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Avoiding our favorite places.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Sep 13. 4 Replies

Over four years out (can't believe it) and I still avoid going to places which we enjoyed, antique stores, shopping areas, dining spots, even certain roads.Is it just me?Continue

How are you handling the Coronavirus outbreak?

Started this discussion. Last reply by navigating life Aug 25. 49 Replies

While people are panicking, cleaning out stores, quarantining themselves it's just another sunny day in New Jersey for me. I'm taking certain precautions but not allowing fear and panic to control my…Continue

Still sleep on the same side of the bed?

Started this discussion. Last reply by only1sue Feb 11. 5 Replies

Left side sleeper here, as close to the edge as possible. Janet preferred the right side and since I was/am a restless sleeper (and occasional snorer to boot) I slept on the extreme left edge so I…Continue

What are your goals for 2020?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Jan 10. 5 Replies

My goals for 2020:1) Clear and fence in a new pasture for the sheep and get started on a new sheep shed.2) Cut and split 10 cords of wood.3) Finish the back patio.4) Provide some form of "goodness"…Continue

 

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Rich replied to gigi's discussion Six years.
"Finding the right car (not new or expensive ones) is harder than you think.  I focus on older models, cars with baby seats and the occasional out of State vehicles.  "
Wednesday
Rich replied to gigi's discussion Six years.
"Over four years for me. Our 25th Wedding anniversary is on 10/14. I have taken the advice of someone that posted on these boards and to random acts of remembrance on our Wedding anniversary, Christmas, Janet's Birthday and February 3rd (the…"
Tuesday
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion Avoiding our favorite places.
"It's been 21 months for me , I still don't go to the places that we enjoyed. I'm hopeful that one day I will be able to. But for the time being it's too sad for me to revisit those places."
Sep 13
chef (John) replied to Rich's discussion Avoiding our favorite places.
"No, it's not just you, Rich. Over the years, I've returned to some of our vacation spots/favorite places in order to bury/scatter some of Judith's ashes--I even went to some new places on my own [vacations we had planned, but never…"
Sep 10
jpann39 replied to Rich's discussion Avoiding our favorite places.
"Im newer to this since my husband passed away suddenly on May 15, 2020. In some ways it already seems like forever, but in other ways it seems like just yesterday :( At first I tried purposely going to places that we use to enjoy going to together,…"
Sep 10
Estragon replied to Rich's discussion Avoiding our favorite places.
"I'm only ~7mos out, but I'm not surprised you still avoid places.  Still living in our home, and not getting out that much, it seems like everything constantly reminds me of our life together.  While I don't really find…"
Sep 9
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Avoiding our favorite places.

Over four years out (can't believe it) and I still avoid going to places which we enjoyed, antique stores, shopping areas, dining spots, even certain roads.Is it just me?See More
Sep 9
Rich replied to Doug02122014's discussion Do you think your spouse would recognize you today ?
"Janet would recognize me but not the changes to the house and property. I finished the addition on the house, repainted all the rooms, built another sheep shed and pig shed, bought an old antique truck (she was trying to buy me one). Things I…"
Sep 5
Mary replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"I just stumbled across your post. I'm not sure if you are asking a question. Now that I am a widow of barely 9 months, I look at this so differently. A few years ago, I was upset that my father-in-law got immediatley into a new relationship…"
Sep 3
Borntobehappy replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Hi Barbee, Thank you for sharing your incredible love story. It gives me and others hope that there are second, third, 4th chances to live happily ever after. I am in my 18th month of missing my life partner, soulmate, love of my life and best…"
Sep 1
soulmate replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Barbee- That is a wonderful story, thank you! I/we need a feel-good story in today's world. You made my day!"
Sep 1
barbee replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Soulmate, I agree with you -- widows and widowers are NOT damaged goods. I've written about this before on WV, but I cared for my husband for sixteen years. During the last four years I sold our business and house and moved us into a retirement…"
Sep 1
soulmate replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"I don't think there is a cookbook formula for seeking another relationship. For some survivors, 3 months, others 3 years, and some never. I think it depends on the nature of the death of a spouse as well. For some of us, our spouses had a…"
Aug 31
navigating life replied to Rich's discussion How are you handling the Coronavirus outbreak?
"I'm doing just fine.   Since my husband had cancer we didn't change anything washed our hands did the same things we did already because he had a weakened immune system.   I have been at peace with it not feeding into…"
Aug 25
only1sue replied to Rich's discussion How are you handling the Coronavirus outbreak?
"I had three old friends die last week. Not of Covid but age related illnesses. BUT because of Covid safe regulations the funerals were "invitation only" to comply with the present regulations of fifty oozed in attendees. I was close to one…"
Aug 25
Rich replied to harvdzny's discussion New Widow Introducing Myself
"Shelly: Over four years later I too stand on my faith that I will be with Janet again. Faith is what keeps many of us going. Rich"
Aug 9

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At 12:36pm on January 7, 2020, Frank said…

Hi Rich,

I'd be glad to chat with you any time.

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Frank

At 7:29am on May 15, 2017, Dogwoods in bloom 7 said…

I am new to this site, however I share you feeling of despair.  Almost 4 years and I am miserable.  Cannot look at pictures of my husband. Sounds like you are living hell on earth, I know I am.

At 7:03am on March 20, 2016, rodsgurl09 said…

Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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