Members

This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."

Riskybiz
  • Female
  • Aurora, IL
  • United States
Share on Facebook Share

Riskybiz's Friends

  • SoreEyes
  • Maggiepie
  • DeeDee
  • Morgana (Janet)
  • Dianne in Nevada
 

Riskybiz's Page

Latest Activity

Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley, So sorry about the breast cancer, I had it when I was in my thirties.  I am now 68.  They removed my breast (wanted to remove the other, I refused) and now if diagnosed  with the same they would just "watch…"
Jan 17
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My husband passed away a month ago, all mail that is sent in his name I use the envelope provided and return it with deceased.  Hard to do but I hope it is effective. "
Jan 16
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"A dear friend who has been widowed twice has told me to take it one day at a time.  That is what I am doing.  I force myself to get up and start the day.  I cry all the time and am losing weight.  I just cannot imagine my life…"
Jan 15
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Not doing well at all, my husband has been dead for one month and I can't stop crying."
Jan 15
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"I think people are very uncomfortable when death comes up.  They don't want you to tell them that you are lonely, hurting, sad, angry, depressed and don't want to get up in the morning.  There are people with banal comments, like…"
Jan 14
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"dperduyn, So sorry for your loss, it has been less than a month for me and I hate this new life.  This is not a life, it's hell.  I have always been a strong person but I am crumbling right now.  I can't believe I will never…"
Jan 14
SoreEyes left a comment for Riskybiz
"Riskybiz, I feel your pain and am very sorry for your loss.  We are all in the same boat and trying to navigate this terrible, terrible journey.  I wish I had suggestions to comfort you but I too am taking it one day at a time.  If it…"
Jan 14
Riskybiz replied to Jules's discussion 5 weeks and counting i in the group Widowed in 2019
"I miss him so much, I just don't know what to do.  I don't think I will ever be happy again. I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry we are on this web site, we are both miserable.   Grief sucks, but boy does it hurt.  I just…"
Jan 13
Riskybiz replied to Jules's discussion 5 weeks and counting i in the group Widowed in 2019
"Jules, I keep thinking he will walk into our kitchen again.  We will open a bottle of wine, I will cook a delicious meal and we will laugh and talk.  He will touch me.  I will touch him.  We were married for 45 years.  His…"
Jan 13
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"I lost my husband December 17, 2019 and I am lost.  I can't stop crying and the empty feeling will not go away.  Will it always be like this?  How can I ever be happy again.  We were married for 45 years."
Jan 13
Riskybiz replied to Jules's discussion 5 weeks and counting i in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hi Jules, I lost my husband 0n December 17, 2019.  We were married for 45 years.  I do not want to do this.  I am so shattered, lonely and ache for him.  I cannot stop crying. Any advice?"
Jan 13
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for Riskybiz
"Welcome to Widville, Riskybiz. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions…"
Jan 13

Profile Information

Comment Wall (2 comments)

You need to be a member of Widowed Village to add comments!

Join Widowed Village

At 8:29am on January 14, 2020, SoreEyes said…

Riskybiz, I feel your pain and am very sorry for your loss.  We are all in the same boat and trying to navigate this terrible, terrible journey.  I wish I had suggestions to comfort you but I too am taking it one day at a time.  If it helps though, the crying will start to space itself out further.  I thought I would never stop crying and then I went for one day without doing it.  In a weird sort of a way it was an accomplishment.  It didn't mean I didn't miss my wife but I guess, I found other ways to direct this grief.  Walking everyday has helped.  Eating a little more healthy has helped as well.  Sometimes I have to force myself to do things and yes, I fall into the depression hole a couple times a week.  

I miss my wife.  My best friend.  Some have suggested going to church.  I'm still not ready to hear about Gods plan.  Church makes me angry.  Writing my thoughts has helped some.  I am reading a book about Signs.  Things that happen to show your loved one is near.  I'm still looking and waiting.  

I hope my words have helped or brought some kind of comfort.  

At 12:36pm on January 13, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Riskybiz. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

© 2020   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service