"I'm 58 and I keep getting these men as old as my dad trying to talk to me on Match. The men my age seem to want a woman in their 40's. I did end up talking to a nice guy who is 56, but then he told me he had stage 3 colon…"
"I would love to hear some replies to Silver55's response. I was wondering too, is it possible to ease into this just by casually dating someone without any pressure. I have the same question , do you tell someone up front you have…"
"HI Kathie and Kirch, thanks for the replies. I understand what you mean by being around the opposite sex. Right now I'm like you, just want someone to share a movie or dinner with. Yesterday a 74 and 71 year old man messaged…"
"Ok , I got up the courage to put myself on match.com. Well so far its terrible at least for me. I keep wondering what the hell am I thinking??? I'm not really looking forward to meeting anyone, I'm not excited, I'm…"
"The professionals say second guessing is counterproductive but how do you stop? And when you've got the closest person to you on earth -- well, used to be -- telling you that you didn't try to save her father, you begin to believe that…"
"I can also relate to some of what your husband did. My husband throughout all of his treatments always told everyone he was fine. I think he too wanted to protect us and wanted us to think he was strong and nothing was going to happen.…"
"That's a great suggestion, Riley!
My husband was in complete denial, telling everyone his dramatic weight loss and cadaver-ish appearance were Crohn's disease. After he finally submitted to a CT scan he lied about the devastating…"
"Lark, Oh my gosh! Maybe you guys should sit down the doctor on a telephone conference and talk this out. I had to do that! It really helps! My daughters didn't blame me , I blamed myself and the doctors. I felt…"
"How are you doing? Should be so much better and would be, 2 yrs and 4 months out, were it not for the agonizing fact that my (adult) daughter blames me for her father's cancer death -- that I could have/should have done more to "save"…"
"Lupe's Husband, thanks for sharing your stories. It means a lot. Also in my situation not only worried about my home etc, but also what my two daughters would think and plus there's a lot of fear about the unknown.…"
"Mary H, you hit it on the head when you said We've had long enough marriages that we have a hard time imagining another life with another spouse or even just dating. I also think especially in my case, I'm 58, young…"
"Catalan, so proud of you for taking care of you first. I know your friend has a lot going on right now but so do you. Sometimes people get caught up in their own pain, they forget other people are going through their own stuff. Way to go making…"
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