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Widowed characters in books, movies, fairy tales, TV shows, songs...
Started this discussion. Last reply by NMWidower Apr 28, 2011. 17 Replies 0 Likes
Do any of the movies about widowed people have a touch of reality... Sleepless in Seattle, P.S. I love you, Dan in Real Time? Why are there so many dead moms in fairy tales?Continue
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What resources have helped you with single parenting "stuff?"
Started this discussion. Last reply by Andrea S. Mar 22. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Have you found books, websites, etc, with good advice on single parenting? Are any of them appropriate for us?
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Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Phyllis Jun 3. 82 Replies 3 Likes
Are your friends upset about little problems, like a broken nail, a kitchen remodel that's not going smoothly, or a partner that lies on the couch all day Sunday? Do you ever feel like you're the…Continue
Tags: single parenting, friendships, jealousy, envy, divorce
Is the second year really worse?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Susieg Jan 4. 50 Replies 0 Likes
Is the second year really worse than the first?
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eliana replied to Robinmo's discussion Friendships. What happened to them? And are YOU a good friend?
Phyllis replied to Robinmo's discussion Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
"My husband died 9-1/2 months ago of acute myeloid leukemia. I've always been a "prefer to be in the background" kind of person and I bent over backwards to NOT make people feel uncomfortable around me. Now I'm really…"
MrsD replied to Robinmo's discussion Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
"And other widows. I do feel sympathy for other widows, and people who've lost a child."
MrsD replied to Robinmo's discussion Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
"Honestly, I have become pretty much completely unsympathetic. I simply don't care about anything except my daughter and the fact that my husband is dead."
Jerry replied to Robinmo's discussion Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
"I understand how you feel. I hate it when I am with some friends and the complain about there wives . I feel like saying to them someday you may miss having her around. After taking care of my wife for the last year of her life I came to appreciate…"
only1sue replied to Robinmo's discussion Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
"I had a lot of trouble feeling sympathetic when women friends would tell me their husbands couldn't do this or wouldn't do that when my husband, who had had multiple strokes could do nothing much for himself let alone anything for me.…"
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Hopeful replied to Robinmo's discussion Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
"Thank you...for making me laugh! Sometimes when I feel this things - all of what you described below - I think 'gosh, what a horrible non-compassionate person I have become in spite of this horrible tragedy' thinking I should somehow…"
kotkandi replied to Robinmo's discussion Do you have a hard time being sympathetic to your friends?
"I really hate it when people are always complaining about the little things in life. My husband was very ill and had trouble with his bodily functions and had so much pain but was still being upbeat and inspirational."
Susieg replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"Well, Sanmora, you have had a lot on your plate. I have not experienced the loss of a child...we did not have any. It has been 44 months since I lost my husband, and I know the bitter feeling you have. I also have way less…"
missinghugs (fran) replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"Hello Renee, just been reading posts here. I'm 14mos out. My husband died a month after a terrible accident at work (chemical explosion). Spent that month watching him cling to life after his body was burnt 85%. We were married 33 years. The…"
Sanmora replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"It's been a year and a half since I lost my husband and a little over two years that our son died. I lost both suddenly and unexpectedly. I'm worried now that I will never be a nice person again. I was in such a fog for a long time, but…"
irreverentyoungwidow replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"People kept telling me it would be worse and I believed them, so I held my breathe and put my head down and ignored being a widow as much as I could so I could just get through year 2. This made it MUCH worse than year 1, and much worse for me than…"
smarine replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"I do not know if it is worse but I can tell you that this year (year two) for Christmas is worse for me. I have been miserable walking around in a haze. People are commenting that I look terribly sad- all at different times have I been told this.…"
denisec replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"Yes, the second year was more difficult in some ways. No more firsts without Jim other than kids getting married. What made it more difficult was that you realized again that you were alone & would always be a widow. The start of the third year…"
missinghugs (fran) replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"I'm just starting into my second year, and the second Christmas without Scott. I,ve been having an awful time. Trying without success to continue hanging with loving, supportive friends. Spent the last couple days bawling trying to figure out…"
maddogdolly replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"Yes, without a doubt. It pretty much sucks. The only thing that keeps me going is my work, which keeps me busy. Nights are the worst. Trying to look ahead seems impossible. One day at a time I guess."
ginadf replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"For me, it will be three years on Feb 8, 2013. I never believed i putting a timeline on grief, because each day we are dealing with different emotions. But the first year i was in shock, and trying to deal with the fact that…"
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- At 2:25pm on April 19, 2011,
A Widowed Father said… - I'd just like to point out that even though we may be the absolute minority, young widowers with young children, we apparently seem to have quite a presence here in Widville, if you check the leader board you'll you that Joe and I are the top members at the moment, although I'm determined to reverse the order, I'm not ready to give up being the most popular widower yet.
- At 2:26pm on March 5, 2011,
slimjim said… - Hello, thank you for the invite.
- At 1:26pm on March 4, 2011,
Kath said… Hi, this is pretty all new to me. Thanks for the invite and hopefully we can share & help us both. Kath
- At 10:42pm on January 27, 2011,
Hira Animfefte said… - I'll do my best to do my part and all that jazz...Love you, Robin! <3
- At 10:18am on January 17, 2011,
la Doctora said… - Thanks for the friend invite - I decided to get over the security hang-up and just take the plunge. I hope I can just keep doing this from email, since no Facebook for me yet. Widville is exactly what I needed 7 years ago - and still get something out of, since I don't think we ever completely get over this kind of loss. Not sure I like to revisit it that often, but it does help.
- At 1:58pm on January 11, 2011,
bps1314 said… - Thanks for the friend invite. I love to make friends. I guess I'm just shy about taking the initiative to invite friends. Have a wonderful day.
- At 7:31pm on January 4, 2011,
Abigail Carter said… - Sorry I haven't had more time to explore, but this looks really cool. Facebook for wid's. Well done. Did you build it yourself? You're amazing!
- At 12:31pm on December 16, 2010,
Alive & Mortal said… I've been waaaaaaaiting for you to show up... it's about time!
- At 12:31pm on December 16, 2010, Alive & Mortal said…
w00t!
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