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One more day to spend together, what would you do?

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Sorry for posting again but this site my only outlet for questions, what ifs and answers.If you had a day to spend with your spouse at any age of your relationship what would be your plans?For me mid…Continue

The obsession of starting a new relationship

Started this discussion. Last reply by Etchtech 1 hour ago. 26 Replies

The obsession of starting a new relationshipMy post is not to challenge/criticize anyone but to try and understand the need for many surviving spouses to focus so very quickly (within 2-3 years) on…Continue

Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?

Started this discussion. Last reply by pricytapestry Sep 29. 5 Replies

Ever wake up in the early morning thinking I can't believe this has happened, sprinkled with some what ifs and regrets but still so very thankful that you shared a life together?Continue

How long have you been on the Widowed Village forums?

Started this discussion. Last reply by goingon (Cynthia) Oct 27. 23 Replies

For me a little over three years. While I do not post or respond as much as in the beginning I do check this site weekly. It provides encouragement and knowing you  unfortunately are not alone. They…Continue

 

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Etchtech replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"If another relationship is in my future I’d prefer to have one where we reside in our own homes but see each other frequently. I would keep it an exclusive relationship but still not give up our own lives as they exist now. Does that sound…"
1 hour ago
Sheryls replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Totally agree!"
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Sheryls replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Rich, Similar to your cousin, my cousins lost her mother to cancer and her father quickly remarried and is very happy. I see it that some people don't do single well, while others thrive and some are absolutely miserable. I believe we run the…"
1 hour ago
DIVA70 replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"NoLongerinBergenJC so much of what you have written echoes my own feelings, especially the line where you said you don't want to risk your financial security on someone looking for "a purse and a nurse". I had to chuckle at that.... I…"
20 hours ago
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One more day to spend together, what would you do?

Sorry for posting again but this site my only outlet for questions, what ifs and answers.If you had a day to spend with your spouse at any age of your relationship what would be your plans?For me mid forties again. Start the day at our favorite luncheonette in Frenchtown, over the river to Czestochowa Catholic Shrine, (Janet use to light candles for people), down to Peddlers Village to do some shopping, lunch at The Porter House, and then stop at all the antique stores on the way home. At home…See More
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Rich replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"In my mind no one could compare to Janet. Also, at 65 I'm so set in my ways (stubborn German) that it would be unfair to subject anyone to me. "
yesterday
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Rich, I think sometimes people just want to fill the hole in their lives.  I know someone who started dating six months after her husband died tragically in an accident. It's usually a mistake, but sometimes not. Some people start sleeping…"
Sunday
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Rich....I'm an INFJ introvert with a need for a fair amount of socialization in my life but also a LOT of down time. I have never been able to envision being with someone else, and it's been over six years already.  There are a few…"
Sunday
chef (John) replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"I agree with DIVA70's replies, Rich, both above and below. We all do things and want to hear how others are handling being widowed--even those of us who are further out than many of the recent arrivals to this web site. After a thirty-year…"
Friday
DIVA70 replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Please don't feel bad at all about posting this topic. I for one and very happy that you did post it. I for one see my choice to not get involved in another relationship as something very positive. I thought I made that clear in my initial…"
Friday
Rich replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Lisa/Magenta/Diva70: Geez, I feel a little bad about posting this topic. The more I think about the more I realize that widows/widowers need positive topics not ones that reaffirm the misery they are going through. While I am conscientiously…"
Friday
DIVA70 replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"I feel there is no one definitive or best scenario. I just hope people make their decisions based on the right reasons. Be careful about pursuing another relationship just because  you are lonely or your faith forbids sex outside of marriage.…"
Friday
Rich replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"AtSam: Man oh man your narrative could be about me. I went with Janet to the doctor and never went back to my job of 20 years. She was diagnosed with PC and we only had 43 days until she passed. Janet also spent a couple days at the hospital but…"
Thursday
AtSam replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Athena53, Funny thing is both of my FIL wives died of diseases. He was not really part of their day to day care but he was there. He is very religious and completely believes God has a plan and just keeps marching forward. Second wife was maybe not…"
Thursday
Athena53 replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"I had an interesting encounter with one of the guys I met on Match.com- a sweet, smart man whose wife had died only a couple of months earlier after a long fight with cancer.  SHE had told him to find happiness again.  So had his…"
Nov 6
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"I myself have no interest in dating.  I lost my husband 11 months ago. I am 56 years old.  We were a perfect match.  Married almost 20 years. In my humble opinion, I think the lonliness is deafening when you lose your spouse.  I…"
Nov 6

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At 7:29am on May 15, 2017, Dogwoods in bloom 7 said…

I am new to this site, however I share you feeling of despair.  Almost 4 years and I am miserable.  Cannot look at pictures of my husband. Sounds like you are living hell on earth, I know I am.

At 7:03am on March 20, 2016, rodsgurl09 said…

Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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