Hi everyone, I hope you are all well.Today is our 6th wedding anniversary and I am soo sad. Im sad all the time,but i find today to be the hardest day. My husband died unexpectedely in the night, his…Continue
Hi everyone, i lost my husband on 28 th of january 2019. He was 52 and i am 35. He died in his sleep f a heart attack. We were not aware he is ill, it was totally unxpected, I found him dead in the…Continue
"Hi Roxana, read your message re my comment in the "born in 70" group.
You were absolutely right. Neither myself went through the drama of dating when I was young. I thought I was so lucky that my heart was intact, freed from breaking-ups…"
What you say resonates with me so much.
Its so ironic, me and my husband spoke many times about how fortunate we are to have found one another and not having to be in the horrible dating scene, given how many awful deceiving people are…"
i feel exactly the same, i feel like i should have taken him out more, doing mire things with him, not nagging him, etc, all in all making him happy and happier. He was the most beautiful soul i ever met and he deserved to be happy and i…"
"I can guarantee our husbands forgave us. My husband always found excuses for someones bad behaviour. And we need to remember they suffer no more, the past is gone, including our bitchines. But we need to learn our lesson and try to be less…"
I understand your pain and the millions of questions running through your head. My husbands heart stopped in the night, i went to the toilet and i walked past him laying dead on the sofa, used the toilet than ran past him again and went…"
"Dear Debi, I feel exac the same.my husband of 52 years of age went to bed and never woke up. We had no idea he is ill.The autopsy said his heart was at the end if life: previous heart attach, atherosclerosis, enlarged heart. So he died of systemic…"
im very sorry for your loss.
There is no one answer to your question, this will be a long process/ journey that we will have to take and” lear” and try to adapt as we go along.
i lost my husband on the 28.01.2019 and my…"
"Dear vintage 56,
thank you for your kind words. Yes, he loved me very much, but that does not justify my behaviour. That man deserved to be happy and i didnt do my job properly as a wife. He was the kindest, generous, self sacrificial soul , the…"
"I have so many regrets: being selfish,proud,arrogant, not trusting him enough,speaking too much,throwing my anger on him,judging him and criticising him rather then supporting him and encouraging him. I have been a horrible wife, no wonder God took…"
thank you for the advice, im glad you are feeling better. Hopefully I will reach that point too.
You are right, this forum is so helpful, many kind people in here.
take care and thank you again"
"We just had what would have been our 8th wedding anniversary, but on one awful night SJ was taken from us. It's been over 1 year, which still feels like yesterday, but I had a good day looking at our pictures and remembering the awesome times…"
I am still in the phase where I dont want things to get better, because I equate that with letting go of Mark and our marriage,forgetting about him,"moving on", being disloyal. I dont want Mark to become just…"
Hi Roxana, read your message re my comment in the "born in 70" group.
You were absolutely right. Neither myself went through the drama of dating when I was young. I thought I was so lucky that my heart was intact, freed from breaking-ups and betrayals until sickness took my husband away. For me, not only I am afraid of dealing with the fear of back-in-the-market-and-might-encounter-drama, I think my biggest fear is the horror of being a spinster for the rest of my life. Not that I crave for relationship but I can't deny the worry of being single and alone. Being a mom and an introvert obviously do not help. I guess if I were not left with a kid I'd be more adventurous with meeting men. In my case... like I said, the wager of risks of being happy v.s. getting hurt, the later one is what I concern the most. Any bad relationship would not help myself to heal nor would help my son at all. Life dilemma. I am still trying to reorient myself because I am still very loss about life. Hope you're doing ok today over in the U.K,
Welcome to Widville, Roxana. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.