"So I have never told anyone this before - not even my kids know. Before I met my wife I was on a quiet vacation. In the summer. On a lake. In a boat. Peaceful. Alone. And I prayed to my grandfather who had passed away a few years earlier to…"
"Miket, I still have all my husbands clothes in his closet and all his personal items on his side of the master bathroom. All his tools in the basement are still there where he wants them. He worked from home , in his office is all his…"
"Riley - You are right. I feel safe and understood on this website. Like you, I can’t really talk to my kids and friends anymore about my wife. They have moved on and don’t understand why my grief persists after two years. I still give my…"
"I understand everything you're saying and feeling. I too have no real desire to meet anyone. Mike, my husband, and I literally eloped in 1978 , and from there began this wonderful amazing love affair. I think I might be able…"
"Diva, I so so feel where you're coming from. Yes that's why we're on this site. We can say how we really feel and no one will freak out or no one will say whatever words of wisdom that everyone says. Mike and I…"
" I don't know if its my age or what. I just know that I am looking forwaed to being reinited with my husband. I hope that doesn't sounf morbid because that's not my intentions. Like you I love my kids and grandchildren and I do…"
"Sometimes I close my eyes and try to imagine what it will be like for me when my time comes. I hope and pray that my wife will be the first one to greet me. I keep telling her that I have a huge hug saved up just for her. When she was alive it was…"
"Riley, you hit the nail on the head with your terminology, especially the tolerance. That's about how I feel. I go through the motions devoid of geniune joy, wondering if I'll ever feel that again. Life being complicated seems like an…"
"One thing I will mention to try is the Camp Widow weekend held in 3 places every year. Tampa Florida, San Diego and Torinto. It is affiliated with this website and you can find information here too. I attended the one in Toronto in…"
"Diva and Going on Slowly, Thank you for responding. I am also 59. It hurts bad to think of all the years I have left or I'm assuming I have left. I'm really not sure I care about that anymore. I'm not afraid of…"
"Except for the parts about the animals, tennis and your age (I'm 71) this could have been me writing this. EVERYTHING else is exactly how I feel. I wake up each morning wondering why am I still here. My daughter did get me out of the…"
"I am so glad I opened this up and read it. I could swear it was me talking. It will be 3 years February 24 that his life ended suddenly and in so many ways mine did too. I had no idea that after 3 years I would feel, in many ways,…"
"Hey Riley. I feel a lot like you do. I think part of it is winter blues (mostly shorter daylight hours for me since I live in a warm climate) but mostly I feel that our "life" just plain sucks right now. We can be…"
"Hi Riley - I can relate. Your comments of getting out less and not caring about eating ring well with me. I live in Ohio and so those dreary rainy cold days don’t help things at all. I also wonder what’s the point. I do take time to be…"
Reading both Riley s and Tess s comments I can relate. My husband died a month after he turned 59.
I know I am suppose to be chipper, but it is now the third Christmas and New Years I am alone, which I think will remain
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