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Roxana
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  • Gloucestershire
  • United Kingdom
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So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.

Started this discussion. Last reply by lexy 21 hours ago. 9 Replies

Hi everyone, I hope you are all well.Today is our 6th wedding anniversary and I am soo sad. Im sad all the time,but i find today to be the hardest day. My husband died unexpectedely in the night, his…Continue

Unbearable pain

Started this discussion. Last reply by Roxana Apr 3. 2 Replies

Hi everyone, i lost my husband on 28 th of january 2019. He was 52 and i am 35. He died in his sleep f a heart attack. We were not aware he is ill, it was totally unxpected, I found him dead in the…Continue

 

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KayeL left a comment for Roxana
"Hi Roxana, read your message re my comment in the "born in 70" group. You were absolutely right. Neither myself went through the drama of dating when I was young. I thought I was so lucky that my heart was intact, freed from breaking-ups…"
19 hours ago
lexy replied to Roxana's discussion So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.
"It  is well  with  your  soul.  Be comforted.  we  are  feel  the  same  way most  of  the  times. the  truth remains  that when  someone  we  love…"
21 hours ago
Roxana commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Dear Kaye, What you say resonates with me so much. Its so ironic, me and my husband spoke many times about how fortunate we are to have found one another and not having to be in the horrible dating scene, given how many awful deceiving people are…"
21 hours ago
Roxana replied to KJPE's discussion He deserved so much more love in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear KJPE, i feel exactly the same, i feel like i should have taken him out more, doing mire things with him, not nagging him, etc, all in all making him happy and happier. He was the most beautiful soul i ever met and he deserved to be happy and i…"
Aug 17
JeffS left a comment for Roxana
"Thank you Roxana.  As with all of us, I have good days and bad days."
Aug 16
Roxana replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"I can guarantee our husbands forgave us.  My husband always found excuses for someones bad behaviour. And we need to remember they suffer no more, the past is gone, including our bitchines. But we need to learn our lesson and try to be less…"
Aug 13
Roxana replied to Snagglefoot's discussion Guilt, Shame and Pain in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi, friend I understand your pain and the millions of questions running through your head. My husbands heart stopped in the night, i went to the toilet and i walked past him laying dead on the sofa, used the toilet than ran past him again and went…"
Aug 12
Roxana replied to DebiT's discussion Regrets about what I didn’t realize in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear Debi, I feel exac the same.my husband of 52 years of age went to bed and never woke up. We had no idea he is ill.The autopsy said his heart was at the end if life: previous heart attach, atherosclerosis, enlarged heart. So he died of systemic…"
Aug 5
Roxana replied to kk24's discussion New to the Group in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi KK24, im very sorry for your loss. There is no one answer to your question, this will be a long process/ journey that we will have to take and” lear” and try to adapt as we go along.  i lost my husband on the 28.01.2019 and my…"
Aug 2
Roxana replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"Thank  you, Melissa. It does help. I hope you are ok.Hugs."
Jul 25
Roxana replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"Dear vintage 56, thank you for your kind words. Yes, he loved me very much, but that does not justify my behaviour. That man deserved to be happy and i didnt do my job properly as a wife. He was the kindest, generous, self sacrificial soul , the…"
Jul 19
Roxana replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"Yes, that sounds exactly like what I feel. Somehow we need to forgive ourselves, we can rest assured that our husbands forgave us already. Hugs."
Jul 19
Roxana replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"I have so many regrets: being selfish,proud,arrogant, not trusting him enough,speaking too much,throwing my anger on him,judging him and criticising him rather then supporting him and encouraging him. I have been a horrible wife, no wonder God took…"
Jul 19
Roxana replied to Roxana's discussion So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.
"Dear J, thank you for the advice, im glad you are feeling better. Hopefully I will reach that point too. You are right, this forum is so helpful, many kind people in here. take care and thank you again"
Jul 5
J in Florida replied to Roxana's discussion So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.
"We just had what would have been our 8th wedding anniversary, but on one awful night SJ was taken from us. It's been over 1 year, which still feels like yesterday, but I had a good day looking at our pictures and remembering the awesome times…"
Jul 2
Roxana replied to Roxana's discussion So sad, longing to be with my husband, and wedding anniversary.
"   Dear Timelord, I am still in the phase where I dont want things to get better, because I equate that with letting go of Mark and our marriage,forgetting about him,"moving on", being disloyal. I dont want Mark to become just…"
Jul 1

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At 12:59pm on August 24, 2019, KayeL said…

Hi Roxana, read your message re my comment in the "born in 70" group.

You were absolutely right. Neither myself went through the drama of dating when I was young. I thought I was so lucky that my heart was intact, freed from breaking-ups and betrayals until sickness took my husband away. For me, not only I am afraid of dealing with the fear of back-in-the-market-and-might-encounter-drama, I think my biggest fear is the horror of being a spinster for the rest of my life. Not that I crave for relationship but I can't deny the worry of being single and alone. Being a mom and an introvert obviously do not help. I guess if I were not left with a kid I'd be more adventurous with meeting men. In my case... like I said, the wager of risks of being happy v.s. getting hurt, the later one is what I concern the most. Any bad relationship would not help myself to heal nor would help my son at all. Life dilemma. I am still trying to reorient myself because I am still very loss about life. Hope you're doing ok today over in the U.K, 

At 7:37am on August 16, 2019, JeffS said…

Thank you Roxana.  As with all of us, I have good days and bad days.

At 5:25am on May 5, 2019, Telynn said…

Thank you and I am sorry for your loss.  I just am trying to take one day at a time.  I feel like everything is so unreal.

At 1:12am on March 8, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Roxana. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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