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Riskybiz
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  • Aurora, IL
  • United States
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Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hello akk, Who ever goes first IS THE LUCKY ONE.  I hate my life and miss him so much.  No one wil ever love me like Rick did.  He was 73 when he was taken away from me.  I cry all the time, it's been almost ten…"
Oct 11
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I comptley agree, week ends are the worst.  My Rick has been gone for almost ten months, my youngest son "wants me to get over it" and I wannt to throttle him.  I was with Rick for almost fifty years I WILL NEVER GET OVER…"
Oct 11
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"shelly, Thank you for your kind thoughts."
Sep 23
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Jim, Ultra 2015, It's been nine months, three days, four hours.  We were married for 45 years, together for 47. I will love him forever. I hear you both and ache for your pain and mine. Can't wait to join him, I tell God every night I…"
Sep 20
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Today is my birthday, my first without Rick.  He has been gone almost nine months.  This is the first time I have had a birthday without him in forty seven years. I read the paper today as I always do.  In the horoscope section it…"
Sep 12
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Justinjuice, My condolences for your wife's passing.  My loss was also sudden, and very unexpected.  He was my love, the love of my life.  We were married for 45 years, he died a week before Christmas Eve.  We were also…"
Aug 4
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Builtgeektough, I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my love 12/17/19, he was 73, I am 67.  It does not matter what you age is, everyone one this site, male and female have one thing in common; WE DO NOT WANT TO BE HERE.  WE DO NOT WANT TO…"
Jul 29
Riskybiz replied to Tess's discussion Misery loves company in the group Born in the 50s
"I am into my sixth month, still sleeping on the couch, can't bear even looking at the bed.  Between his death and the virus I am deeply saddened.  I wondered if anyone else has this problem:  my son called me last night and is…"
Jun 22
Riskybiz replied to Tess's discussion Delaware has no widows or widowers in the group Born in the 50s
"Tess, I understand you completely.  Today marks six months since Rick has been gone, and in two months it will be our anniversary, 46 years. I don't want to play board games or bingo either!  Have also considered dating sites but am…"
Jun 17
Riskybiz replied to Tess's discussion Misery loves company in the group Born in the 50s
"Well today I met with the lawyer.  Had a new will made, a trust was formed so my children could avoid probate.  Now, everything is in my name.  Ricks' name is on nothing.  So final.  Everything we worked for, hoped,…"
Jun 3
Riskybiz replied to Tess's discussion Misery loves company in the group Born in the 50s
"Marina, I lost my Rick almost six months ago and feel a void in my life so vast that I cannot comprehend  a life without him.  There is no joy, no laughter, nothing.  My children are impatient with me, they just don't understand…"
May 29
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Lisa, I lost my Rick five months ago.  I too cry all the time.  There is no time table for anyone and this pandemic does not help.  I don't sleep in our bed, I sleep downstairs.  It is just too painful.  I am dreading…"
May 20
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Alex, I hope my post does not discourage you from having children and finding another love.  You are only 30, I will be 68 in September so our situations are different.  We both have sorrow, you must believe that your life is going to get…"
Apr 26
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Lisa, Rick was cremated, he wanted to be "scattered" in the pond behind our home, in the spring. He wanted his boys there, well his ashes are in the closet, we can't follow his wishes yet as our oldest son has the virus. I feel like…"
Apr 26
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Lisa, Thanks for your kind words, when this pandemic is better we will take care of Rick's ashes.  I'm glad you had a good ceremony for your Rick.  Hopefully they are somewhere sharing a beer or glass of wine.  My Rick loved…"
Apr 23
Riskybiz commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Lisa, Thanks for not thinking my comment was trite, it makes me both happy and sad.  It's not the bed, it's the fact Rick is not here to share it.  He was cremated, and wanted to be sprinkled in our pond that leads to a river,…"
Apr 23

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At 8:29am on January 14, 2020, SoreEyes said…

Riskybiz, I feel your pain and am very sorry for your loss.  We are all in the same boat and trying to navigate this terrible, terrible journey.  I wish I had suggestions to comfort you but I too am taking it one day at a time.  If it helps though, the crying will start to space itself out further.  I thought I would never stop crying and then I went for one day without doing it.  In a weird sort of a way it was an accomplishment.  It didn't mean I didn't miss my wife but I guess, I found other ways to direct this grief.  Walking everyday has helped.  Eating a little more healthy has helped as well.  Sometimes I have to force myself to do things and yes, I fall into the depression hole a couple times a week.  

I miss my wife.  My best friend.  Some have suggested going to church.  I'm still not ready to hear about Gods plan.  Church makes me angry.  Writing my thoughts has helped some.  I am reading a book about Signs.  Things that happen to show your loved one is near.  I'm still looking and waiting.  

I hope my words have helped or brought some kind of comfort.  

At 12:36pm on January 13, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Riskybiz. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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