Who ever goes first IS THE LUCKY ONE. I hate my life and miss him so much. No one wil ever love me like Rick did. He was 73 when he was taken away from me. I cry all the time, it's been almost ten…"
"I comptley agree, week ends are the worst. My Rick has been gone for almost ten months, my youngest son "wants me to get over it" and I wannt to throttle him. I was with Rick for almost fifty years I WILL NEVER GET OVER…"
"Jim, Ultra 2015,
It's been nine months, three days, four hours. We were married for 45 years, together for 47.
I will love him forever.
I hear you both and ache for your pain and mine.
Can't wait to join him, I tell God every night I…"
"Today is my birthday, my first without Rick. He has been gone almost nine months. This is the first time I have had a birthday without him in forty seven years.
I read the paper today as I always do. In the horoscope section it…"
My condolences for your wife's passing. My loss was also sudden, and very unexpected. He was my love, the love of my life. We were married for 45 years, he died a week before Christmas Eve. We were also…"
I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my love 12/17/19, he was 73, I am 67. It does not matter what you age is, everyone one this site, male and female have one thing in common; WE DO NOT WANT TO BE HERE. WE DO NOT WANT TO…"
"I am into my sixth month, still sleeping on the couch, can't bear even looking at the bed. Between his death and the virus I am deeply saddened. I wondered if anyone else has this problem: my son called me last night and is…"
I understand you completely. Today marks six months since Rick has been gone, and in two months it will be our anniversary, 46 years.
I don't want to play board games or bingo either! Have also considered dating sites but am…"
"Well today I met with the lawyer. Had a new will made, a trust was formed so my children could avoid probate. Now, everything is in my name. Ricks' name is on nothing. So final. Everything we worked for, hoped,…"
I lost my Rick almost six months ago and feel a void in my life so vast that I cannot comprehend a life without him. There is no joy, no laughter, nothing. My children are impatient with me, they just don't understand…"
I lost my Rick five months ago. I too cry all the time. There is no time table for anyone and this pandemic does not help. I don't sleep in our bed, I sleep downstairs. It is just too painful. I am dreading…"
I hope my post does not discourage you from having children and finding another love. You are only 30, I will be 68 in September so our situations are different. We both have sorrow, you must believe that your life is going to get…"
Rick was cremated, he wanted to be "scattered" in the pond behind our home, in the spring. He wanted his boys there, well his ashes are in the closet, we can't follow his wishes yet as our oldest son has the virus.
I feel like…"
Thanks for your kind words, when this pandemic is better we will take care of Rick's ashes. I'm glad you had a good ceremony for your Rick. Hopefully they are somewhere sharing a beer or glass of wine. My Rick loved…"
Thanks for not thinking my comment was trite, it makes me both happy and sad. It's not the bed, it's the fact Rick is not here to share it. He was cremated, and wanted to be sprinkled in our pond that leads to a river,…"
Riskybiz, I feel your pain and am very sorry for your loss. We are all in the same boat and trying to navigate this terrible, terrible journey. I wish I had suggestions to comfort you but I too am taking it one day at a time. If it helps though, the crying will start to space itself out further. I thought I would never stop crying and then I went for one day without doing it. In a weird sort of a way it was an accomplishment. It didn't mean I didn't miss my wife but I guess, I found other ways to direct this grief. Walking everyday has helped. Eating a little more healthy has helped as well. Sometimes I have to force myself to do things and yes, I fall into the depression hole a couple times a week.
I miss my wife. My best friend. Some have suggested going to church. I'm still not ready to hear about Gods plan. Church makes me angry. Writing my thoughts has helped some. I am reading a book about Signs. Things that happen to show your loved one is near. I'm still looking and waiting.
I hope my words have helped or brought some kind of comfort.
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