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Roxana
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  • Gloucestershire
  • United Kingdom
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So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Roxana Aug 25, 2019. 12 Replies

Hi everyone, I hope you are all well.Today is our 6th wedding anniversary and I am soo sad. Im sad all the time,but i find today to be the hardest day. My husband died unexpectedely in the night, his…Continue

Unbearable pain

Started this discussion. Last reply by Roxana Apr 3, 2019. 2 Replies

Hi everyone, i lost my husband on 28 th of january 2019. He was 52 and i am 35. He died in his sleep f a heart attack. We were not aware he is ill, it was totally unxpected, I found him dead in the…Continue

 

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Roxana replied to Mel K's discussion Feeling lowest of lows in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear Mel, i am so sorry for the horrible situation you are in. i too sufer with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome and feel very ill every day.  I lost my husband suddently last january, his heart stopped beating. Im 36 and after he…"
Jul 22
Roxana replied to CvilleSarah's discussion Not all here in the group Widowed in 2019
"Not weird at all. I also feel i dont belong here any longer and i really want to he by my husbands side. So yes, we are kind of split. Our spirit/soul is up there, our body still here..."
Jun 20
Roxana commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Debra, I also had a “ friend” telling me that she has a friend whose boyfriend decided to split with her, and that her situation is much worse than mine... She said other stupid things also so I cut her off completely. "
Jan 13
Roxana commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Deedee, I did cut off my life a few people due to their plain stupid comments. I also avoid people or change the subject if i have to face them and they say hurtful things. They have no idea what they are speaking about. Most if them are trying…"
Jan 12
Roxana commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Thank you, Deedee. I do struggle. My birthday was in the 19, now Christmas, then New Years Night, then on 28 January 1 year death anniversary. Love and hugs, Roxi"
Dec 24, 2019
Roxana replied to Lis's discussion Hello everyone in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Lisa, im so sorry to hear about your loss, it is a hurrendous pace to be and our ives will never be the same again. reach out to us and read various topics so you can get some form of  comfort from people that understand exactly what you…"
Dec 11, 2019
Roxana replied to Lis's discussion Hello everyone in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Lis, I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband in January of this year suddenly and unexpectedly, his heart just stopped in his sleep. I am 36 and we recently moved in a new part of the country, so no family or friends. You can…"
Dec 9, 2019
Roxana replied to Justme's discussion the 3 month wall in the group Widowed in 2019
"Oh, sweetheart, I feel you. The pain is truly unbearable at times. We need to go with the flow and live the pain, live through this agonising new life until we can make sense of everything. This will take months and years, but somehow we will have…"
Oct 25, 2019
Roxana replied to AtSam(Steve)'s discussion I sit alone in the group Widowed in 2019
"It is going to be like this for a while, Sam. Our lives are forever changed in the most horrific of ways. But I believe they can hear us and they are mentally with us. Hang on in there. We are only separated for a while. "
Oct 24, 2019
Roxana replied to AtSam(Steve)'s discussion I sit alone in the group Widowed in 2019
"It hurts, friend. It truly is a living hell, yet we must carry on somehow with the firm belief that in the near or far future we will go too, and meet them again. This is not the end of the story, dont forget that. You will see her again. I dont…"
Oct 23, 2019
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"With all due respect, our faith is NOT always tested to the maximum.  You do t know what you say and are very hurtful when you say that someone being 35 has decades to live. I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE DECADES WITHOUT MY HUSBAND! I am FORCED in a…"
Oct 13, 2019
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"Dear Laura, that is very true. But this is faith tested to the max. I wouldnt wish it on anyone at such an early age. Its just not right to be a widow at 35, no matter what we say. 70-80 one would expect it, but not 35. "
Oct 8, 2019
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"Hi there, No, I dont think this thread should be closed, since in no way encourages or facilitates suicide. It is just a place for us, widowed people to vent and speak about all sorts of thoughts, including the one of suicide."
Oct 8, 2019
Roxana replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"I too go through many times when I think about suicide, but being a christian, I ti just is not an option. How I wish It would be... How I wih I could just go to bed and never wake up. I feel trapped in hell,in an impossible situation. "
Oct 8, 2019
Roxana replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Sweetheart, YOU are the one that should organise this, not them. I dont know how it is in there, but in the UK the spouse has the legal right over the body  to do the funeral etc. My parents in law cut me off completelly from their life after…"
Oct 8, 2019
Roxana commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Dear Too you g to be this old, I so recognise myself in your words. I am only 35, and both the idea of a life of loneliness and the idea of having yo find another man sicken me, when all I want is my husband. Just as you, I have been blessed to be…"
Sep 22, 2019

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At 12:59pm on August 24, 2019, KayeL said…

Hi Roxana, read your message re my comment in the "born in 70" group.

You were absolutely right. Neither myself went through the drama of dating when I was young. I thought I was so lucky that my heart was intact, freed from breaking-ups and betrayals until sickness took my husband away. For me, not only I am afraid of dealing with the fear of back-in-the-market-and-might-encounter-drama, I think my biggest fear is the horror of being a spinster for the rest of my life. Not that I crave for relationship but I can't deny the worry of being single and alone. Being a mom and an introvert obviously do not help. I guess if I were not left with a kid I'd be more adventurous with meeting men. In my case... like I said, the wager of risks of being happy v.s. getting hurt, the later one is what I concern the most. Any bad relationship would not help myself to heal nor would help my son at all. Life dilemma. I am still trying to reorient myself because I am still very loss about life. Hope you're doing ok today over in the U.K, 

At 7:37am on August 16, 2019, JeffS said…

Thank you Roxana.  As with all of us, I have good days and bad days.

At 5:25am on May 5, 2019, Telynn said…

Thank you and I am sorry for your loss.  I just am trying to take one day at a time.  I feel like everything is so unreal.

At 1:12am on March 8, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Roxana. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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