8:35 this morning phone rings.... they ask for Janet.... I ask in regards to? ....They respond that they are a paid solicitor for some cancer fund....before I can get another word in they go into…Continue
Ten months ago at age 55 Janet passed after a 43 day battle with PC. Back then I wished I could trade places with her, today I feel the same and more.Janet was truly my life, the reason for my…Continue
"I understand. It will be 4 years alone for me May 2017. I still think what's the point? My husband was the one with hobbies, golf, curled, sang had friends, I am the introvert who prefers to to a road trip with my…"
It's coming upon 5 years since my husband lost his battle.
I spent a lot of time in the chapel. Praying for strength and courage for us, and for Wisdom and Guidance for the doctors...
The chapel is where I would let loose and cry... And…"
"Rich, I understand where you are. Keep talking about it. I went to see a priest at my parish, then I found a counselor to see over the next few months. There's no thought-crime, and I agree with vintage66 that there's a reason we're…"
"Rich, It has been almost a year for me since Bob died. We had no children and even though there are living siblings...it was (and was supposed to be) the two of us. We were each others life. All plans/ all future plans…"
I'm Frank, and when Susan died, I too felt the same way. Men die first, WHY HER??? As I watched the helicopter carrying Susan lift off from our front yard and it soared over our home on the way into Denver, I…"
I think someone on this board said the "pain is the price we pay for love" I actually am comforted by the pain since it keeps me close to Janet. However, most of the "pain" I have is on her behalf and the life she…"
"I am so sorry you (and we) have to go through this.
If you had had a choice, would you have given up the wonderful depth of loving and being loved that you experienced in order not to have this pain? Or, like that science fiction movie, would…"
One thing my grief counselor shared with me was that in her experience, "Year 2" was harder than "Year 1." She said it was because the numbness begins to wear off, people go back to their lives--their "normal"…"
"Oops--I admit I didn't mean to imply you were wrong with saying it will get "better," Mary. I think I missed that comment entirely, and when I posted mine about things never getting "better," but some day getting…"
"Mary- I'm sorry if you felt like I was bashing anybody. From the posts I read here I know I'm in a tiny minority- so tiny, in fact, that one of the reasons I'm in a Grief Support group is to figure out why I'm not…"
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The problem for me is that I am an only child (parents passed) relatives live out of state, no children. Our home is in the country, down a 3/4 lane (in NJ if you can imagine that). In the early days we use to…"
"I would never criticize someone for reaching towards life and enjoying the world, but I feel like I'm getting a little bashed here in this thread. To me the only difference between "better" and "easier" is semantics,…"
"Rich, I'm sorry you're feeling so sad and alone right now. I agree with barb- there have to be many good things you can accomplish while you're still here. Do you have small grandchildren, nieces or nephews, great-nieces…"
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