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Riley
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  • Winder, GA
  • United States
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Riley replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Very well said.  I'm going through the same feelings.  Yes we filling time for sure, with things I've always done , but nothing feels fun anymore.  The fun has been sucked out of my life.  Nights and weekends are…"
Thursday
going.on.slowly replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"It's been 15 months since my "before" life. I can see it in my mind's eye and it seems like a beautiful movie that I remember. I go through the motions, force myself to do things with friends, walk the dog, go running, get…"
Thursday
Riley commented on lizbeth4's blog post Circle of Life
"Your story reminds me of mine.  My husband died 10 months ago.  We were married 39 years.  The loneliness for him is devastating to me and sometimes I feel I can't stand much more.  I have two daughters too and they are what…"
Thursday
daringtoday replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Boy can I relate to that. Loren died in March of 2016, two months after one of my best friends literally dropped dead from a heart attack. Then another friend died in May. My 16 year old cat, Carmel, was diagnosed with cancer in his larynx in July…"
May 22
Riley replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you Amy.  Today I had to put our 17 year old cat to sleep.  The girls and I bought Mike, my husband, a kitten for christmas 17 years ago.  It hurt real bad going through this today, but I was thinking this is how it should go,…"
May 22
daringtoday replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Riley, the transition from couplehood to singlehood is hard and lonely. I so get it about not wanting other people, but wanting my partner, Loren, back. It has been 14 months today for me since he died suddenly and I miss him so much. I am doing my…"
May 22
Riley replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Yes I'm focused on a lot of things right now that hurt.  Mike wasn't supposed to die.  His oncologist talked us into doing a stem cell transplant to prolong his remission.  He was cancer free! The stem cell transplant killed…"
May 22
catapan replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"  Hi, Riley:   Yesterday, I handed over the keys (sold) to one of our two vehicles.    Friends have tactfully asked how I felt about selling the van and, after thinking it through, I could honestly answer "Relieved:…"
May 21
Riley replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Thank you for responding.  I'm getting through it despite my drowning sorrow.  Sometimes I sit like you and wait for a heart attack or something.  I just go through the motions like a zombie, feed the dogs, walk the dogs, eat…"
May 21
Debbie replied to Riley's discussion How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life? in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Riley, it's like you're inside my head and speaking what I'm thinking. I feel like half of me is gone and without that half, what am I supposed to do? Sometimes I just sit here and stare into blank space, feeling empty and…"
May 21
Riley added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2016
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How do you turn a 2 person life into a 1 person life?

Loneliness is eating away at me.  I'm not lonely for other people around me.  I'm lonely for my husband that died.  How do you turn a 2 person life into a one person life?  I sit in this house and look around thinking how awful this is and how quiet it is, and what the hell am I going to do for the next so many hours.  Just think of all the things in your house that is for two people?  Two cars, two chairs, two pillows, two vanities , two closets , goes on and on. We even have two weenie dogs ,…See More
May 21
Nieta replied to Riley's discussion friends in the group Widowed in 2016
"What a beautiful photo, Riley!  You both look great!  I like it when people speak of memories with Patrick and love to hear his name mentioned because, despite his current address, he will always live for me. I hope today was one of the…"
May 11
Riley replied to Riley's discussion friends in the group Widowed in 2016
"Lark, you hit the nail on the head.  We have friends to do things with , but no one to do nothing with.  No one to share a meal each evening or call on the phone and just check in.  I miss seeing his car coming down the driveway, I…"
May 11
Danielle replied to Riley's discussion friends in the group Widowed in 2016
"Hi Riley, My husband passed away suddenly in November 2016, and as the 6month anniversary approaches I'm surprised at how crappy I feel. I went through a stage where I thought okay, I've got this....but ugh, grief is sneaky, and it…"
May 11
Lark replied to Riley's discussion friends in the group Widowed in 2016
"I know just what you mean, Riley. Not only do you feel like the odd man out but having to quietly sit there and listen to them chat about everyday life sorts of things when life is so NOT everyday normal for you. How I wish my friends could spend…"
May 10
Riley replied to Riley's discussion friends in the group Widowed in 2016
"Dear Nieta, thank you for your response.  I too feel so sad that Mike and I will not get to grow older together.  I think about that a lot.  I had so many things I wanted us to do.  I'm 57 and I feel so lost without him and…"
May 6

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At 6:44pm on April 12, 2017, Kirsten said…
Hi Riley. Feel free to email me anytime [email protected] We are both in the same unfortunate boat. I'm here for you . Much love, Kirsten
At 3:35pm on April 11, 2017, judy said…

Hi Riley,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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