does work both sides of the table.
What I miss the most with my wife gone is that I no longer have a person to share my thoughts…"
"I'm sorry to read of you ladies experiences but I'm sure there are "desperate" people on both sides of the gender line.
And I could certainly not imagine trying to raise children without a mother. I could see the desperation in a…"
"I can understand that - frankly, I miss the unrestrained hugs when you're in an intimate relationship with someone. The careful, boundary-observing hugs you get at church just aren't the same. At age 64, I'm not ready for…"