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Roxana
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  • Gloucestershire
  • United Kingdom
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So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Roxana Aug 25. 12 Replies

Hi everyone, I hope you are all well.Today is our 6th wedding anniversary and I am soo sad. Im sad all the time,but i find today to be the hardest day. My husband died unexpectedely in the night, his…Continue

Unbearable pain

Started this discussion. Last reply by Roxana Apr 3. 2 Replies

Hi everyone, i lost my husband on 28 th of january 2019. He was 52 and i am 35. He died in his sleep f a heart attack. We were not aware he is ill, it was totally unxpected, I found him dead in the…Continue

 

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Roxana replied to Lis's discussion Hello everyone in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Lisa, im so sorry to hear about your loss, it is a hurrendous pace to be and our ives will never be the same again. reach out to us and read various topics so you can get some form of  comfort from people that understand exactly what you…"
Wednesday
Roxana replied to Lis's discussion Hello everyone in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Lis, I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband in January of this year suddenly and unexpectedly, his heart just stopped in his sleep. I am 36 and we recently moved in a new part of the country, so no family or friends. You can…"
Tuesday
Roxana replied to Justme's discussion the 3 month wall in the group Widowed in 2019
"Oh, sweetheart, I feel you. The pain is truly unbearable at times. We need to go with the flow and live the pain, live through this agonising new life until we can make sense of everything. This will take months and years, but somehow we will have…"
Oct 25
Roxana replied to AtSam(Steve)'s discussion I sit alone in the group Widowed in 2019
"It is going to be like this for a while, Sam. Our lives are forever changed in the most horrific of ways. But I believe they can hear us and they are mentally with us. Hang on in there. We are only separated for a while. "
Oct 24
Roxana replied to AtSam(Steve)'s discussion I sit alone in the group Widowed in 2019
"It hurts, friend. It truly is a living hell, yet we must carry on somehow with the firm belief that in the near or far future we will go too, and meet them again. This is not the end of the story, dont forget that. You will see her again. I dont…"
Oct 23
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"With all due respect, our faith is NOT always tested to the maximum.  You do t know what you say and are very hurtful when you say that someone being 35 has decades to live. I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE DECADES WITHOUT MY HUSBAND! I am FORCED in a…"
Oct 13
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"Dear Laura, that is very true. But this is faith tested to the max. I wouldnt wish it on anyone at such an early age. Its just not right to be a widow at 35, no matter what we say. 70-80 one would expect it, but not 35. "
Oct 8
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"Hi there, No, I dont think this thread should be closed, since in no way encourages or facilitates suicide. It is just a place for us, widowed people to vent and speak about all sorts of thoughts, including the one of suicide."
Oct 8
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"I too go through many times when I think about suicide, but being a christian, I ti just is not an option. How I wish It would be... How I wih I could just go to bed and never wake up. I feel trapped in hell,in an impossible situation. "
Oct 8
Roxana replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Sweetheart, YOU are the one that should organise this, not them. I dont know how it is in there, but in the UK the spouse has the legal right over the body  to do the funeral etc. My parents in law cut me off completelly from their life after…"
Oct 8
Roxana commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Dear Too you g to be this old, I so recognise myself in your words. I am only 35, and both the idea of a life of loneliness and the idea of having yo find another man sicken me, when all I want is my husband. Just as you, I have been blessed to be…"
Sep 22
Roxana replied to TeresaNY's discussion So Many Unanswered Questions in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear Teresa, i am so sorry that you are going through this. My husband also died during the night, his heart just stopped.And as you, I kick myself for not making the connection between his breathlessness, dizziness, lack of energy , with his…"
Sep 21
Roxana replied to Jules's discussion This is so hard in the group Suddenly Widowed
"It happened the same way with my husband. He went to sleep on the sofa so he doesnt wake me up and in the morning I found him dead. He was dead for around 6 hours. Two nights before we were laying in  bed and his heart was heating so hard and…"
Sep 18
Roxana replied to Kris63's discussion Wedding rings in the group Widowed in 2018
"I still wear the ring, why wouldnt I? Im still very much married. Just because Mark went to heaven doesnt mean he is not still my husband. Death cant stop love. Yes, he is there and Im here, but Im still me of seven months ago, Mark’ s…"
Sep 4
Roxana replied to Roxana's discussion So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.
"Sweet Melissa, thank you. The problem is I have ME and im pretty much stuck at home , so I cant do most things. Im glad you managed to find some dort of balance in  your life. How I wish we wouldnt be here and this would be just a bad…"
Aug 25
Melissa replied to Roxana's discussion So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.
"Dear Roxana, This comment struck me in particular, because I was so recently talking with a friend about the sense of not wanting things to get better because that meant change, meant moving on somehow. But we don't move on, we don't let…"
Aug 25

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At 12:59pm on August 24, 2019, KayeL said…

Hi Roxana, read your message re my comment in the "born in 70" group.

You were absolutely right. Neither myself went through the drama of dating when I was young. I thought I was so lucky that my heart was intact, freed from breaking-ups and betrayals until sickness took my husband away. For me, not only I am afraid of dealing with the fear of back-in-the-market-and-might-encounter-drama, I think my biggest fear is the horror of being a spinster for the rest of my life. Not that I crave for relationship but I can't deny the worry of being single and alone. Being a mom and an introvert obviously do not help. I guess if I were not left with a kid I'd be more adventurous with meeting men. In my case... like I said, the wager of risks of being happy v.s. getting hurt, the later one is what I concern the most. Any bad relationship would not help myself to heal nor would help my son at all. Life dilemma. I am still trying to reorient myself because I am still very loss about life. Hope you're doing ok today over in the U.K, 

At 7:37am on August 16, 2019, JeffS said…

Thank you Roxana.  As with all of us, I have good days and bad days.

At 5:25am on May 5, 2019, Telynn said…

Thank you and I am sorry for your loss.  I just am trying to take one day at a time.  I feel like everything is so unreal.

At 1:12am on March 8, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Roxana. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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