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At 10:58am on June 28, 2016, melmac said…

Thank you for reaching out. There is no promise of tomorrow so we have to live today and let yesterday and tomorrow fall where they may. One thing I have realized is that being able to talk to new people has been the best therapy for me. I have practically had to abandon everybody that I knew before. Time to establish a new part of my life recognizing that the first part is as much a part of me as my foot. I would neither cut it off or forget about it because without it I would be an incomplete person. The sun will come up tomorrow whether we want it to or not so we will live. Thanks again.

At 10:03am on June 28, 2016, melmac said…

That is a very difficult question to answer. Although it seems simple enough it really depends on a number of different factors. I am an electrical engineer and I understand facts very well but this situation is although factual it is very difficult to accept. I posted the following the other day that pretty much describe me most of the time:

"For me I've decided to put the memories, the love and everything about her in my mental lock box and I will choose to open that box and remember every detail of our life together and after I have cried and languished enough for that time I will close the box and live the life that I am required to live. I will always remember. I will always lover her and if anybody ever has a problem with that then first of all they have no concept of who I am and what I've been through and I don't want them in my life however those who are understanding and can live with me and my memories of her as a part of me are welcome. I will never let her go. This is who I am now."

It's lost for simple question but I have a tendency to be wordy.

At 12:14pm on June 27, 2016, judy said…

Hi Rockon,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


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