Thank you for reaching out. There is no promise of tomorrow so we have to live today and let yesterday and tomorrow fall where they may. One thing I have realized is that being able to talk to new people has been the best therapy for me. I have practically had to abandon everybody that I knew before. Time to establish a new part of my life recognizing that the first part is as much a part of me as my foot. I would neither cut it off or forget about it because without it I would be an incomplete person. The sun will come up tomorrow whether we want it to or not so we will live. Thanks again.
That is a very difficult question to answer. Although it seems simple enough it really depends on a number of different factors. I am an electrical engineer and I understand facts very well but this situation is although factual it is very difficult to accept. I posted the following the other day that pretty much describe me most of the time:
"For me I've decided to put the memories, the love and everything about her in my mental lock box and I will choose to open that box and remember every detail of our life together and after I have cried and languished enough for that time I will close the box and live the life that I am required to live. I will always remember. I will always lover her and if anybody ever has a problem with that then first of all they have no concept of who I am and what I've been through and I don't want them in my life however those who are understanding and can live with me and my memories of her as a part of me are welcome. I will never let her go. This is who I am now."
It's lost for simple question but I have a tendency to be wordy.
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