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What's the point?

Started this discussion. Last reply by RCH Apr 14. 21 Replies

Thirteen months and 17 days I still ask, what's the point of me being here? God took the wrong one.Faith is strong, mind and body not. Everyday a knot in my stomach, tears in my eyes, no…Continue


Started this discussion. Last reply by Nance63 Feb 6. 14 Replies

8:35  this morning phone rings.... they ask for Janet.... I ask in regards to? ....They respond that they are a paid solicitor for some cancer fund....before I can get another word in they go into…Continue

First Christmas alone.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rich Dec 31, 2016. 13 Replies

Sixty two years old and never spent a Christmas alone, until now.I have invites but I don't think I can join in the festivities. Janet will be with me in spirit.Continue

Would you trade places with your spouse and why?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Dec 6, 2016. 6 Replies

Ten months ago at age 55 Janet passed after a 43 day battle with PC. Back then I wished I could trade places with her, today I feel the same and more.Janet was truly my life, the reason for my…Continue


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RCH replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Rich -- I just have to say that what you wrote was beautifully described, and sounds so familiar to me.  I always felt like I was sort of basking in the reflected glow of Kelly's life, since she was so well-liked and loved by those who…"
Apr 14
Rich replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"It's 14 months for me and I couldn't have expressed my feelings any better than you. The knowledge that I will see her again and this is nothing but a brief blip in time keeps me going."
Apr 14
Imogen replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"I understand.  It will be 4 years alone for me May 2017.  I still think what's the point?  My husband was the one with hobbies, golf, curled, sang had friends,  I am the introvert who prefers  to to a road trip with my…"
Mar 15
Becky replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Frank, It's coming upon 5 years since my husband lost his battle. I spent a lot of time in the chapel. Praying for strength and courage for us, and for Wisdom and Guidance for the doctors... The chapel is where I would let loose and cry... And…"
Mar 14
happylilycat replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Rich, I understand where you are. Keep talking about it. I went to see a priest at my parish, then I found a counselor to see over the next few months. There's no thought-crime, and I agree with vintage66 that there's a reason we're…"
Feb 24
alwayssmilemichele replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Rich,  It has been almost a year for me since Bob died.  We had no children and even though there are living was (and was supposed to be) the two of us.  We were each others life.  All  plans/ all future plans…"
Feb 24
Frank replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Hi Rich, I'm Frank, and when Susan died, I too felt the same way.  Men die first, WHY HER???   As I watched the helicopter carrying Susan lift off from our front yard and it soared over our home on the way into Denver,  I…"
Feb 23
Rich replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Widow85; I think someone on this board said the "pain is the price we pay for love" I actually am comforted by the pain since it keeps me close to Janet. However, most of the "pain" I have is on her behalf and the life she…"
Feb 23
widow85 replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"I am so sorry you (and we) have to go through this. If you had had a choice, would you have given up the wonderful depth of loving and being loved that you experienced in order not to have this pain? Or, like that science fiction movie, would…"
Feb 23
Athena53 replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"I think we're all sensitive here- it goes with the territory! This is also one of the kindest and most supportive Boards I've ever joined."
Feb 23
Mary H replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Thank you Elaine, no apology is necessary, I was being entirely too sensitive."
Feb 23
Elaine replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Rich-- One thing my grief counselor shared with me was that in her experience, "Year 2" was harder than "Year 1." She said it was because the numbness begins to wear off, people go back to their lives--their "normal"…"
Feb 22
Elaine replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Oops--I admit I didn't mean to imply you were wrong with saying it will get "better," Mary. I think I missed that comment entirely, and when I posted mine about things never getting "better," but some day getting…"
Feb 22
Mary H replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Thank you Athena, I'm sorry if I was over sensitive.  I do take hope from those people who find and pursue joy in their lives.  It's what I want too."
Feb 22
Athena53 replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Mary-  I'm sorry if you felt like I was bashing anybody.  From the posts I read here I know I'm in a tiny minority- so tiny, in fact, that one of the reasons I'm in a Grief Support group is to figure out why I'm not…"
Feb 22
Rich replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"Athena: Thank you for your comment. The problem for me is that I am an only child (parents passed) relatives live out of state, no children. Our home is in the country, down a 3/4 lane (in NJ if you can imagine that). In the early days we use to…"
Feb 22

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At 7:03am on March 20, 2016, rodsgurl09 said…

Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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