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Riley
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  • Winder, GA
  • United States
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sandi replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Miket I hope those people are right and it gets better.  So far this second year seems so much worse.  Its like every day is a repeat for me. Not knowing what to do to get thru the day, trying to think of things to keep busy, crying every…"
29 minutes ago
sandi replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"I feel the same way Riley, I always said I would be ok if anything happened to him..and I am definitely not OK.  He was my best friend, my happiness always made me laugh...I can't remember the last time I laughed.  I keep busy, but…"
36 minutes ago
Miket replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"OMG - I feel your pain so much. I lost my wife in Oct 2016 and every day since has been terrible without her. We planned that life into our retirement years as well, but cancer had other ideas. The problem I have now is I still struggle coping with…"
1 hour ago
WV12345 replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"ah.... I totally get that.  We are both in the place where we want to build a new life for ourselves but don't now HOW to make that happen. Grief counseling doesn't help with that.   Are there Meetup groups locally to…"
1 hour ago
Riley replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"YOu're right.  I had no idea the depth of my love for Mike.  I had no idea how bad it would hurt, or how crippling it would turn out to be.  In the first year it was literally crippling.  I couldn't eat.  I…"
2 hours ago
Riley replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"I think I'm paying the price.  Grief is a testament to how wonderful a person was, how much you valued them in your life.  The loneliness is awful.  My friends and my own daughters try to do things with me , but its not the same,…"
2 hours ago
WV12345 replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Riley, I don't think it's a matter of loving too much, it's more about not understanding to what depth the death of their spouse is going to affect their life. When a spouse dies, the surviving spouse loses not only the person but has…"
2 hours ago
Debbie replied to Riley's discussion Can you love someone too much? in the group Widowed in 2016
"I can so relate to your pain of losing Mike. I lost Jim May 2016 and went "bat shit crazy" for more than a year. When your entire world revolves around your mate, where are you when they leave? Limbo! Waiting for him to come home and ask…"
2 hours ago
Riley replied to Susan's discussion His Voice in the group Widowed in 2016
"Susan,  just today I listened to Mike's voice.  I have one voice mail to listen to for the rest of my life.  Humans are very visual, unlike animals who use their sense of smell and hearing to a much greater degree.…"
4 hours ago
Riley added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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Can you love someone too much?

Can you love someone too much?  So much that life is almost unbearable without them.  I had no idea, I felt this way about Mike until I lost him. I knew I loved him , but I didn't know he held the key to my happiness.   He had cancer 3 times and I knew that we probably wouldn't be together til we were in our 80s.  But I thought I could handle it.  Well I can't!  He died July 2016 and I can't find real happiness.  He took it with him.  I can be busy taking care of our farm, or playing tennis or…See More
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Athena53 replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Not strange at all!  I gave most of Ron's clothes away but his socks and underwear are still in the drawer.  Not really worth donating and I can't bear to throw them out. Ron died in our bedroom, but in a hospital bed supplied by…"
Wednesday
Susan replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"HI Melissa,    I'm sorry you had to find him on the floor. Paul passed away in a hospital bed that we had the Family Room.. So I wasn't able to even go in the Family Room for the longest time. It took about a year, but I can go…"
Wednesday
Melissa replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"My husband worked from home, too. I found him on the floor of his home office. He'd had a stroke, and at that point he could speak a little. That was the last time we talked. That was the last room he was in in our house. I can't even go…"
Wednesday
Susan replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Riley,    I do the same things. Except to smell his clothes. They no longer have his scent on them. But I love wearing his Flannel Work Shirts. ( Perfect over Leggings. ) But I also love wearing them while holding my Grandson. It may seem…"
Wednesday
Riley replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Yes ladies we are normal and we are hurting.  This is why I love this website.  My friends that I ride horses with or play tennis with have no idea the sorrow I'm going through.  I get out Mike's clothes and smell them.…"
Wednesday
Susan replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Prissy,    WOW, It's hard to believe there are other people actually doing what I do.  I guess that means we're normal? Susan"
Wednesday

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At 6:44pm on April 12, 2017, Kirsten said…
Hi Riley. Feel free to email me anytime [email protected] We are both in the same unfortunate boat. I'm here for you . Much love, Kirsten
At 3:35pm on April 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Riley,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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