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Rockon replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion "My friends keep telling me I should feel angry."
"God Bless You Frank! You bring tears to my eyes with your brutal honest/humble words. Thank you for lifting my spirit every time I read your posts. I was never angry at Richard for dying. He was good to me for over 32 years. I thank him and the Good…"
Dec 6, 2018
Rockon commented on MartyG (ver. 2.3)'s photo


"Absolutely Awesome Marty! JOY to YOU this Holiday Season with Many Blessings!"
Dec 2, 2018
Rockon commented on Don's photo

New York Kidney Walk 2018

"You are a good man Don with true devotion to Arlene. Keep up the good spirit! Very, very nice photos!"
Nov 18, 2018
Rockon commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post I came across this meme today on pintrest and thought it is worth sharing.
"Very well said. This is our reality now and forever. Thanks for sharing Misty!"
Oct 21, 2018
Rockon replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"Thank you for this Frank. I am 8.5 years out today. You have lifted my spirit and again given me Hope!  God Bless and Peace Be With You Debra "
Oct 18, 2018
Rockon commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post Melancholy Days
"Your words are indeed comforting Misty. Just to add a note from the American Rock Band "Journey". "Don't Stop Believin' Hold On to that Feelin' ""
Aug 18, 2018
Rockon replied to SweetMelissa2007's discussion Suicide or Sleep Deprivation ...
""Thank You" SweetMelissa2007 for posting this very educational and extremely important/valuable information. You are a "Godsend" to our community here in the village. Peace Be With You..."
Aug 11, 2018
Rockon replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"That is SO awesome Athena! What a treasure chest for Ron and yourself. I am so happy for you!"
Aug 6, 2018
Rockon commented on AuntT (Steph)'s photo


"You are a SWEET LADY Steph! (Especially in the Chat room) These beautiful children are Blessed to have you! Thank you for sharing this precious photo."
Aug 5, 2018
Rockon commented on DIVA70's photo


"To Cute!!! Thank you for sharing DIVA70 Peace Be With You"
Jul 29, 2018
Rockon commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post The Transmutation of a widow: emotional metamorphosis
"AWESOME Misty! Thank you for sharing this! The light at the end of the tunnel comes from Above! I am 8 years, 2 months and 20 days into my journey. My Richard was 24 years older than me. We were together over 30 years and married 14 years. He was 2…"
Jul 8, 2018

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At 10:58am on June 28, 2016, melmac said…

Thank you for reaching out. There is no promise of tomorrow so we have to live today and let yesterday and tomorrow fall where they may. One thing I have realized is that being able to talk to new people has been the best therapy for me. I have practically had to abandon everybody that I knew before. Time to establish a new part of my life recognizing that the first part is as much a part of me as my foot. I would neither cut it off or forget about it because without it I would be an incomplete person. The sun will come up tomorrow whether we want it to or not so we will live. Thanks again.

At 10:03am on June 28, 2016, melmac said…

That is a very difficult question to answer. Although it seems simple enough it really depends on a number of different factors. I am an electrical engineer and I understand facts very well but this situation is although factual it is very difficult to accept. I posted the following the other day that pretty much describe me most of the time:

"For me I've decided to put the memories, the love and everything about her in my mental lock box and I will choose to open that box and remember every detail of our life together and after I have cried and languished enough for that time I will close the box and live the life that I am required to live. I will always remember. I will always lover her and if anybody ever has a problem with that then first of all they have no concept of who I am and what I've been through and I don't want them in my life however those who are understanding and can live with me and my memories of her as a part of me are welcome. I will never let her go. This is who I am now."

It's lost for simple question but I have a tendency to be wordy.

At 12:14pm on June 27, 2016, judy said…

Hi Rockon,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you.  I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.


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