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Rosemary
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How Do I Begin Again? My City's in Ruins

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Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unmarried Widows & Widowers
"It's the finality of it that I find really hard to accept. That used to hit me a lot in the first few weeks and months, even the first year and a bit after David died. I'd suddenly realize, he really ISN'T coming back....EVER.…"
Aug 31, 2015
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unmarried Widows & Widowers
"Hi Brandy, I hear your pain. Hugs to you, but it sounds like the only hugs you want are from your Jan. Same with me.....I really only want hugs from David. You've asked a very interesting question about movies and tv shows. My answer is yes,…"
Aug 31, 2015
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unmarried Widows & Widowers
"Welcome Susanna. Sorry for your loss. It's good to hear you're getting on with life and moving forward, but I suppose it will never be the same for any of us. We "move forward" but it's almost like we've changed…"
May 2, 2015
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Hi Kathy, it's been two years for me too. So hard to believe. If someone told me it had been 1 year since he died, that would seem about right, but not two. I received word a few weeks ago that his ashes will be returned to me in the summer…"
Mar 28, 2015
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Oh Wakey, I am so sorry. That is heartbreaking. Everyone's story is, I guess. Your wound is so fresh too. I hope you find it helpful to be a part of the Widowed Village groups. Welcome seems an odd thing to say when being part of a widows'…"
Aug 27, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"That's a most unfortunate situation, Rose. For the past year I've been telling my partner's daughters not to throw out anything because they'll regret it. I am able to store some things for them at my place and I feel good about…"
Aug 2, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"I am so happy for you, Chargene, that you have a good relationship with his daughter. Of all the people in his family, his daughter has to be the most important, though I know the blocks that others put up can overshadow everything. It may take his…"
Apr 24, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Oh Chargene, I am so sorry. There are tears in my eyes. Why can't people put themselves in our shoes? Why are we suddenly shut out when we were such a central figure in our partner's lives? You were together for 8 years and the family…"
Apr 24, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Welcome! Sorry for your loss....yet another to cancer. Mine too....pancreatic. Not fair. Just marked the first year anniversary of my partner's death on Friday the 14th. That day wasn't so bad......I was busy getting ready for his daughter…"
Mar 23, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Thank you for your endorsement of my changing my name. I haven't shared that desire with many and never know how it will be received. I would be most concerned first of all with how his adult daughters would feel about the name change. I think…"
Mar 22, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Oh, just realized I assumed you were living with your partner, Princess57. I shouldn't have assumed. Sorry!"
Mar 22, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Ah yes, that's the other side of things: a committed common-law relationship. To me, that's no different than being married. Sorry for your loss. I love that you're going to change your name to his. I wasn't with my partner for…"
Mar 22, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Most unfortunate that you don't feel supported on this site.I would agree with you that losing a fiancé is different from losing a spouse. What differences do you see/feel? I know I feel there's a difference because I never got to…"
Mar 21, 2014
Rosemary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unwedded widows & widowers
"Sorry to hear about your troubles with your partner's family. Did you have a good relationship with them prior to your partner's death? Not sure why people do the things they do. I had only known my partner for 18 months before he died and…"
Mar 15, 2014
Mariposa left a comment for Rosemary
"Rosemary- yes, the comments from everyone have been helpful. I am so grateful for this place and everyone here. I know it takes time. Peace, comfort and healing to you. ~Mariposa"
Mar 15, 2014
Rosemary liked Mariposa's blog post Sorry, But the Allowable Time Period for Mourning Has Expired....
Feb 25, 2014

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At 5:38am on March 15, 2014, Mariposa said…

Rosemary- yes, the comments from everyone have been helpful. I am so grateful for this place and everyone here. I know it takes time. Peace, comfort and healing to you.

~Mariposa

At 7:09pm on August 12, 2013, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help. Below is a link that you might find helpful as a new member.

http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/need-help-using-the-site-ask-here

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Posted on February 23, 2014 at 4:56pm 2 Comments

I'm feeling frustrated at the moment because I was just finishing a response to Mariposa's post "Sorry, but the Allowable Time Period for Mourning has Expired..." when I accidentally clicked on the X to close the tab as I was going back to it after looking up the correct titles and authors of a couple of books about grief. AAAARGH!!!

I'll share the books here:

Tear Soup by Pat Schwiebert

I Can't Stop Crying: Grief and Recovery, a…

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Christmas Cards

Posted on December 4, 2013 at 4:39am 8 Comments

Part of my Christmas rituals each year include picking out just the right box of Christmas cards to send to friends and family. I have to be touched by the picture on them and the greeting inside. Nothing has touched me this year; they're all so happy and joyful, as they should be, but I'm  not feeling happy and joyful. In fact, even "Seasons' Greetings" sounds too cheery, so a few weeks ago I decided I would not send cards this year. But, I did decide to purchase individual cards for…

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Bed sheets make me sad

Posted on November 11, 2013 at 12:00pm 2 Comments

My partner and I didn't live together but he stayed at my place a lot last summer. When I bought my house 3 1/2 years ago I bought a twin bed for myself because I knew it would be cold sleeping alone in a bigger bed, bedding for bigger beds is more expensive, and, because I was leaving an unfulfilling relationship I wasn't at all interested in getting involved in another one, so the twin bed doubled as a statement about my status.

Then David came along. After a summer of…

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You're Missing

Posted on August 23, 2013 at 3:58pm 2 Comments

My partner believed life was about experiences. He believed it was important to have lots of different experiences and being an extrovert he was always wanting to go somewhere or do something. He made life so much fun for this introvert.

But now he's gone. I know he'd want me to continue to have experiences. If I felt like it, I could go out and do things....go to movies, go to plays and concerts, community events, travel....but it's not the same. Just doing those…

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