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How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Cindy Jun 8. 9 Replies

It's been 2 month since my husband passed away.1st month, I was numb. I cried a lot every day but was trying to be active, to go out as much....2nd month, I was more in pains and more sad... I am…Continue

 

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Cindy replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"Grief is a process. It will be a year in July since my husband passed away and there are days that I wake up crying. I too thought of going to see a psychiatrist but I remember seeing my family Dr. the month after he died and she wanted to put me on…"
Jun 8
SweetMelissa2007 replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"At this point, it sounds like what you are experiencing is normal & common ... Convalescing, as you are doing, is the best you can do for yourself ... This is an emotional Rollercoaster that does rip a person raw, however, grief does change.…"
May 26
SFbay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi jlsrdh & lulu74, Thank you so much for your comments... I am so sorry that we all are here and we have to struggle a lot every single day. I know we will never forget about our loves, we will never get over the loss, we still need to live…"
May 25
Frank replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"Hi SFbay, Susan, wife of 35 years, went to sleep one Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning.  My life exploded, my right arm was gone in an instant, my best friend and confidant was gone in a flash.  My whole life imploded in an…"
May 24
SFbay replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me... Everyone is such a kind person... spending your time to write me such warm comments. I really appreciate you all. Thank you As some of you suggest, probably what I need as of now is a grief…"
May 23
barbee replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"Maybe you do not need to see a psychiatrist, but a different kind of counselor. Maybe a pastor or someone who is experienced in grief work. If there is a hospice at a local hospital, you might be able to hook up with a group there. Some churches…"
May 23
chef (John) replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"So sorry you had to join us. You are in the early stages of grief and still going through the wringer. You may be feeling a range of emotions--possibly even conflicting emotions (like laughing and crying) at the same time. A few minutes later, you…"
May 23
Lisa_says replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"I'm sorry for your loss.  I am feeling the same way and it has been 5 months since my husband passed.  I work from home .  I do see a grief counselor and honestly it hasn't made much difference.  I think with time we…"
May 23
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How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?

It's been 2 month since my husband passed away.1st month, I was numb. I cried a lot every day but was trying to be active, to go out as much....2nd month, I was more in pains and more sad... I am experiencing the racing hearts and have more headache + sleeping problems.I am pretty sure everyone who joined WV was very depressed at certain time period and I am, too.But how can I tell when I should go see a psychiatrist? Since I am off from my work this month, I rarely go out but stay at home as…See More
May 22
SFbay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Pualili221 I am sorry for losing your love, too...  Oh... you work in Los Gatos? me in San Jose.... very close.... When the death-day of a month approaches, I become more unstable and lots of breakdowns happen... Since last Sunday, I had a…"
May 22
SFbay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Hi I am from San Francisco Bay Area - Southbay... & work at San Jose. Anyone around Peninsula - South Bay? Probably I am being very selfish but am angry with my friends/co-workers who kept asking me "how was your weekend?" "what…"
May 19
SFbay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"It's been 8 weeks since he was gone... I never imagined the separation takes place this early.  Of course, I know one of us will leave the other sometime in our life but I thought we will be together for another 40 yrs or so. I feel my…"
May 19
SFbay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Roxana, Thank you for your comment... you are even younger and everything must be so hard for you.... I really wish we have a control over our life span and are able to give some to whoever we want... I wish I could give the exact 50% of my life…"
May 17
SFbay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Thank you, Clare, ID8 and brokenhearted for your comments... We've all lost a part of our body, which will never be back and we have no choice but to learn live without it... But what if we fail to learn, then what will happen? If there is a…"
May 17
SFbay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I still don't know Why he had to die so young... Everything happened so fast (a month of a battle) and suddenly lost my present and future... I am still in my early 40s and it doesn't seem like I will die anytime soon. Have no idea how to…"
May 16
SFbay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"I was born in 1977 and he was in 1976... I really wish when I wake up tomorrow morning, I am 70 years old/ 80 years old.... I am 41 and what if I live another 40-50 years... I am scared...."
May 16

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At 8:59pm on May 22, 2019, laurajay said…

SFBay. it's ok  to be  angry....about  the  support  group meetings-  remember  YOU  are in charge of  you  and if  you force  yourself  to get out  and  just go/get  there...you  have  the  power  to turn  right around at any  time  and go  back  home!  Go!  stay 5 minutes  or  however long  YIU  feel  comfortable...if  you are  not ready  you own  no one  an  explanation  you can  just  leave!  Shortly  after  my  husband  died  unexpectedly   we had a death  of  a great  uncle- a man  who always  attended  familty functions of  all sorts-  no to  do-  he just  was  there foreverybody.  Well,  no way I could  have attended  a funeral but  I decided  I eould  mske  a short  visit  to the funeral  home  to pay  respects-  this  man  was  thoughtful to  us  for years.  I made  a plan  to go, sign  the  visitors  list,  greet  his  two  grown  daughters,  pray  at  the  casket,  then  quietly  slip  out  without  having  the  stress  of  other  family  members to  talk  to.  That's  what  I did. And  I was  glad  I forced  myself  because  I needed  to return  his thoughtfulness.  I never  could  have  done  this  if  I had  not  realized  I could  go and  leave  as  I needed  to-   the same  for  your  support  group meetings.   Get  yourself  a plan  just  to go for  a few  minutes  or  even  just  drive  there  even  if  you go back  home-  people  there  understand. It's  a  way  to  get out  for  a  bit. Next  time  will be  easier....just  give it  a  try.    BTW   anger  is  OK with  grief!  it  will  lessen  down  the  road.  hugs   lj

At 6:53pm on April 30, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

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